Generally speaking, people with low emotional intelligence don't know communication skills and speak too directly. They rarely know how to put themselves in other's shoes, so it is often unpleasant to say it out. For example, one of my former colleagues always speaks hard when communicating with others. His words are like giving orders, which makes others feel very uncomfortable.

He rarely speaks kindly, and he rarely understands the differences of others from the heart. In his eyes, they communicate with everyone in the same way. This kind of stereotyped communication will make others feel very resistant, which will lead to things not progressing smoothly.

2. I don't understand the implication of others

The second manifestation of low emotional intelligence is that I don't know how to detect other people's emotional changes. Even what others say when they are angry, he seldom feels the meaning between the lines of others. As a result, when they communicate, they often fail to integrate into the group.

This is the case with my colleague's low EQ. Once, he made his colleague angry, but he didn't realize it, and then he went on to seduce someone's house. Then people treated him coldly. He didn't realize that the other person's mood was related to himself at all, and he was concerned about whether he was sick, which led to his colleagues' mood almost collapsing. This kind of low emotional intelligence will always be thankless in life, which often leads to the freezing point of their relationship with others, which is also the main factor that makes them unattractive and can't really feel each other's emotional changes.

3, very emotional, do not know how to control emotions

The third major performance of people with low emotional intelligence is that they are very emotional, do not know how to control their emotions, but are restrained and influenced by emotions. When they are violated by others' language, their first reaction is to be angry or depressed. This kind of emotionalization leads them to be not calm when they encounter problems, and they are not rational enough to deal with problems. They are often impulsive and lead to immaturity.

Being very emotional can be said to be immature. This immaturity is reflected in their putting self-emotion in the first place, but ignoring the truth and real consideration behind the matter.