It is also a question of IQ and EQ. . .

To talk about EQ, we must first clarify the relationship between IQ and EQ.

Human beings have always been interested in knowing the secrets of success of some famous people, so that they or their next generation can embark on the road to success. Since man is the spirit of all things, human wisdom is of course the entry step to explore this secret.

In the late 18th century, Sir FRANCIS GALTON, cousin of CHARLES DARWIN, took the lead in trying to compile tests to measure intelligence. He believed that superhuman intelligence was related to superhuman physical strength (such as eyesight/strength/head size), but the result was of course in vain.

Sir Gordon's attempt aroused more scholars' interest in measuring intelligence. Today, the concepts of intelligence that are supported by many studies and are easy to understand include "mental age" and IQ:

1. The concept of mental age (MENTAL AGE.MA) is more suitable for A scale that expresses the intelligence of preschool children using the concept of "mental age", assuming that intelligence increases with chronological age (CHRONOLOGICALAGE.CA). For a smart child, MA is higher than CA; for a stupid child, MA is lower than CA.

2. The concept of INTELLIGENCE QUOTIENT.IQ can be said to be the simplified version and the aggressive version of the MA concept. The simple

version of IQ uses a simple calculation to turn the relationship between MA and CA into an integer:

IQ = mental age (MA) / chronological age (CA) X100.

When mental age is equal to chronological age, IQ is exactly equal to 100. A child who is 50 months old but only has a legal age of 20 months has an IQ=20/50×100=40. He should be classified as a moderately mentally retarded child and should receive special education as soon as possible.

Wechsler IQ test

However, people’s age increases with the passage of time, but people’s intelligence does not increase at a certain rate. After adolescence, There is also a declining trend. Therefore, the concept used to determine IQ is only suitable for preschool children.

The concept of the advanced version of IQ not only allows people of the same age to compare with each other, solving the limitation of the MA concept being inaccurate with age, but also conducts a more comprehensive test on the different functions of the left and right brains of humans.

The most widely used is the American Wechsler Intelligence Scale (WECHSLER INTHLLLGENCE SCALE). Since the advent of IQ, a scientific and easily graspable indicator of a person's intelligence, IQ has almost become synonymous with "success". Parents who have children with high IQs believe that the high IQ is coming; those with mediocre IQs have to accept strong pressure from their parents, hoping to push the index up by 10.8 points.

Doesn’t high IQ equal success?

However, many astute educators, psychologists and parents have gradually discovered that IQ does not always accurately predict people's achievements. DANIEL COLEMAN, a representative figure in EQ theory, attended an elementary school graduation reunion and discovered that most of the outstanding students in elementary school were only above average in their achievements. On the contrary, the teacher who was famous for fighting naughty people in elementary school, "Headache Pill", People often perform better and become leaders in a certain profession or industry. Then, there is a real need to question the concept that IQ dominates success or failure.

The Rise of EQ

At the same time, Dr. HOWARD GARDNER, who advocates MULTIPLE IMTELLIGENCES, also pointed out that school curriculum focuses on language and mathematics training , only IQ is developed; spatial logic, art, music, and sports are only slightly handled by other courses in the school in the form of minor courses. The curriculum seriously ignores the training of how individuals deal with themselves (intrinsic IQ) and interpersonal relationships (external IQ).

He called the two together emotional intelligence quotient (EQ), separately from IQ.

Does EQ determine a child’s life?

There is a lot of scientific evidence showing that the emotional traits formed in preschool have a considerable impact on children's future performance, whether it is academic performance or interpersonal relationships. Other studies show that people who can climb high positions, do management work or achieve achievements are mostly people who can avoid impatience and nervousness and have stable emotions. In other words, they are people with high EQ, and IQ, which has always been valued ( IQ) turns out to account for only 20 of the factors that make people successful.

