According to the data released by the Girls' Protection Fund of China Children's Culture and Art Foundation (hereinafter referred to as "Girls' Protection"), during the three years from 20 13 to 20 15, there were 968 cases of sexual abuse of children exposed by the media all over the country, with more than 1790 victims.
In 20 15 years, 0.95 cases of child sexual abuse were exposed every day, and almost 1 cases of child sexual abuse occurred every day.
According to the data of UBS Optimus Foundation, a survey was conducted on 9- 12-year-old 1834 1 students in six major cities of China in 2009-20/0. There are few data for girls, because girls are more difficult to report than boys.
Not only in China, according to the report released by the children's charity Project Britain on June 22nd, 2065438+06, at least one fifth of British women have been sexually harassed or even sexually assaulted during school.
In 2005, a survey by the National Control Center in the United States found that more than 16% of men in this country had been sexually assaulted before 18 years old.
According to UBS Group AG's survey of many countries around the world in the past 10, 20-30% of children in the world are victims of some kind of sexual assault. Stigma and taboos usually mean that cases are not found or never reported.
Wang Dawei, a famous expert in criminal psychology and a professor at People's Public Security University of China, once said that the ratio of hidden cases of sexual assault cases, especially those in primary and secondary schools, is 1 7.
There is really too much unknown violence and sexual assault around us. So what can parents do to protect their children?
I am five years old, please don't hug me and kiss me. I know your commitment and support will make me feel safe in the future.
20 15 publicly reported cases of sexual abuse of children, of which 240 were committed by acquaintances, accounting for 70.59%, 27% by strangers and 7 by netizens. Four common situations are discussed below.
1. A stranger who asks for help may set a trap for you.
This year, while studying in Germany in fun run, a girl was raped and killed by another girl who asked for help to move things in her house.
On July 24th, 20 13, pregnant woman Tan deliberately fell down on the roadside and lured the victim (pseudonym) to her home in the name of sending herself home. After the couple became addicted to sleeping pills, they proposed to commit adultery with her husband for nothing. Later, Xiao Xuan was killed and dumped.
In a similar situation, let children help find dogs, find children and so on. Children should be alert to their surroundings.
If you do find that the other person needs help, please send it to the hospital or police station, not to his home.
2. Neighbors may become suspects.
In August this year, Xiaohong (a pseudonym), a girl aged1/kloc-0 in Zhuxi County, Shiyan, Hubei Province, committed suicide by drinking pesticides in shame because she was sexually assaulted by her neighbors four times in a month. Fortunately, the rescue was timely, and Xiaohong was out of danger, but the doctor said that she might be pregnant and needed to be re-examined in the near future.
In July this year, a 14-year-old female middle school student in Thailand was raped and killed at home late at night. On June 19, the local police arrested Peng Cai, a 3 1 year-old fugitive, who was the victim's neighbor.
3. The attempts of friends, netizens and workmates cannot be judged.
In June this year, a woman from Sabah, Malaysia went to Singapore to look for a job. As a stranger, she asked a Singaporean male netizen she had never met to lead the way, and she was abducted and raped by the other party.
20 12 Media reported that Du, a boy aged 0/3 in Xiajin County, Shandong Province, worked in an auto repair shop to support his family. Two workers played a prank and stuffed a high-pressure inflatable gun into his anus to inflate, which led to perforation of the teenager's intestine, serious damage to his internal organs and dying.
4. Some teachers, coaches, priests, etc. Too concerned.
In August this year, Yang, a former China admissions officer in an American foreign exchange program, was sentenced to six and a half years' imprisonment for repeatedly assaulting exchange students in China. According to the police report, 54-year-old Yang raped the victim 17 three times in his office on her birthday and in the week after, and threatened to send her back to China, even brazenly claiming that it was American culture.
20 17 Wu is suspected of sexually assaulting underage girls from Qiongshan No.1 Primary School. This girl is now in grade one. She was sexually assaulted by Wu in primary school. In order to prevent the girl from telling the truth, Wu bought her an Apple mobile phone and often sent her messages.
In 20 16, Kelly J.Morrow, an American man, was sentenced to 25 years' federal imprisonment by the federal court for the Central District of California in Los Angeles for sexually assaulting four boys and taking and collecting thousands of nude photos and videos of children. It is said that he came into contact with children on the grounds of teaching English.
1. Explain to children what sexual assault is.
Sexual assault generally refers to all kinds of sexual acts against the will of others. It can include forced sexual intercourse (anal or oral sex), forced kissing, sexual harassment, indecent assault, sexual abuse and so on. Exposing yourself and voyeurism may also be regarded as sexual assault in judicial precedents.
Child sexual abuse is a form of child abuse, and adults or older minors will take child abuse as the object of sexual venting. The forms of child sexual abuse include asking or forcing children to participate in sexual activities (regardless of the outcome), exposing reproductive organs to children in an inappropriate way, showing pornographic films to children, having sex with children, physically touching children's sexual organs, watching children's sexual organs without contact, and using children to make pornographic films.
2. Teach children the Five Don 'ts and Four Points:
Five don't:
(1) Don't talk to strangers, especially adults who ask for help, because adults don't ask minors for help!
(2) Don't stay alone with people much older than yourself in a closed space, including elevators, bathrooms, classrooms, rooms, etc. No matter what the identity of the other party is.
(3) Don't allow others to touch the place covered by clothes, including acquaintances or strangers, and don't touch the place covered by other people's clothes.
(4) Don't accept any clothes, belongings and food without parents' permission.
(5) Don't hide anything from parents, no matter who has the right to let children hide something from their parents.
Four elements:
(1) Report the people and things that parents come into contact with every day, especially the things that make them uncomfortable and unhappy.
(2) Walk with classmates, walk in lively and bright places, and be alert to the surrounding environment.
(3) Close the doors and windows, and don't open the door for anyone except parents.
(4) In case of emergency, protect your life and find another chance to escape.
3. Parents' handling style
If the child is sexually assaulted, parents should not blame the child, but should take the child to the hospital for examination and call the police as soon as possible, and try not to rush to clean and change clothes, so as not to destroy the evidence.
A random survey of 47 19 students in several provinces shows that more than 40% children don't know the concept of private parts, and 70% of them are victims aged 7 to 14.
To a certain extent, this shows that there is a lack of education on children's self-protection and prevention of sexual assault in compulsory education, and with the growth of children's age, they have not supplemented their knowledge in time. Coupled with physical development and other factors, children of this age group have become the main targets of criminal suspects.
Some parents never consider the danger their children may face; Some parents only found out when their children were pregnant for a long time, and did not think about sexual assault; Many children don't know what to do after being sexually assaulted, which reflects the parents' weak awareness of preventing sexual assault.
According to a survey conducted by the Center for the Prevention of Sexual Assault at the University of Michigan, boys will have some psychological changes after being sexually assaulted, mainly in three aspects:
1. I feel that I am not a real man and blame myself.
I feel depressed because my story is difficult to tell.
Because people have long denied that men can be sexually assaulted, boys who have been sexually assaulted will feel abnormal.
Therefore, parents should always pay attention to the whereabouts of their children and the people they contact, and should not be careless.
Be sure to let the children know that if this happens, it is not their own fault, but the bad guys will be punished.
Due to the limited space, my next article will write about how to educate children about sex, how to say it and how to do it. Welcome attention.
Authorized by the author, it first appeared in Daguan Family.
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Text/Zhuo Aizhou @ Daguan Family