No matter how busy the villagers are, they should give up farm work and buy back fish. , and served a table of rich dining tables. Other guests don't pick up, only the girl and son-in-law come back for "half a month". Before dinner, the elders in the family raised their glasses and called their ancestors. Sprinkle wine around the table and read the names of the dead relatives: father, mother, grandfather, grandmother, great-grandparents, uncles and aunts, parents-in-law, etc. , and read it carefully. After the wine is "finished", each party puts a bowl of rice and a pair of chopsticks on the bowl, and the ancestors "eat" after drinking the wine. After a while, take off chopsticks to show that the meal is finished, and pour some tea on all sides: "drink" tea. Paper money is surrounded by people, and when relatives finish eating, they divide the money.
Then, the living began to eat on the table.
After dinner, you should also seal your ancestors with "baggage", wrap some ghost money and coarse yellow paper with white paper, seal them with paste, write down the "address" and name of your ancestors, and pile them outdoors to get rid of them quickly.
If a loved one dies less than a year, the family members have to "spend the first half of the month" one week in advance, which is called "new moon and a half month" (it is said that people who have just died have to return to China early, so they have to spend the first half of the month). My hometown divides the fifth, fifteenth and twenty-fifth days of the lunar calendar into three parts: the end, the middle and the end. People in the city have passed the "fifth day" and those in their hometown have passed the "fifteenth day".
After Duanyang, many people still work in the fields without rest, and they don't spend money to buy food and treat people to celebrate, but zongzi is to be eaten. You don't have to eat zongzi on Dragon Boat Festival. In May, people pick a handful of fresh, green and fragrant reed leaves in front of the house or by the pond, put them in water to boil, wrap them in white glutinous rice and boil them slowly with water. The cooked zongzi, stained with brown sugar, is soft and sweet and very delicious.
On Dragon Boat Festival, the man will give presents to his fiancee and sister-in-law. Gifts include steamed stuffed buns, zongzi, summer daily necessities, straw hats, fans (paper fans, sunflower fans), umbrellas, etc. In the first few years of her daughter's marriage, her parents will also give her Duanyang, and the gift will be the same as before.
At that time, the collective changed customs, and the militia detachment stopped the people who sent Duan Yang on the road, and all the gifts were confiscated. People have no choice but to steal it at midnight.
Some villages once held dragon boat races in the Yangtze River, and the riverside was crowded with people watching the races, which was very lively. In my hometown, the biggest and most grand festival is the Spring Festival, which is called "New Year".
As soon as they entered the twelfth lunar month, the villagers began to be busy buying new year's goods. Food comes first, killing pigs and sheep, and hanging salted fish and sausages in front of every house. Women soak glutinous rice in water, grind it into pulp, cook glutinous rice balls, steam glutinous rice, soak mung beans and rice, grind it into pulp, and spread bean cakes. Stir-fried peanuts, melon seeds, rice grains, fried dough sticks, sweet potato skins. As the year is approaching, steamed fish cakes, steamed buns and steamed buns are also needed. There are all kinds of foods that are not available in other festivals.
The 24th of the twelfth lunar month, the so-called "off-year", marks the official start of the New Year festival, and firecrackers start to ring sporadically in the village, giving people a festive atmosphere.
Before the New Year's Eve, every household should set off a large set of firecrackers. The time of the reunion dinner was inconsistent, and the host stopped the western family and shocked the earth.
On New Year's Eve in the evening, every household put it on again, and it crackled everywhere and boiled all night. Fireworks flashed in the sky from time to time, and the patterns of various colors were beautiful. Some farmers go home with a bundle of firewood after setting off firecrackers, saying "go home with money" and look forward to good luck in the coming year.
On the night of the fifteenth day of the first month, during the Lantern Festival, villagers set off firecrackers in front of and behind their houses. The noise was so loud that even the houses were shaking. They shouted "poor-poor-poor-"as they released it, which meant to drive away pests and ants at home.
Chinese New Year is the most affectionate and filial day. On the morning of the 24th and 30th of the twelfth lunar month, the daughter-in-law will cook a bowl of stone eggs for her father-in-law and bring a bowl of brown sugar water without eggs. If you live separately from your parents, you have to "pick up" your parents' reunion dinner.
Children who work or work outside the home, no matter how busy and long the journey is, must rush home to reunite with their parents. Have a reunion dinner together. Lost brothers, one family a day, on the 24th or 25th of the twelfth lunar month, began a year of group worship. Several families and generations have been sitting together (some tables) eating a sumptuous reunion dinner and saying good wishes kindly, and the disputes and estrangements between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the past have vanished!
