01papijiang has been on two hot searches in succession and put forward two subversive views: first, the husband and wife are ranked first, and parents and children sit back; second, marriage is a matter for two people, and each goes back to his own home to find his own wife during the New Year.

Mom, refuse to allow one party to go to the other party's house to find discomfort.

In fact, these two views of hers were also said by the village beauty in our hometown 20 years ago, and they were both strangled in the cradle: 1. Parents and children should lean back and listen to their husbands on matters that conflict with their opinions.

I found that her husband didn't care about his mother-in-law at all, and sometimes he would bully Cuihua and not give her money.

Cuihua's parents were sick and had to carry it to death. Cuihua had no place to put her sense of security and had to rely on her children who had not yet grown up.

As a result, the husband, children, and parents returned to the shortest era of the "Three Kingdoms", and even the husband's side.

2. It is proposed that during the Chinese New Year, each family should go back to their respective homes, each find their own mother, and give the man a discount, so that he can take the baby with him.

That is to say, Cuihua, who originally lived in her husband's village, asked to go back to spend the New Year with her parents.

Cuihua's mother-in-law was scorned for a month, and Cuihua's husband simply punched her. Cuihua's wallet was not enough to attend the New Year's Fair. She went back to her parents' house empty-handed to complain, and was scolded by her superstitious father. Her married daughter threw water at her

, are you coming back to celebrate our birthdays during the Chinese New Year?

Give up.

In the past 20 years, many backward production relations that no longer match productivity have been eliminated. Why is Papi Jiang still cheered by the public when she revives the historical dream of women?

Because, in the era of economic development, women have achieved freedom of fruit, lipstick, bags, and even cars, but they are still far away from "freedom after marriage".

In the century-long game of marriage, which woman has never been aggrieved, wanting to go back to her parents’ home but not being able to do so, wanting to have a world together but not being able to, wanting to have freedom of speech but not being able to, and wanting to live as she pleases but not being able to... It seems that all marriages are not possible.

A married woman must observe the opinions of her husband, her husband's family, and her aunts and sisters in everything she says and does after that.

This XX feeling.

But Papi Jiang doesn't need it. She not only buys clothes and bags, but she also relies on her own influence to redefine the relationship between primary and secondary, because she has money, and money represents the right to speak.

02. Some people protested, saying that Papi was not very rich in the first two years of marriage.

Okay, okay, I can't tell you. These popular opinions of Papi Jiang are not because she is rich, but because she has a positive outlook on life and has given the right demonstration and guidance.

Then you should go with her.

Regardless of whose home you go to during the Chinese New Year, which thigh you twist more than your opinion, just say that if you have a monthly salary of 5,000 yuan and want to buy a 5,000 yuan bag, do you guarantee that you won’t feel anxious?

As time goes by, one person's care and obedience to another person has already subtly become a habit.

In the first two years of marriage, at the very beginning, whose opinion is the main one?

Whether money plays a role in this seesaw is hard to say.

If you feel this is a bit confusing, take a look at an example: 20 years ago, our village students stopped going home for the Chinese New Year. Since going to college and marrying a girl from the city, the number of visits home has become less and less every year.

Oh, by the way, the most exaggerated time was when Hai Sheng gave birth to a son. A family of three drove their car to the entrance of the village. They rolled down the car window and gave their grandparents a look at the quilt. Then they returned to the airport and flew away. Because the entrance to the village was very windy and dusty, the quilt was half-covered.

looking at the child's face.

Haisheng's mother has been nagging about this joke for ten years, "What's the benefit of marrying a city girl? When you look at your grandson, you can only see the quilt, and your little hands are not touched, so your hands are dirty." You see, Haisheng's wife has long been

Having achieved the freedom of celebrating the New Year, she has never gone through the stage of going to different houses and looking for different mothers. She jumps directly to "You come home with me to celebrate the New Year, no matter whether you are the man or not." Over the years, Haisheng has been working hard and working hard, and finally gave birth to a child.

When I was in junior high school, for the first time, I went home to live for a month and renovated a new house for my parents. I earned the money from the sea life, and my wife and children had a great time catching fish in the river.

This change is brought about by money.

And it is not given by the *** with property, but by a person's ability to make money.

I don't want to make the marriage relationship so naked and ugly, but we have to face reality.

Backstage readers asked me: What should I do if my husband is suspected of cheating?

I asked her: What are you going to do if you get settled?

Her: I don’t know.

I don't want a divorce.

I'm afraid that in the view of marriage and its positive attitude, cheating is not allowed, but for many women, it is not allowed even if it doesn't happen. If it happens, they may tell themselves to forget it. It doesn't matter if it is swallowed by a fly. Life has to go on.

Pass.

03. I think the relationship between primary and secondary is not so clear. Sometimes my son is naughty or I saw some photos and articles of gray-haired people cuddling together. I also say that husband and wife always come first, and that also goes with

My husband showed my loyalty.

Occasionally, I also understand that my parents stayed with me for the first half of my life, my son stayed with me for the second half of my life, and only my husband stayed with me the longest.