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reading abstract: the weakness of human nature explains to us how to communicate with others effectively in the right way, how to correctly handle interpersonal relationships, how to deal with people's life skills, how to enhance your influence and how to influence others. At the same time, relieve your anxiety when you encounter interpersonal problems, break the mindset, make success traceable, and witness the magic of appreciation, smile, sincerity and respect together.

golden sentence sharing:

1. Criticism is useless, it arouses conflict and makes people anxious to defend themselves; Criticism is dangerous, it hurts self-esteem and even makes people hate.

2. If others admit that they have many shortcomings before criticizing you, the words of criticism will be less harsh.

3. Adults are most interested in health issues, followed by people-related issues, including how to treat people, how to understand others, how to please others and how to make others agree with their views.

4. If you are determined to be eloquent, please learn to listen attentively first. Be an interesting person and be interested in others. Ask questions that the other person is willing to answer and encourage them to talk about their experiences.

5. Have you ever thought about teaching or changing others? I fully support you. But why not start with yourself? Selfishly speaking, changing yourself is far more beneficial and less risky than changing others. 6. When dealing with people, please keep this in mind-people are not rational creatures. They are driven by emotion and dominated by prejudice. Arrogance and vanity are the source of their motivation.

7. Pay attention to others from the bottom of your heart. Within two months, you will make many friends. You just want to win the attention of others, but you won't make friends even for two years.

8. Parents' attention and recognition are what children crave most, but they are always ignored by us.

9. The truth is naked. Everyone thinks that he is better than you in some way. The way to get into their hearts is to let the other person know quietly that you really think they are important.

1. No matter how close friends are, they are more willing to talk about their achievements in front of us than to listen to our boasting.

11. If you want to be loved by others, if you are eager for true friendship, and if you want to help yourself, please remember the following principles when helping others: build interest in others and pay sincere attention to others.

I have a wide range of friends, and I know celebrities all over the world. I found that no matter how successful the other person is, he will work harder when he is praised, but the opposite is true when he is criticized.

Only by constantly reviewing and applying can we turn theory into habit.

12. Only 15% of a person's success depends on professional ability, and the other 85% depends on "ergonomics", that is, personality characteristics and leadership ability.

people fail not because they don't have faith, but because they can't turn faith into action and stick to it.

Thinking questions:

Summary and reflection after reading The Weaknesses of Human Nature:

Only by being good at finding the weaknesses of human nature, carefully appreciating the weaknesses of human nature, making good use of the weaknesses of human nature and correctly handling interpersonal relationships can you make your life more exciting.

After reading the book "The Weakness of Human Nature", I feel very deeply. He taught us how to deal with interpersonal relationships correctly and told us that dealing with interpersonal relationships also requires principles and methods. These principles and methodology summarized by Carnegie are simple and simple. No matter in today's Internet age or in the early 2th century, these rules are equally applicable in the workplace, in life and in our interpersonal communication. We live in this faster-paced society, in this era of being swallowed up by massive information, in this era of bowing our heads to play WeChat while walking, taking photos while eating, and posting in Weibo, and the way of listening attentively, being sincere and grateful, and loving ourselves and others conscientiously will have higher value.

? Carnegie repeatedly stressed in his works that he is not teaching people to be opportunistic, but advocating a positive attitude towards life. His works are not condescending life truths, unfathomable dogmatic theories, magnificent chicken soup for the soul, but down-to-earth action guides. Every word and sentence is what he thinks in interpersonal communication. These experiences are not derived from his personal special cases, but from his refining and summing up of these life experiences, Huawei's effective way of dealing with people and his understanding of human nature, which makes him know that readers need immediate efficacy and practical behavior guidance.

This book has brought me some important gains:

First, let me know the basic skills of dealing with interpersonal relationships correctly.

when work is not going well, when family chores are complicated and stressful. Sometimes there will be some complaints, some nagging and even accusations to the people closest to you. I was so happy that I didn't care about each other's feelings at all. Think about this kind of behavior is very undesirable. This week, I read the weakness of human nature and read these basic principles that Carnegie taught us to correctly handle interpersonal relationships: don't criticize, don't blame, don't complain, thank others sincerely and praise others. Stimulate the needs of others. I immediately applied them to my work and life and deeply reflected on myself. Change this bad attitude when you encounter problems. We should fully consider the problem from the other side's point of view and communicate effectively with others. Put yourself in others' shoes, praise others and be grateful to others.

second point: I learned seven rules of a happy family life.

It takes skill to handle the interpersonal relationship between family members easily and make family relationships harmonious, happy, warm and happy. In the book, Carnegie tells the seven rules of a happy family life, which are very applicable. In marriage, we should respect each other more. Appreciate each other sincerely. When there is a problem, we should solve it together and put an end to nagging and complaining. Give each other some space and don't try to change each other. In the following days, I will learn these skills well.

the third point: how to change others and become a leader.

If you want to be an excellent leader and make others willing to do things for you, you also need to practice hard. Carnegie through several classic cases. Explain to us how to apply these principles to various scenarios, and the analysis is very detailed. The church taught me what to do when these problems arise. If you want to suppress first, you will indirectly attract the attention of the other party. Before criticizing each other, talk about your own mistakes. Guide instead of command. Save face for each other. Praise others, every little progress, heartfelt praise, and don't be stingy with praise. Inspire others with beautiful jade, and he will work hard and live up to your expectations. Encourage the other person to change and make it sound easy to correct mistakes. Make the other person happy to do things for you. I will study these principles well to improve my leadership and change the attitude of others first.

point four: six ways to win others' love.

establish others' love for you and make others pay more attention to themselves. First of all, we should establish interest in others and pay sincere attention to others. For strangers, we should smile to make a good first impression. No matter who you are, no matter what language you use, your name is the sweetest and most important word in the world. You must learn to remember other people's names, talk about things that others are interested in, and sincerely let each other know how important he is.

I think these points have a profound influence on me, so I will practice these hard skills. Make your interpersonal relationship more harmonious.