Full-time baby-sitting makes me anxious, because I'm afraid I'm out of touch with the society, so it's not easy to find a job then. More importantly, I'm afraid I don't have any money and I don't want to talk to my husband. The more I think about it, the more anxious I get.

Actually, you don't have to think about anything. Just sleep, eat and play with your children. If you persist for three years, you will be free.

But during the full-time baby-sitting, you must remember to read more books, read more books, and you will need them after the children go to kindergarten.

and reading more books can also play a regulatory role, so try it.

the hardest thing in the world is to take care of children!

The happiest thing in the world is also taking care of children!

Stay-at-home mothers, whose emotions are greatly influenced by their children, spend their days in busyness and emptiness. Many times I want to do my own thing, but I can't let go of it at all. I always want to stop and have a rest and give my child to someone else ... < P > I believe most precious mothers have this experience, and so do I.. Let me share how I sent it.

whether in urban or rural areas, there are always many full-time mothers who take their babies out and make friends. Time passed quickly with them. And for children, they also found more playmates for them.

Bao Ma has little time to exercise, so going out with her children is the best exercise. Regular exercise is not only good for health, but also can relieve emotions.

If you have leisure time, you can learn yoga, which is a good way to relieve stress through exercise.

Bao Ma should set an example and take care of her children to develop good habits of work and rest. There are fixed times for getting up, eating, taking a lunch break and going out to play every day. Arrange the time reasonably, and the daily pace of life will not be disrupted at will.

Emotions need to be released. If they accumulate for a long time, they will easily go wrong. More communication with her husband can not only let children see the harmony of their parents, but also get encouragement and comfort from their loved ones, which is of great benefit to relaxing their mood.

Stay-at-home mothers should not only feed and clothe their children, but also make them grow up healthily and happily. For example, when I went out today to comb my daughter's beautiful hair and wear a beautiful skirt, and walked down the street, passers-by looked twice and even praised her children. Is Bao Ma particularly proud?

Through scientific parenting, children can get all-round development in language, intelligence, body and emotion. When compared with children of the same age, there are many bright spots on the body, which is undoubtedly the greatest recognition of the value of Bao Ma.

If conditions permit, take your children out for a walk. Traveling is a good choice. It can not only broaden children's horizons, but also fully relax their tense nerves.

the above are some commonly used pressure relief methods. I hope it can help you. Take children out to play more, make more friends, and communicate with family.

generally speaking, it is necessary to minimize the time spent alone with children.

people are gregarious animals, and they will not be lonely if they are accompanied by friends and relatives.

Hello, I'm Zheng Runzhi, a psychological counselor, and I'm glad to answer this question.

before answering the question, I'd like to talk about the anxiety of taking care of the baby full-time.

There is a mother who has been a mother for five years. She once said, "I feel a lot of pressure. On the one hand, I feel reluctant to take care of my children, but on the other hand, I am unwilling. I can't do anything except take care of my children every day."

"and sensitive to her husband's attitude. Perhaps subconsciously, I always want my husband to go home from work early, and then spend time with my children and me. But the truth is, few people get home before nine o'clock. Although he admits that he is not doing well, Ge You still lies and watches TV when he is free at home, and goes to bed directly when he is sleepy. He has already slept in a room by himself.

"Life is trivial, inner emptiness, inferiority, pressure, no sense of accomplishment, and husband's indifference."

If you are a stay-at-home mother, many mothers have experienced the above-mentioned financial pressures, then this sense of powerlessness is often a feeling of powerlessness in our own hearts. How can we fill our hearts with strength and eliminate this sense of powerlessness?

First of all, we should accept this matter naturally, don't think too much, and learn to enjoy this time with our children. We are always worried that the society is progressing and we are afraid that we will be left behind by the society, but we never thought that in a sense, raising children is also a kind of progress, at least in parenting.

Secondly, in fact, most of the time, anxiety is nothing to do, just find something to do for yourself, but if this kind of thing can make you calm down, for example, reading, reading can actually make people feel calm.

