Author: Yu Malt (author of Fu Shu)

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A few days ago, the top management moved, which caused a big personnel change. My colleague Lingling was transferred from the accounting post to the ordinary teller post.

Compared with the previous relaxation and freedom, Lingling was very depressed because of the hard work and busyness of being locked in the chair and not allowed to walk around at will, and she kept pulling her face all day and complained bitterly. But what happened to her now had a warning before.

Lingling is an accountant in a small branch. Her daily work is to adjust and check the database, bind subpoenas, organize files, and fill in all kinds of data.

Every day, after finishing the work at hand, the rest of the time is either a casual chat or playing mobile phone in the monitoring corner.

Every time an elderly colleague advises her to study more business, take more certificates, constantly improve her professional ability and seek higher career development.

She will boast that she is old, and she just wants to do her present job well and work hard, which is for young people. But in fact, she is only 312.

every once in a while, our company will provide employees with opportunities for business skills training, as well as organize business knowledge speech contests and competitions for middle and senior positions.

However, correspondingly, internal training will take up the time after work and holidays, and the competition activities should collect materials and recite them by themselves, and the job competition should also take pains to write manuscripts and win the written test by conquering the sea tactics.

Lingling never takes the initiative to participate in all kinds of competitions and competitions, except for some mandatory activities. Even if she does, she just prepares casually.

In her words: "Life is easy enough now, there is no need to find so many things for yourself, and hard work may not pay off. Life is just about the same."

She muddled along, and she was defeated in this great personnel fluctuation.

The new junior students emerge in an endless stream, young and energetic, active in doing things, and strong in learning. In contrast, during these years on the job, she has made no achievements and her skills have only retreated, so it is natural that she was overturned by the new wave.

why should we be alert to the comfort zone crisis? This is the truest answer I can feel.

the only constant thing in the world is' change' itself, and relying on the so-called' stability' is actually the most unstable thing.

The times change with each passing day, artificial intelligence is updated, and the comfortable and stable living environment, background contacts, business platform, professional skills and so on we think are only temporary stability under certain conditions.

just like a greenhouse with constant temperature, the variation of any node will cause earth-shaking changes.

John F. Kennedy said, "Don't pray for the comfort of life, but pray for yourself to become stronger."

We should take the initiative and jump out of our comfort zone rather than letting fate drift.

Only on the basis of mastering subjective initiative, keeping learning ability at all times, accumulating strength, accumulating experience and strengthening survival skills, will we be safe and sound in the future.

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Stand on the edge of the comfort zone, and let the' best anxiety' pave the way for the future.

Sister Miao is one of my clients. She is nearly forty years old, but she looks ten years younger than her actual age.

every time you come to our outlet to handle business, you are full of energy. While I admire the stalls, Sister Miao said that five or six years ago, she didn't even have the courage to go out.

Sister Miao, like many traditional family-oriented women, quit her job and became a full-time housewife after she got married.

In the first few years, it was really comfortable to come home from busy work, but as she got older, she became more and more uncomfortable.

Not only is the mental state getting worse, but also serious illnesses and ailments are constantly occurring, and the temper is getting worse.

My friend said that she just entered menopause early, so just get through it. But only she knows in her heart that she is just anxious.

When the child is older, she doesn't have to worry about taking care of her all the time. In addition to shopping and chatting, cooking and doing housework, she just stays at home and watches TV.

She doesn't understand the new words in children's mouths, and she doesn't know how to participate in her husband's busy work.

She can't find anything to talk about with her children's husbands except dog blood idol dramas and trivial parents.

Comfort became deadlocked, and she was eager to break through, so she asked people everywhere to help introduce her work.

She has been out of society for a long time and has no special skills, so it is difficult for her to find a job that suits her.

The more anxious she is, the more stressed she is, so that she wants to try all the project ideas she heard from her friends.

when people say that investing in wealth management makes money, she buys funds for stock trading. when people say that the collection is highly valued, she sells calligraphy and painting, and the result of blindly advancing is naturally a mess.

During that time, she simply lived in hot water, feeling guilty and confused.

Fortunately, her husband observed her anxiety in time and suggested that she start to acquire some basic skills around her.

following her husband's advice, she gave up unrealistic follow-up projects and focused on the tangible market demand around her.

Later, she chose to be a Wechat business, buying and selling beauty products, shoes and hats.

In order to save labor costs and use her family as a model, she went to a friend's studio to study photography as a part-time job.

In order to pick up the goods conveniently, she practiced driving skills for a whole year and went on the road alone. For business turnover, she also went to the market to do research, and signed up for classes online to buy courseware to learn sales skills and professional knowledge.