Insufficient EQ training for modern children

As society becomes increasingly affluent, most modern families only have one child. Therefore, too many resources are concentrated on one child, and the child’s needs are many. Easily satisfied. But at the same time, the competition in society is becoming more and more fierce, the social system is getting deeper and deeper, and there are more and more restrictions. When a child moves from his comfort zone to the society, his original state of easy satisfaction suddenly changes, making it impossible for the child to adapt. It is easy for them to complain, complain, and be dissatisfied. At the same time, they are unable to adjust their relationship with the environment, so they feel frustrated and depressed. Some people are even rejected by society because they are unwilling to make compromises and adaptations. In extreme cases, they will engage in anti-social behavior, such as Crime, suicide, etc.

Classification of EQ

Mainstream EQ theory generally divides EQ into five links:

1. Understand your own emotions - know what you know, Victory in every battle. Only by knowing your own feelings and preferences can you make appropriate choices and successfully dominate your life.

2. Manage emotions properly - everyone has emotions, and it is normal and humane if emotions fluctuate according to the situation. If the emotions are too extreme or continue to become rigid, and the person concerned cannot master the method of regulating emotions, the person will be easily troubled by emotions. Not only will he not be successful, but his normal operations may also be affected. Therefore, after understanding emotions, you must also know how to regulate them.

3. Self-motivation-nine times out of ten things go wrong in life. When things go wrong, they are often more unforgettable and demoralizing than momentary happiness. Only by having positive thoughts when you are frustrated, being calm and patient when you are impulsive, and effectively distinguishing between immediate pleasure and long-term achievements can you maintain a high degree of enthusiasm and push yourself towards success.

4. Understand the emotions of others - in addition to knowing yourself, of course you must also know the other person, so that you have a chance to speak successfully. If you are able to develop empathy for others and see things and the design process from the perspectives of different participants, your vision will be deeper and broader, and it will be easier to find partners for cooperation.

5. Management of interpersonal relationships--EQ advocates believe that interpersonal relationships are the art of managing other people's emotions. It can be shown through popularity, leadership ability and interpersonal harmony. If you can cooperate with others and use other people's resources, your achievements will naturally be unlimited.

Self-centeredness leads to career crisis

A dilemma faced by China’s new generation is that although they are superior in intelligence and physical fitness, their social skills are weaker than those of the previous two generations. Generally, they are becoming A socially incompetent person, which is not suitable for the modern work mentality. Modern management emphasizes group work and requires employees who can establish good interpersonal relationships. However, the new generation is over-protected by their families, and most of them are only children in the family. They have inflated egos, and campus education only focuses on training students for college entrance exams. Emotional and social training are neglected, so that the emotional development of the new generation is running counter to social development, which will cause obstacles to their future careers or lives.

As long as parents take the lead, train their children early, and properly manage their emotions, so that they can face the constraints of the environment early and make adjustments, this group of children will become top management talents.

Lay a good foundation for EQ from an early age

Everyone’s emotional intelligence begins to develop at an early age, and it is a critical moment before the age of 0-5. Because a child's brain will grow to two-thirds of the adult size, its sophisticated evolution is the fastest stage of the year, and the most important learning abilities also develop during this period, especially the learning of emotional abilities. Emotional experiences have lasting effects throughout life.

The more everyone receives affirmation and affirmation from the moment they are born, the more opportunities they have to learn to accept others from being accepted, and the more emotional intelligence will be improved as a result.

Imagine that a baby who has just woken up, is well fed, and lying comfortably will naturally dance and make joyful sounds. If others respond with a smile and a cheerful tone, the baby will be more excited. If others are very indifferent, or respond with a straight face and a vicious tone, the baby's smile will shrink, and then reveal a confused or frightened face. Most babies will turn their smile into crying, because the body is comfortable and joyful is the spontaneous behavior of babies. feelings. The joyful responses of others intensify one's own joy, and the responses are mutually positive; because the cruelty of others denies the baby's spontaneous feelings, the times are many and frequent, and the baby loses confidence in his own feelings and feels Comfort no longer expresses joy. A baby's fright and crying are signals in response to others, and can also be regarded as responding to other people's feelings.

Everyone is expressing their own feelings at every moment, and they will also receive the feelings of others, the comments from others and themselves, and the negation from others. In this process, the individual's emotional intelligence is developed.