During the New Year in China, people did not forget their dead relatives. Before the reunion dinner, the elders should take up their glasses, pour some wine around the table, recite the names of their ancestors, and invite them home for the New Year and have the reunion dinner. After the wine is spilled, put a small bowl of rice on the table, put chopsticks on the bowl, and invite people to "eat" first. After a while, take off the chopsticks and sprinkle tea around. At the same time, burn paper money for ancestors, and then collect money when ancestors have finished eating. When everything is finished, the living will sit down.
At night, people rushed to the cemetery with hemp sticks and matches to "illuminate" their ancestors, inserted some hemp sticks into the graves, lit candles and covered them with paper. Burning paper, flogging, bowing down, the fields are so lively that they are as bright as stars in the sky. On the fifteenth night of the first month, people repeatedly give their ancestors another "light".
Years ago, unmarried and newly married son-in-law had to "resign" at his father-in-law's house with gifts such as alcohol and tobacco. My parents-in-law will give her son-in-law a few packs of cigarettes as a reward, and they have told her many times:
"Come and play early next year!"
On New Year's Day, villagers put on new clothes and worship each other in the neighborhood and in the group (no gifts, no meals). Into the room, the two sides like a reunion after such a long separation, very affectionate greetings:
"Happy New Year, congratulations on getting rich!"
"You too. Happy new year. Congratulations on making a fortune! "
The host is busy offering cigarettes and sifting tea. The guests went to Xijia after worshipping their hosts.
When children pay New Year's greetings, the host will give them some sweets and other snacks. Some children don't want to be naughty, just smoke like adults and have a good time after the Chinese New Year.
On the second day of the first month, people began to visit relatives with gifts such as tobacco and alcohol. Relatives worship each other, son-in-law worships his parents-in-law, and brother-in-law worships again. Until the end of the fourteenth day of the first month (the fifteenth day is spent at home).
Older mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are busy entertaining guests at home during the New Year, and only in February and March of the lunar calendar will they have time to visit their parents' home. Therefore, there is a new year greeting to worship wheat, Huang Zhi said. On the first two days of marriage, the man dragged his dowry from the woman as a gift. Men want to give women half of pork, 100 kilograms of fish and wine. The trotters are wrapped in red paper. Before leaving, the groom will take a small piece of pork and a heavy fish to the matchmaker's house and invite the matchmaker to go with him.
A group of people came to the bride's house and gave the dowry carpenter some cigarettes to express their gratitude.
After dinner, the man will pull back the table, cabinet, chair, sofa, color TV and refrigerator. And pull up two or three carts. On the afternoon before the wedding, both parties have seats at home. The man asked the matchmaker to be the chief, calling it "accompanying the matchmaker", thanking the matchmaker for his hard work for this marriage!
During the dinner, the chef will "send flowers" to the matchmaker-a "happy tree" cut from red paper is inserted obliquely on a fish cake, hoping that the matchmaker will straighten the flower tree with cigarettes (asking for gifts), and the matchmaker will not have to carry stones up the mountain (without pulling out his own cigarettes). After the prescribed dishes were served, the shopkeeper secretly took out a few cigarettes for the matchmaker, who corrected the flowers and the chef presented several other dishes as a thank you. On the morning of the wedding, in addition to the groom, nine unmarried brothers and friends were invited to dinner with the groom, which was called "sitting with 10 friends". Put the two tables together, with the groom sitting at the top. This move means that the groom bid farewell to his childhood (where children always get married one day) and has since become an adult.
The same is true of the woman's family. Invite 9 sisters and friends to accompany the bride to dinner, which is called "accompanying 10 sisters". At noon on the wedding day, the man will arrange the marriage at the woman's house. Hometown custom, the groom doesn't get married in person, but is replaced by his brothers, sisters and friends, and he has to choose a person who is in charge of the overall "cast iron" (meaning that it is difficult to get married).
When approaching the woman's house, the Iron Thrower sneaked into the woman's house, advanced into the kitchen, met with the chef, offered a cigarette, and then went to the main room to meet the woman's parents. If you go straight into the main room, it is considered impolite, and the woman will close the door. The iron thrower has to put a lot of whips and ask for forgiveness through the door before he can go in.
After dinner at the woman's house, the woman is willing to send a kiss when the cattle and horses return to the column. Those who choose soft dowry go first. Soft dowry includes quilt, towel, mirror comb, teacup, toothpaste toothbrush and chopsticks; There is also a convenient urinal in the evening to cook eggs for parents-in-law and relatives in the morning.
Scratching, after a large array of firecrackers sounded in the room, the beautifully dressed bride was escorted out. The bride's mother wailed and hugged her mother's darling daughter tightly. She has been shitting and urinating for 20 years, and now she wants to take others away. Crying, mother also QianDingNing charged:
"Listen to your husband, father and in-laws, and work more ..."
The bride was also very sad and sobbed. My parents brought themselves up without any reward, but now they want to separate. ...