Nowadays, not only the online micro-purchase business is booming, but also the physical store has opened a second one.

from the beginning, I didn't know anything, to a little bit of learning and improvement, and then I became familiar with it.

along the way, her deepest feeling is: you can't eat a big fat man at once, you must gather a few to make a lot.

Noel Dicky, an American psychologist, has a three-circle theory about psychological comfort zone: comfort zone, study zone and panic zone.

We need to break down the barrier of comfort zone, but being too carefree makes people decadent, and being too aggressive makes people panic.

For how to get out of the comfort zone, psychologists Robert yerkes and John dodson put forward the concept of "the best anxiety zone", that is, standing on the edge of the comfort zone.

Research shows that proper anxiety can stimulate the best performance. When you feel that life is dull and boring, you might as well create some constructive and creative discomfort for yourself, such as study and goals.

all the easy roads are downhill roads, and all the hard roads are upward roads.

Comfort makes people live effortlessly, but it also makes people lose their ability to live.

We must correctly look at the discomfort in a comfortable state, including confusion, confusion and anxiety.

When we are questioning and tired of our present life, it is the critical moment when we are in the "best anxiety zone". We should seize this opportunity and seize the opportunity of change, and we deserve a better future.

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Getting out of the comfort zone is a challenge, a leap and a growth.

I have been in the comfort zone many times, and I felt very good about myself when I was in the middle of school.

When you graduate, find a job with thousands of dollars, and you will feel that your life will be stable after eating and drinking every day. When you are skilled at work, you begin to take it for granted that you will no longer study.

because the comfort zone, as its name implies, has its own habits, and it is easy to live without effort. No one wants to.

But reality is the loudest slap. Whether I like it or not, I will chop it off again and again.

Staying in the comfort zone doesn't mean that Shushutantan can remain the same, because only you stop, but others don't. In the rushing crowd, if you don't advance, you will retreat.

I was admitted to the key class of senior high school by struggling, and I was dumped from the key class to the ordinary class in the second semester of senior high school.

As a receptionist with a small salary, I was dismissed by the manager at the beginning of the new year for being overstaffed.

I was admitted to the financial system to do simple and repetitive business, and was assigned to a remote township outlet from a big bank in the city.

Of course, the process of getting out of comfort will not be pleasant, because I am not used to it, and I have to work hard and spend more time and energy to get in touch with unknown areas that I have never set foot on.

Although comfort makes people linger, it may also be a gentle trap in which mud feet are trapped. Difficulties naturally make people exhausted, but it may be a thoroughly remoulded transformation and growth.

in the first year of senior three, I devoted myself to my studies, getting up early and staying up late, and cramming into the question bank. Finally, I was admitted to 211 from two guaranteed books.

when I was looking for a job again, I ran various job fairs during the day, reported to work at night to learn accounting professional knowledge, and was recruited by our local financial unit through the provincial examination;

I am busy with my business. I insist on writing and practicing every day after I have a rest. I participate in the speech and essay-writing activities organized by my unit and am promoted to the headquarters to take charge of paperwork.

Someone once asked me why I can't make my life more comfortable.

I think the reason why we live so hard, so hard, so hard is that we won't be squeezed out because we can't do it in the future;

I won't lose my upward vitality because of' emptiness', I won't miss the opportunity to step back because of' lack of ability', and I won't flinch from the life I want because of' sitting on my laurels'.

stepping out of the comfort zone is as dangerous and exciting as stepping into the deep water from the shallows.

But if you have been soaking in the safe and comfortable shoal, you will never learn swimming skills, you will never know how brave and determined you are in the face of difficulties, and you will never be able to see and visit a wider and more exciting world.

however, our life is not smooth and straight, but a torrent full of variables and dangers.

those difficult pressures that seem to be a headache and anxiety at present are just a ladder to climb up.

Only by stepping forward can you be promoted step by step, and staying in the same place will not only be overtaken and forgotten, but also get farther and farther away from the life you want.

M Scott Parker wrote in The Road Few People Walk:

Each of us seems to live in an eggshell, and we will be filled with this self-righteous sense of security. But for an egg, breaking from the outside is food and breaking from the inside is growth. If you wait for others to break you, then you are destined to be someone else's food; If you can break yourself from the inside, then you will find that your growth is equivalent to a rebirth.

don't choose comfort at the age of struggle, and don't avoid hard work at the time of suffering.

Strive for more choices in the future, and strive for a better life in the future.

Because, comfort is only temporary, and growth is a lifetime.

The pictures in this article come from the Internet

Author's brief introduction: Yu Malt, a rich book signing author, a financial migrant worker who works 11 hours a day, a fan of in-depth reading and writing, and many years of magazine writing experience, good at writing articles on emotional marriage and parenting, personal inspirational growth, book reviews and film reviews. This article starts with Franklin Reading Club (ID: Franklin Reading Club), a million new middle-class life colleges.