The role of parents

The expression of parents’ feelings is the guide and indicator for the development of children’s emotional intelligence. Parents should respond more positively to their children's feelings: No matter in the eyes of parents, children are excited or troubled by trivial matters, parents should try their best to be involved, accept their children's feelings, and achieve mutual understanding with their children. Parents should not pour cold water on their children when they are excited; do not belittle their children's feelings when they are depressed. After affirming the child's feelings, share the parents' feelings in the same situation at the appropriate time to help the children understand others and understand that everyone can have different feelings in the same situation. While affirming yourself, you must also accept others.

Every communication between parents and children implies an exchange of emotions. Communication several times a day lays the core of children's EQ.

Nowadays, EQ training cannot smoothly enter the corporate training system like IQ training. Although some companies have embarked on the path of EQ training intentionally or unintentionally, their pace has been slow due to the lack of road signs for EQ training.

EQ, the full English name is "Emotional Quotient", and the Chinese translation is emotional intelligence. The current EQ theory believes that although emotional intelligence cannot be measured as specifically as IQ, it also has high and low levels. If a person has high emotional intelligence and a stable emotional intelligence, he will have the ability to accept various emotions with an open mind, the ability to manage his own and other people's emotions, and the ability to promote individuals to think about problems from multiple perspectives. In this way, his IQ and professional skills can be fully utilized, and he can do his job with ease.

EQ training can remove managers’ bad habits

Ye Maolin, a human resources expert at Jinan University, believes that EQ can be improved through learning and training. He said that professional skills training in the traditional sense alone cannot keep up with the pace of management of the times. Under the modern management model that emphasizes "people-oriented", ignoring personal emotional intelligence is a major mistake in corporate decision-making. Because low emotional intelligence will hinder the development of personal abilities and ultimately affect performance. No matter how high the personal ability is, if the emotions are depressed and depressed, it will lead to inaction. Through EQ training, people's sense of responsibility and emotional control can be enhanced. In addition, it can also remove the bad habits of some managers who only talk but do not do things, and think too highly of themselves, so that they can be considerate of their subordinates, put themselves in others' shoes, and achieve unity from top to bottom. , the good effect of unity and improvement within the company.

As for the popular saying in society that "people with high IQ can achieve results in their professions, while people with high EQ can achieve results in management operations", Ye Maolin explained: "It is undeniable that this There is a certain degree of extremeness in this statement, but we must also see the rationality of its existence. From the perspective of corporate management, the purpose of incorporating EQ into the management and development of human resources is to cultivate employees' comprehensive operation and management coordination capabilities. People with high EQ have a relative advantage in management operations, which is worthy of recognition.

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The reason why there is no roadmap for EQ training

Although some people have long been aware of the impact of EQ on management, they have not systematically classified it into management disciplines. According to statistics, Guangzhou No company has yet fully incorporated EQ training into its human resources management system. Some pre-employment training, such as "team building", can only be said to be marginal. To put it another way, some companies have adopted it intentionally or unintentionally. There is no way to do EQ training, but there is a missing signpost for EQ training.

For the slow pace of EQ training, Ye Maolin analyzed that there are mainly the following reasons:

First, The definition of the concept of EQ training is not very clear. Simply put, there is still a lack of a systematic implementation plan for EQ training, whether at home or abroad.

Second, cultivating an individual's EQ is like stimulating the artistic potential in his brain cells. It is a social process, and it cannot be done in one step. However, from the emergence of new things to being widely accepted by people, they need to be gradually diffused. Every stage of reaching the hearts of the people.

Thirdly, the high cost of EQ training is also an important factor that makes some companies feel intimidated. The high cost means that it will directly affect the actual benefits of the company. From the perspective of some managers, it is not worthwhile to invest a lot with a small income.

Fourthly, there is a conceptual misunderstanding that EQ training is not as effective as other trainings (such as IQ training). It reflects a fatal weakness of many domestic companies: short-term behavior. Relatively speaking, EQ training does not have the same immediate effect as IQ training, and it is not directly related to production efficiency. But if a company wants to achieve long-term development. , it must combine corporate development strategy with EQ training, otherwise the company's production line will become a dead end, and the reserve army will be inactive.

