The main manifestations of low EQ are as follows: poor self-awareness. There is no clear goal and there is no intention to put it into practice. Depend heavily on others. Poor interpersonal skills. Poor ability to cope with anxiety. Life is out of order. Irresponsible, complaining.

There are some ways to improve emotional intelligence:

The so-called emotional intelligence refers to a person's ability to feel, understand, control, use and express their own and others' emotions. EQ is not an abstract theory, nor is it just a quality. It includes:

1, the ability to know your emotions. Gorman believes that understanding one's emotions is the basis of emotional intelligence, and this ability to know feelings at any time is very important for understanding oneself.

2, the ability to properly manage emotions. Emotional management must be based on self-cognition, and through self-regulation, it can achieve the purpose of self-comfort and get rid of anxiety, gloom or anxiety.

3. Self-motivated ability. It is absolutely necessary to concentrate your emotions on one goal, whether it is concentration or creativity. To achieve anything depends on emotional self-control, and maintaining a high degree of enthusiasm is the driving force for all achievements.

4. The ability to identify their emotions. That is to understand people, so as to live in peace and cooperate happily with people of different personalities and types. This is the basic interpersonal skills.

5. interpersonal management skills. Interpersonal relationship is an art of managing others' emotions. Whether we can pay close attention to others' emotions and treat them properly is often related to the degree of interpersonal harmony and leadership.

The level of a person's emotional intelligence, although there are congenital genetic components, is more closely related to the cultivation of the day after tomorrow than IQ. With the development of society, people pay more and more attention to emotional intelligence. Childhood is a critical period for emotional development. We should develop children's IQ and care about the cultivation of children's EQ. So, how can parents help their children improve their emotional intelligence?

First, parents should set an example for their children.

Parents should remember that children are good at controlling their emotions through their words and deeds, and get along well with others, neighbors, relatives and friends.

Second, choose a reasonable way of tutoring to cultivate children's strong and independent personality.

With the increase of only children, many parents spoil their children too much and take care of them in every possible way. For example, children accidentally fell down or touched them. These are ordinary trivial matters, but parents rushed forward to ask questions with a sad face. Parents' practices and attitudes can not only eliminate children's pain, but also bring children a weak EQ education. Over time, they will make children develop a fragile, timid and attached temperament. On the contrary, some parents are too autocratic to their children, always telling them what to do, this is not allowed, that is not allowed, which imprisons their children's thoughts, suppresses their normal emotional development, and makes them passive to Nuo Nuo. It can be seen that doting and despotism bring only cowardice and incompetence to children. In the face of fierce competition in the future world, the only thing waiting for children is failure. Therefore, in order to improve children's emotional intelligence, we must choose a reasonable way of tutoring, neither doting on children nor suppressing their inner desire for development, and pay attention to cultivating children's strong and independent personality. For example, when a child accidentally falls, parents should not show excessive worry and anxiety, but should encourage the child to get up without fear of pain and praise the child's courage and strength; What children can do by themselves must be done by themselves; If a child can make a decision, he must make his own decision.

Third, encourage children to communicate with peers and improve their emotional intelligence in communication activities.

Nowadays, many children are spoiled by their parents because they are the only children in the family. They are always self-centered and have poor emotional self-control. Communicating with peers can provide children with an opportunity to know themselves, learn to control their emotions, understand others and learn to think for others. To this end, parents should pay attention to creating conditions to encourage their children to interact with their peers.