The people who escort the bride are brother, sister-in-law, elder sister, younger brother, younger sister and friends. The means of transportation for welcoming the bride changes with the times. In the old society, it was a sedan chair. When liberated, it rode a horse. This custom changed during the Cultural Revolution. The bride walked to her husband's house. In the early days of reform and opening up, she rode a bike (the bride was carried by someone else). Now it's a car.
Along the way, people who pick up relatives should offer cigarettes to each other and be whipped when crossing the bridge.
As we approached her husband's house, gongs and drums greeted us, and the bride and others got off and walked slowly. When entering the parents-in-law's house, the person who sent the bride rushed into the house, and the person who picked up the bride did not show weakness, scrambling to ward off evil spirits until she entered the bridal chamber.
After a short rest, the groom's niece and nephew brought the bride and other women face wash water, scrubbed it briefly, and put 10 yuan ~ 50 yuan money in each basin.
Then, a group of people to see the bride off sat around the table, a man and a woman, with the bride's brother and sister-in-law as the chief. The man should choose two people who can talk and drink a lot to accompany the guests.
The host first presents snacks and cakes as refreshments, and then puts dried vegetables such as pork liver, kidney flowers and peanuts. The sommelier began to pour the wine and persuaded the guests carefully. Like accompanying media, the flower tree is presented and placed in front of the first uncle and sister-in-law
Finish the dried vegetables and serve the main course. Steamed, fried, fried and braised fish cakes, meatballs, pork and beef are all rich. Waiters and bartenders began to tactfully ask the guests for cigarettes and flowers. Uncle and sister-in-law also implicitly bargain. After the banquet, my uncle and sister-in-law took out the whole cigarette from the big bag they brought and straightened the flower trees on the plate.
The whole party will last for several hours until dark. The person who saw the bride off did not spend the night at the bride's house. When she left, the bride was reluctant to go, and her brother and sister-in-law said, "Come back early tomorrow!" After sending relatives away, relatives, helpers, neighbors, men, women and children made trouble in the bridal chamber. The bride and groom are all smiles, sifting sugar tea, handing out candy and offering cigarettes to the guests. The joker secretly put some hard objects under the new bed. ...
The bridal chamber was over late. At dawn, the bride and groom have to get up and go to the kitchen to make morning tea for their parents and guests, and everyone who has eaten tea has to pay.
After breakfast, the bride takes her son-in-law back to her mother's house, which is called "returning to the door". The marriage is over. Here, when the elderly die, holding a funeral is called a "white wedding".
As soon as the old man dies, he wants to take a bath. He just wiped three clothes and put on the shroud he had prepared before. If his underwear is white, he should burn the gas paper before going to bed.
Park the body on the right side of the hall, with your head facing the shrine and your feet facing the gate. Open your chest, put an egg in your heart, hold a peach tree strip in one hand and a steamed bun in the other (if you meet a dog, throw the steamed bun to the dog, and the peach tree strip will hit the dog).
The sister, daughter and other members of the harem of the deceased waited in tears. ...
In front of the shrine, the dead are worshipped, and Taoist priests recite scriptures and pray for the dead.
In the evening, relatives and friends come to pay their respects, first put a whip in front of the door, and then bow down before the spirit.
Generally, the deceased stays for two nights to prepare for the funeral. The funeral was held at midnight. When buried, lay a layer of kitchen ashes on the bottom of the coffin, cover the ashes with a cup of the deceased before his death, and then lay a soft cotton wool with the body facing up. After the coffin was closed, eight (or 16) widowers slammed the coffin, shouted "woo-woo-",lifted the coffin, ran out (to ward off evil spirits) and stopped at the intersection outside the house. Put a whip in the room and pull down all kinds of symbols together with the dining hall.
At dawn, the funeral procession began In front of the parade were children carrying wreaths, followed by trumpeters and dutiful sons, followed by widowed men carrying coffins, and their wives fell on the coffins and wept bitterly. After a few steps, they stopped. The dutiful son was dressed in white mourning, with a straw rope around his waist and a mourning stick in his hand to meet the coffin and kneel down. Trumpeter and widower asked relatives for cigarettes and kept bargaining. When passing people, put a whip to say hello, and the dutiful son will kneel. Turn, cross the bridge, whip, and lose money to buy a road.
Near the cemetery, mourners, such as the widower, ran again. After putting the coffin in the grave, the dutiful son walked on the back of the coffin, holding the soil one by one and sprinkling it on the grave as he walked. Afterwards, he took off his shoes and threw them into the well. Then began to fill the soil, and finally piled into a conical bag with a small bottom and a large bottom. A circle of longevity rings (how old, how many) was inserted in the bag, a spirit-evocation flag was inserted in the middle, and a flower arrangement ring was inserted in front of the grave.
At the moment, the widowed man carried the ice coffin for a ride, sent it to the cremation factory for cremation by car, and then came back to bury the urn underground or put it in a carefully built hut.