What is EQ? It is the English abbreviation of Emotionai Quotient. It means emotional intelligence or emotional intelligence, referred to as emotional intelligence.

In the tradition of Western civilization, rationality has always been emphasized to the extreme. Descartes said: I think, therefore I am. The conclusion is: Human beings can overcome life in a rational way, and feelings are just factors that trouble life.

There is a student at Emmett College who has good grades and scored 800 points on the aptitude test when he entered. Naturally. He is very smart, but it's a pity that he always wanders around, goes to bed late and wakes up late, so he often skips classes. It took him nearly ten years to get his degree.

Some people have great potential, academic qualifications, and opportunities. However, their subsequent experiences were quite different, which is difficult to explain by IQ. In the United States, someone tracked the achievements of 95 middle-aged Harvard students in 1940 and found that in terms of salary, productivity, social status and other aspects, High test scores in school do not necessarily mean high achievements. Satisfaction with life, interpersonal relationships, family, and love will undoubtedly enable her to show her talents in fields that emphasize interpersonal skills. These fields may include sales, management, Diplomacy and so on.

Judy's interpersonal skills were lucky to be discovered so early because her school is conducting a multiple discovery program with the goal of cultivating students' multifaceted intelligence. The school firmly believes that human abilities are definitely not limited to speaking, reading, and writing that traditional education focuses on. Judy's interpersonal skills are also a talent worth cultivating. Their drums are not the tallest.

Someone else did the same tracking on 450 boys from poor backgrounds. Most of them came from immigrant families. Two-thirds of the families relied on social assistance. They lived in famous slums and had half the children's IQ. Below 90. Research has also found that IQ is disproportionate to its achievements. For example, 7% of people with an IQ below 80 have been unemployed for more than ten years, and 7% of people with an IQ over 100 have been unemployed for more than ten years. For a middle-aged man in his 40s, IQ has a certain relationship with his social status at that time, but the greater impact is the ability to deal with frustrations, control emotions, and get along with others developed in childhood.

Another study focused on a number of valedictorian and salutatorian students from a middle school in Illinois in 1981. The average IQ of these people was the highest in the school, and they all had good grades after going to college. But by the age of 30, his performance was mediocre.

Ten years after graduating from high school, only 1/4 of people have reached the highest level of their age in their profession, and many people's performance is even far worse than that of their peers.

At first glance, four-year-old Judy seems to be a bit isolated and less integrated than the other children. She always plays games on the fringes rather than fully immersed in them. In fact, Judy has a very keen observation of the interpersonal ecology of kindergarten. It can be said that her understanding of other people is far better than that of her peers.

But Judy's abilities have never been discovered. Until one day the teacher gathered all the children to play a game. The way to play the game is to tie some dummies with sticks, with pictures of classmates and teachers on their heads, and ask students to point out the corners where other students like to play the most, or which classmate is the best friend. This kind of game can be said to be the best test of children's social observation ability. Judy turned out to be the most observant.

Judy has a clear grasp of the interpersonal ecology of her classmates, which is almost unbelievable for a 12-year-old child. After Judy grew up, these students were encouraged to develop their talents in an all-round way, thereby expanding school education into life education.

The soul figure leading this plan is Gardner, a professor of psychology at the School of Psychology at the Harvard School of Education. Gardner said: "Times have changed, and our definition of talent should be expanded. Education has a positive impact on children. The greatest help is to guide them into appropriate fields so that they can realize their potential and gain the greatest sense of achievement. Today we have completely ignored this goal. We implement education that treats everyone equally; as if we want to educate everyone into a university. Professor, everyone is evaluated based on this narrow standard. What we should do is to reduce the number of evaluations and focus more on identifying and cultivating everyone's talents. Success can be defined in countless ways, and the paths to success are also ever-changing." /p>

Traditional ideas about intelligence have many limitations, and Gardner was one of the few who was the first to point this out. He pointed out that the heyday of intelligence testing began during World War II, when 2 million Americans took the first large-scale paper intelligence test invented by Harvard psychologist Lewis Terman. . The following decades were the so-called IQ thinking model period of Gartner: "It is generally believed that whether a person is smart or not is innate, and what can be changed the day after tomorrow is very limited. Intelligence tests can measure whether a person is smart or stupid. .

