In a family, it is said that the relationship between husband and wife should come first, followed by the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the family relationship between children. But in real life, if a family wants to live harmoniously, it must first get past the mother-in-law.
The reason why mother-in-law can play an important role in influencing the relationship between husband and wife is that many people have a moral concept of ordering upbringing and childbirth in their bones. They believe that mothers have worked hard to bring up their children. Now that the children have started a family and started a career, it is time to repay the mother. of nurturing grace. Because of this kind of repayment mentality, I condoned the authority of my mother-in-law. Even if she went a little too far in the normal relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the sensible son and daughter-in-law would not care about her.
However, in any kind of interpersonal communication, the tolerance of one party alone is not enough to improve the fundamentals. When the evil mother-in-law tastes the sweetness brought by sovereignty, she often enjoys it and even uses it in different ways. that power. Creating a good family atmosphere requires the joint efforts of all family members. If the person at the helm is unstable, he will never be able to truly create a happy and peaceful family paradise.
Human patience has its limits. When it exceeds a certain endurance, things will inevitably turn upside down. Faced with the mother-in-law's repeated mischief, even if the daughter-in-law does not resist, the son will stand up and speak. You must know that justice is in the heart, and no man will watch his woman being bullied, unless he doesn't love her!
As the backbone of a family, men not only have to protect their families from wind and rain, but also learn to skillfully resolve all internal conflicts within the family and serve as the glue in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as much as possible. Because a wise man knows that the relationship between husband and wife and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law complement each other. Only by handling them well can he truly live a happy life.
It is a well-known fact that the mother-in-law dislikes her daughter-in-law Wang Fang. Fortunately, Wang Fang is open-minded and does not care, otherwise she would have made trouble if she were someone else's daughter-in-law. But this time, Wang Fang's husband Xiao Ma was not happy. He was furious with his mother and even threatened to drive her away.
Xiao Ma lost his father in his early years, and his mother raised him alone. During this period, her mother suffered a lot and gave up the opportunity to remarry for her son. When Wang Fang heard her husband talk about this past for the first time, she was moved to tears and promised to be filial to her mother-in-law with him in the future. Even if she was a little willful, she would be tolerant and determined not to let her husband get in the middle.
When she got married, her mother-in-law’s family insisted on a gift of 80,000 yuan without counter-offering. Considering not to burden her mother-in-law, and worried that her mother-in-law would find trouble to prevent her from getting married, Wang Fang secretly gave her salary card to her mother-in-law. , let her use 100,000 yuan in her card to get married. This was Wang Fang's good intention, but she didn't expect it to become the source of tragedy, so that she was suppressed by her mother-in-law for five years after her marriage.
My mother-in-law should be happy to have married her daughter-in-law without spending a penny. When the neighbors congratulated her, she said it was because her son had the ability and found a stupid woman who was cheating on her. Naturally, Wang Fang didn't know these words, and still sent money and gifts to her mother-in-law to show her filial piety. Half a year later, when her daughter was born, Xiao Ma took her mother-in-law to take care of her during the confinement period. This was a head-on confrontation between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
My mother-in-law is old-fashioned. When she found out that she was giving birth to a granddaughter, she immediately curled her lips and became unhappy. She took care of her daughter-in-law's confinement very perfunctorily. She often bought a bone and stewed a large pot of soup for two days. , when the little granddaughter was crying, she didn’t say anything about getting up to calm her down. Instead, she blamed the little girl for making the movie disturbing and affecting her ability to watch TV series. Naturally, the child couldn't understand it, but Wang Fang knew that her mother-in-law meant this to express dissatisfaction with her for giving birth to a daughter.
It has been a month since my mother-in-law said that she would return to her hometown immediately after a full month or more, but now she likes the life in the city, and she does not want to leave her son. Naturally, the daughter-in-law didn't dare to say anything, so she settled in as a matter of course. Wang Fang usually takes care of the children by herself, while her mother-in-law goes around to have fun and lead a retirement life in advance.
