? After saying good night to 218, I was fooled in my heart. Hey, I am one year older.
? Lots of thoughts ...
? Nichinohara Chongming, a famous Japanese doctor and writer who lived to be 15 years old, was asked, "What is life in your opinion?" At that time, he said: "life exists in the time we can control."
? I'm thinking-what time can we spend? In fact, a new year, a month, even a day, is an advance from God, that is to say, a loan! The time we can control is only the present, in other words, the value of life exists in every "present". I am glad to have this feeling, and at the same time I am awed. The joy is that I seem to be able to grasp the existence of life, because I live in the "present"; I'm afraid I won't live up to this existence, will I Because every "moment" is short-lived, such as a fleeting moment, I want to make every moment meaningful and valuable!
? Then make plans for the year 219 that you advance. God is so generous, how can you not cherish it? I hope that every moment that is about to begin will not be missed in vain. I am grateful for this, and I am still honored.
? So-can I do that? What should I do? How?
? I am in front of me: my white hair is increasing day by day, I forget things instantly, my footsteps are slowing down unintentionally, and I am a little afraid of drifting away from the modern scientific and technological society. All this shows the truth of aging without any cover. I call myself "old lady" more and more, although every time my little granddaughter can't wait to say, "Grandma is not old, grandma is not an old lady!" Baby doesn't want her grandmother to get old, but, son, this is a fact that must be faced.
? Strong in appearance, I have to admit that in the face of aging, my heart is afraid, and I am fighting, otherwise my heart will be bitten.
? The truth seems to be understood, but do you really understand it? Must talk to this "old lady"! "Thank you for being late" wrote: "There is nothing to be afraid of in life, all you need to do is understand it."
? Aging is a time process of life, a natural change. It is the eternal pursuit of human beings to delay aging. Emperors of past dynasties refined the elixir of immortality. Wu Zetian once said that she would like to exchange half of the country for ten years of youth. Modern science has also been devoted to the study of delaying aging. However, physiological aging is objective, and it is only the difference between morning and evening and speed for each individual. In this case, there is no need to escape, no need to stare at it, and it is the best choice to be relieved. Of course, it's not blind
? What you need to ask yourself is, why do some people get old before they get old, while others get old? Why are you afraid? What needs to be understood is, what is aging?
? Nichinohara Chongming is my role model. He worked all his life and loved music as a hobby. In his 9s, he composed a song "Song of Love". At the age of 12, he held "Nichinohara Re-Ming Production-Pei Zaiche Concert" with Korean singer Pei Zaiche, and toured in Japan, and the audience was deeply moved. In the year before his death, he also tried freckle treatment. He said: "Paying attention to my appearance makes me feel more active, proactive and willing to associate with people. It is really important to look young, but I look young, mainly because I always want to live a brand-new self. " Obviously, there are two aspects of aging: physical and psychological. Psychological aging is extremely lethal and will accelerate physical aging. This must be very clear.
? I was fortunate to learn about an experiment conducted by psychologist Allen Langer, a psychology professor at Harvard University, in 1979. The experiment was made into a movie "Inverted Clock" by Hollywood.
? In an old monastery in Pittsburgh, USA, a "time capsule" was built, which was exactly the same as it was 2 years ago. Sixteen elderly people in their seventies and eighties were invited to participate in the one-week experiment. Immersed in the environment of 1959, they listened to the music of the 195s, watched movies, read newspapers and magazines of that era, discussed Castro's military actions in Cuba, and talked about the first launch of an artificial satellite by the United States. They are asked to live a more active life, such as setting the table and tidying up the dishes together. No one helped them get dressed or walk.
? The difference is that 16 elderly people were divided into two groups: experimental group and control group. The words and deeds of the experimental group must follow the present tense-try to live in 1959, that is, live 2 years younger, while the control group uses the past tense-and talk about and recall what happened in 1959 in a nostalgic way.
? The experimental results show that the physical fitness of the 16 elderly people has been obviously improved, their eyesight, hearing and memory have been obviously improved, their blood pressure has been reduced, their average weight has increased by 3 pounds, and their gait, physical strength and grip strength have also been obviously improved.
? The difference is that the elderly in the experimental group made more amazing progress, with more flexible joints, more agile hands and feet, and scored higher in intelligence tests. Some elderly people even played football. Outsiders were invited to look at their photos before and after the experiment, and could hardly believe their eyes. Over the years, doubts about this experiment have never stopped. Professor Langer can hardly explain what kind of interaction happened between the brains and bodies of these old people during that week. The only thing that is certain is that these old people psychologically believe that they are 2 years younger, so their bodies have made corresponding cooperation. In order to maintain the sense of time, the elderly in the experimental group must pay more "concentration", that is, "live in the present" more consciously, so their improvement is more obvious. This experiment at least proves that aging is not irreversible.
? Professor Langer believes that "aging is an indoctrinated concept." She said: "The weakness, helplessness and illness of the elderly are often a learned helplessness, not an inevitable physiological process." Evidence from brain neuroscience shows that the brain activity of more than half of the elderly people is no different from that of young people in their twenties. They are not inferior to young people in short-term memory, abstract reasoning ability and information processing speed. Professor Langer believes that the reason for inhibiting the true potential of the elderly is that we are in a society that worships youth and hates old age. At the same time, the mindset that there is an inevitable connection between aging and weakening ability is extremely lethal. When you find that your memory is poor, the most ready-made explanation is that you are old and don't look for other possibilities, such as whether you lack positive motivation and corresponding benign stimulation. Because young people are working, memory is a need, while old people who no longer work have no such motivation, and they have no conscious exercise, so their abilities in all aspects are weakened.
? Professor Langer used the word "concentration" here, which is a core concept of her academic thought. She came to a conclusion through experiments that many of our daily behaviors are made in an "automatic" state. Therefore, we need to stop from time to time, think about what we are doing and see how we react in the situation at that time. Why is this happening? Is there any other choice? This is called "concentration". In fact, it is a very simple practice-pay attention to new things, actively look for differences and find new possibilities. "Concentration" is also a critical way of thinking, but it does not mean simple negation, but doubts and questions, regaining one's mind from tradition, authority, prejudice, convention and convention, and asking one question about the creed imposed on oneself, "Really?" "Why?" "What if?" Professor Langer said: "If you are a person who knows concentration, age is never a problem. Whether you are 2, 3, or 6, you are experiencing the present, and you join the experience of life in your own time. This is an art of living. "
? Professor Langer's experiment and analysis made my heart suddenly enlightened, and I saw that I was trapped in a trap of thinking mode by myself. I thought I was old, so I was really old. Thinking in the beginning of 219, learning and thinking about aging will save me from fear. I will learn to use "concentration" to make every "present" full of vitality.
there is spring in my heart and flowers everywhere.
? January 4, 219