The American student entrance aptitude test is also designed based on the same concept, believing that a single aptitude can determine everyone's future. This concept is prevalent in society. Among the five children with the highest IQ, one is excellent in three areas, three are excellent in two areas, and the other is outstanding in only one area. And each person's outstanding areas are divided into various strata. ”

In 1983, Gartner published the far-reaching book "Psychological Structure", which clearly refuted the idea that IQ determines everything, pointing out that success in life does not depend on a single IQ, but on many aspects. Intelligence can be divided into seven main categories. Two of them are what is traditionally called intelligence - language and mathematical logic. The remaining categories include spatial ability (artist or architect), physical ability (such as Martha Van Lamb's elegance). or magician Johnson), musical ability (like Mozart), the last two are two sides of what Gardner calls "personal abilities", one is interpersonal skills, like a therapist or a horse nail like Luther King. World leaders; on the other hand, the ability to see through the soul, such as the psychology master Freud, manifests in you or ordinary people, is the ability to keenly grasp your inner feelings and gain peace and satisfaction from life.

The most important point put forward by Gardiner is diversity, breaking the traditional concept of IQ as a single unshakable standard.

He pointed out that numerous examinations in the academic process are based on a narrow definition of intelligence, which completely fails to reflect the impact of multiple abilities on personal achievement in real life.

Gardiner pointed out that dividing intelligence into seven categories can only be a convenient approach, and the diversity of human talents cannot be simply classified. Gardner and his colleagues have tried to subdivide these seven categories into 20 categories, such as dividing interpersonal skills into four categories: leadership skills, the ability to make friends, the ability to resolve disputes, and the ability to analyze social ecology (previous article shown by four-year-old Judy).

This multi-faceted view of intelligence can more completely present a child's abilities and potential. Gardiner and others once asked students in multiple intelligence classes to take two tests, one was the traditional standard Stanford Binet Children's Intelligence Test, and the other was Gardiner's multiple intelligence test. The results showed that there was no difference in the results of the two tests. Obvious connection.

Children with the highest IQs performed differently on multiple tests of 10 categories of intelligence. For example: 4 are good at music, 2 are good at visual arts, 1 has excellent social understanding ability, 1 is good at logic, and 1 is language. The five children with high IQ are not very good at sports, numbers, and mechanics. Sports and numbers are even the weaknesses of two of the children.

Gartner concluded that the Stanford Binet Intelligence Test cannot predict children's performance in multiple intelligence domains. On the contrary, teachers and parents can use the multiple intelligence test to understand the aptitudes that children may have outstanding performance in the future.

Gartner later continued to develop his concept of multiple intelligences. About ten years after his theory first came out, he put forward an incisive explanation of personal intelligence: Interpersonal intelligence is the ability to understand other people, including understanding The motivations and methods of others, and how to cooperate with others. Successful salespeople, politicians, teachers, therapists, and religious leaders are likely to have high levels of interpersonal intelligence. Intrapersonal intelligence...is similar to interpersonal intelligence and uses this knowledge to solve life's problems.

Gardiner talked about these two kinds of intelligence in another article. He said that the precise definition of interpersonal intelligence is: "The ability to recognize other people's emotions, temperaments, motivations, desires, etc., and to do Moderate response." Intrapersonal intelligence is the key to self-understanding, which refers to "the ability to recognize one's own feelings, distinguish their similarities and differences, and use them as the basis for personal behavior."

To further explore personal intelligence, we have to look at other theoretical schools after Gardner, the most noteworthy of which is the Naru psychologist Peter Salovey, whose research on emotion and intelligence There are very insightful insights into the combination method. However, Salovey is not the first person to work in this direction. Even the most powerful advocates of IQ occasionally try to incorporate emotion into the field of intelligence, and do not believe that emotion and intelligence are conflicting concepts. The well-known psychologist Song Dyke had a great influence on popularizing the concept of IQ in the 1920s and 1930s, but he also wrote an article in Harper's magazine explaining that IQ and emotion are inseparable. He pointed out that social intelligence itself is a part of IQ (so-called social intelligence refers to the ability to understand other people's thoughts and behaviors and make appropriate responses accordingly). Other psychologists believe that social intelligence is nothing more than the skill of manipulating others, that is, making them do what you want regardless of their wishes. However, this definition of social intelligence was not generally accepted by IQ scholars. In 1960, a famous textbook even declared that the concept of social intelligence was "worthless." .