My mother-in-law has a strong personality and wants to gain the upper hand in everything she says and does, so she is not popular with people around her. Outsiders do not want to play with her, so she has to act like a monster at home. She either dislikes the food cooked by her daughter-in-law and blames her granddaughter. Annoying, she only smiled when her son came back. After seeing her mother-in-law's dramatic performance, Wang Fang was too lazy to care and continued to fulfill her duties.
It was really tight to support the family by Xiao Ma alone, and her mother-in-law refused to take care of the child. After two years of hard work, Wang Fang had no choice but to send her daughter to a nursery school and start working again. As a result, the mother-in-law felt that it was very hard for her to take care of the children and cook, so she proposed 5,000 yuan a month for living expenses. Although it was a bit much, the couple couldn't think of a good solution for a while, so they had to agree.
In the past, Wang Fang bought and cooked vegetables, so that a family of 3,000 people could eat meat and fish dishes every month. However, her mother-in-law cooked only cheap vegetarian dishes. Only when her son ate at home, braised pork appeared on the table. , one time Wang Fang couldn't help but eat two more pieces, and her mother-in-law scolded her for a long time, saying that a woman should not be too greedy, and that the food and drinks at home were more important to the man. Not wanting to be laughed at by her neighbors because of the quarrel over food, Wang Fang endured it and pretended to have lost weight.
The factory was busy rushing to work. Wang Fang didn’t come home until after ten o’clock that night in the light rain. She was hungry early in the afternoon. Each meal in the canteen cost 15 yuan. Her mother-in-law thought it was expensive and asked her daughter-in-law to come home from get off work every day. Eat at home. She thought her mother-in-law had left food for her, but when she looked around the kitchen, she found a cold pot and an ice stove. Wang Fang felt cold and hungry, so she had to cook herself a bowl of plain water noodles.
While eating, Xiao Ma, who was on a business trip, suddenly came home temporarily. He saw his mother-in-law sitting on the sofa, laughing so hard that she was watching a TV show. Then he looked at the white water in his wife's hand, and suddenly understood everything. . Her daughter was sent to daycare every day, and her mother-in-law had a lot of time. As a result, she didn't even want to cook a meal for her daughter-in-law. It was really sad to think about it. Xiao Ma couldn't help but shed tears. He took away his wife's bowl and put it on her. Wear her coat and take her to have a midnight snack.
My mother-in-law naturally stood up to stop her: "The food outside is so expensive, you can just eat it at home, why do you waste so much money?" The mother-in-law's words aroused the anger in Xiao Ma's heart, and he replied angrily: "It saves money to just work without eating or drinking. Even a machine needs to be refueled to run, let alone a human being? I trust you so much. Now it seems that the monthly living expenses of 5,000 yuan are really not worth it! Wang Fang wants to earn more Spending money every day to get up early and work until late at night, someone else's mother-in-law would definitely feel very distressed. It's better for you to just care about your own food and drink, and do some things on your own. If you really don't want to help, I won't embarrass you. I will buy a ticket to take you back to your hometown tomorrow. "
When she heard that her son was going to send her away, her mother-in-law was dumbfounded. Not to mention that she has really restrained herself since then, and her daughter-in-law can also have a hot meal after get off work.
Men bear important responsibilities in the family. Many times, the mother-in-law’s attitude toward her daughter-in-law comes from the son’s position. If the son blindly obeys his parents, the mother-in-law will naturally not take her daughter-in-law seriously, and she will not dare to be bold. Bullying her, so to a certain extent, it is foolish filial piety that creates the evil mother-in-law.
Of course, if a man is bolder in doing things, has a correct sense of right and wrong, and knows how to protect his wife's feelings and dignity, the mother-in-law will naturally have some scruples, at least she will not dare to be unscrupulous and arrogant, even if she is dissatisfied with her daughter-in-law. , at most they do evil in secret, but more often they do it deliberately and fearlessly, fearing that if their daughter-in-law sues or their son finds out, they will not be able to put an end to it.
Although filial piety is a virtue, it is necessary to differentiate between situations. If filial piety becomes a weapon to help an evildoer and slander his wife, then it is necessary for men to reflect on it. You must know that no woman in this world is willing to endure unreasonable behavior. She didn't say anything about the bullying, just for your sake, but if you can't even give her this kind of protection, how can you talk about a lifetime of happiness?