But scholars cannot ignore the importance of interpersonal intelligence after all, because interpersonal intelligence is basically intuitive common sense. Yale psychologist Roger Sternberg once conducted an experiment and asked a group of people to describe what it means to be a "smart person." He found that interpersonal skills are one of the most important traits. After some systematic research, Sternberg came to the same conclusion as Songdike: social intelligence is different from academic intelligence and is a key ability for real-life performance. In terms of practical intelligence, which is highly valued in the professional field, it is important whether managers can understand non-verbal information in detail.

In recent years, more and more psychologists agree with Gardiner. The traditional concept of IQ revolves around narrow language and technical abilities. The most direct predictor of intelligence measurement scores is actually Performance in the classroom or academic achievements are difficult to touch in areas of life other than academics. These psychologists (including Sternberg and Salovey) expanded the definition of intelligence and tried to look at it from the perspective of overall life achievement, thus giving a new evaluation of the importance of individuals or EQ.

When Salovey gave the basic definition of EQ, it covered Gardner's personal intelligence, and then expanded it into five major categories:

①Understand your own emotions. Understanding the nature of emotions is the cornerstone of EQ. This ability to recognize feelings at any time is very important to understanding yourself. People who do not understand their true feelings will inevitably become slaves to their feelings. On the contrary, only by mastering their feelings can they become the masters of life, and they will be able to make more informed decisions about major life events such as marriage or work.

② Manage emotions properly. Emotional management must be based on self-awareness. How to self-comfort and get rid of anxiety, darkness or uneasiness. People who are less capable in this area often have to fight against low emotions, but people who master self-control can quickly get out of the low ebb of life and start over.

③Self-motivation. Whatever it is to focus. To be self-motivated or to be creative, focusing your emotions on a goal is absolutely essential. Achieving anything requires emotional self-control—restraining impulse and delayed gratification. Maintaining a high level of enthusiasm is the driving force for all achievements. Generally speaking, people who are self-motivated are more efficient in everything they do.

④ Recognize the emotions of others. Compassion is also a basic interpersonal skill, also based on self-awareness. People with empathy are better able to detect the needs of others from subtle information. Such people are particularly suitable for working in medical care, teaching, sales and management.

⑤ Management of interpersonal relationships. Relationships are the art of managing other people’s emotions. A person's popularity, leadership ability, and interpersonal harmony are all related to this ability. Those who fully master this ability are often the best in society.

Of course, everyone has different abilities in these aspects. Some people may be very good at handling their own anxiety, but they don’t know how to comfort others’ sadness. Basic abilities may be innate, and there is no advantage. However, the plasticity of the human brain is very high, and any shortcomings in any aspect can be made up for and improved.

Although IQ and EQ are different from each other, they do not conflict with each other. Everyone is a combination of the two. People with high IQ and extremely low EQ, or low IQ and extremely high Eq are very rare. In fact, although IQ and EQ are distinct, there is indeed a certain correlation between them.

But the above analysis can help us analyze and understand personal characteristics. Comparing the two, EQ is still the more important factor that makes us complete individuals.

2． Coping with New Age People

Everyone is familiar with intelligence tests, but there is currently no so-called EQ test, and there may not be one in the future. Although research on EQ is becoming increasingly abundant today, some abilities (such as empathy) can only be tested through real-life reactions, such as asking subjects to judge a person's emotion from his or her expression. However, some people still try to compare the difference between IQ and EQ. Jack Brack, a psychologist at the University of California, Berkeley, used a "self-elasticity" similar to EQ as a standard to compare the difference between high IQ and high EQ, and found that the two are indeed There's a huge difference.

Purely high IQ types can be described as ridiculously exaggerated intellectuals, giants of knowledge, and idiots in life, but there are slight differences between men and women. Such people are often ambitious and efficient, rigid and stubborn, and are not easily troubled by their own problems. In addition, they are also arrogant and judgmental, meticulous and self-repressive, unable to feel at ease in the face of sex and sensual pleasure, alienated and indifferent.

On the contrary, people with high EQ tend to have excellent social skills, are outgoing and cheerful, are not prone to fear or worry, are easily invested in people and things, are usually more upright, compassionate, and have a normal emotional life. Rich but not overstepping the rules, you can be content with yourself or with others.

Women with high IQ are confident in their intelligence, good at expressing their opinions, and have a wide range of intellectual and aesthetic interests. They are usually more introverted, such as brooding, prone to anxiety and guilt, and difficult to express anger openly. The indirect method is commonly used.

Women with higher EQ can express their feelings directly, are confident, feel that life is meaningful, are as outgoing and gregarious as men, are good at adjusting stress, easily make new friends, feel at ease everywhere, and can express humor Creativity, the ability to calmly enjoy sensory experiences. Unlike women with high IQs, such people rarely feel anxious, guilty or brooding.

The definition of intelligence in the 21st century will inevitably undergo new changes. Of course, these types of models are very extreme. Most people have different combinations of IQ and EQ, which are excellent weapons for creating challenges. In life, we are already familiar with IQ, which is Intelligence Quotient. Many people have taken IQ tests, or intelligence quotient tests. Most people believe that a person's IQ is closely related to a person's life. However, those who hold this view today are considered to be greatly out of date!

Extremely significant new discoveries have been made in the research field of human intelligence. The latest foreign research shows that the most accurate and astonishing criterion for measuring achievement is EQ, not IQ.

As mentioned earlier, EQ includes five aspects: ① is to understand one's own emotions; ② is to properly manage one's own emotions; ③ is self-motivation; ④ is to understand the emotions of others; ⑤ is Management of interpersonal relationships.

In life, we often encounter such a phenomenon: some people with high IQ may not necessarily succeed, while some people with high EQ will definitely succeed. Why? Because people with high IQ are generally experts, while people with high EQ have a comprehensive and balanced ability. If we use our ancient Chinese teachings to explain it, it means that a successful person should be a person who is well versed in human nature.

And a person who is skilled in human relations must have a high EQ, not a high IQ. Therefore, if a person wants to succeed, he must greatly improve his EQ. EQ is a basic ability that successful people, especially leaders, should possess.

Extensive research shows that a person's excellent grades in school do not guarantee success in his or her career, nor does it guarantee that he or she will rise to a leadership position in a business or to the top of a professional field. Although we do not deny the ability to learn in school, it is by no means the only condition for success in today's increasingly competitive society. In other words, EQ is no less important than IQ in modern society. What is worth studying is how to strike a balance between reason and emotion. Otherwise, you will only have wisdom and a poor heart. In this complex and ever-changing era, it is easy to Disoriented.

Nowadays, EQ has been included in formal education abroad. Schools in the United States have launched EQ courses alongside traditional language and mathematics courses. In Hong Kong and Taiwan, EQ is also becoming a prominent science.

If we properly trace the history of IQ and EQ, the problem will become more obvious.

IQ has long been regarded as a prerequisite for success in both professional and private life, but this assumption is not an unfounded myth. Whether it is Newton or Einstein, their great achievements are certainly directly related to their IQs, but their achievements cannot be regarded as just the results of great ideas, because they are absolutely impossible to achieve without dynamic emotions and premonitions or intuitions. The one who caused all this.

In Western Europe, the "separation" of emotion and IQ has deep roots, which can be traced back to ancient times. In fact, without the power of emotions to bear and shape, thoughts cannot be developed by history or individuals.

Today, the time has come for us to reposition our emotions. For example, psychology often talks about "emotional shifts." Social and health psychologists, in particular, have long identified “feelings” that have always been ignored. They believe that "feeling" has a certain influence on people's experience and behavior.

Among them, a newer view is that analytical power and rational intelligence are only the fifth most important in life