Finally, we can also take our children out to do some outdoor activities, and have more communication with other mothers, and talk about each other's experiences in taking care of their children. It is also very happy.

hello! I'm Hehe Ma, and I'm glad to answer your question.

It is very common and normal for a full-time mother to feel anxious.

So how can we alleviate this anxiety? As a full-time nanny, I will give you the following three suggestions:

As a mother, we all know that companionship is the most important thing in the growth of children. When children are young, they need more spiritual companionship from their mothers than material companionship. After weighing the pros and cons, since we have chosen to give up our jobs, we will spend more time with our children and pay more attention to them. There are many parents who can give their lives for their children, but they can't give their time and thoughts for them. However, as a full-time nanny, we have more conditions to spend time, and we have more time to spend with our children. Why not? We can:

After giving birth, we return to our families and lose our jobs, but we can't stop studying. For the sake of children, we put the center on children for the time being, but we must not forget to recharge our batteries, learn to improve ourselves, and make the best preparations for returning to the workplace at that time. Studying while taking care of the baby, busy green and full days will make us forget our anxiety, and days with love and dreams will make us full of struggle motivation. The child is growing, and we are precipitating. When he can go to kindergarten, it is the moment when our precious mother adds value. To this end, we can:

Postpartum is a special stage that affects the relationship between husband and wife. Because of the change of hormones, the shape of the body, and the lack of sleep, Bao Ma's mood is generally bad. Coupled with the hard work of raising children, it is bound to make the relationship between husband and wife go through waves of tests. In the face of contradictions and conflicts, we must learn to communicate; Facing the real noise and the cold war, we should understand each other. To this end, we can do:

We don't have to worry, because we are doing a great thing, and educating our children well is our lifelong pursuit.

In order to make our children have a wonderful childhood, we should spend time with her at home and devote ourselves to him. There is no need to be anxious, let alone depressed, and we will never regret it.

I hope my answer will help you.

Hello, I'm @ walking slowly with a snail. I like to express my educational views in straightforward language. I'm glad to answer your questions.

I am always anxious to take care of my baby full-time. Calm down, look at myself and think about where this anxiety comes from.

why are you so anxious? Is it from a child? Is it from your husband? Is it from your in-laws? Or did it come from yourself?

When you calm down, I believe you will see yourself. All anxiety comes from yourself in the final analysis, and your anxiety comes from talking with your heart.

what are you nervous about? Nervous about being around the children all day, losing yourself and being out of touch with the outside world? Mr. Nervous is away every day, and you are at home every day, and you are gradually estranged from him? Are nervous children fat, thin, not outgoing enough, etc?

the fact that you have to stay at home all day with your baby cannot be changed. So what can you change?

enrich yourself and enrich your mind. You can take good care of your children and do things to improve yourself.

For example, when you are with your child, you read a story to your child. How can you find a story that your child likes better? How can I tell this story better? When telling this story, what kind of knowledge preparation do I need to do in the early stage? If you tell stories with questions like this, after a period of time, the quality of your stories will be greatly improved, which will benefit yourself and your children. Why not?

For example, when cooking meals for children, you can do some homework in advance, such as how old your child is, and what should children pay attention to in their diet? Which foods are more used for his growth? Slowly, you will become more and more thoughtful about your diet.

For example, in your spare time, you can do something you like or read a book. Sit quietly for a while, play a piece of elaborate music and do a meditation; You can even record your child's daily intentions, which will be a precious gift for the child in the future ...

In the process of taking care of the baby full-time, the child grows up day by day, and you and the child grow up together, which is a meaningful thing.

enrich yourself, care for yourself, improve yourself, and don't expect others. When you are yourself, the world in your eyes will be better.

at that time, the anxiety will slowly leave.

Dear sister, please have a try. Do you still have any anxiety about taking care of the baby like this?

Full-time baby-sitting has emotional anxiety, which also happened during the period when I just resigned. Let me share some experiences with you.

Full-time baby-sitting is always anxious. I think there are several reasons:

The discomfort of returning to the family from the familiar workplace; Fear of losing independent financial resources; Worried about the child's nursing accident; Worried that they can't take care of their children; I am afraid that taking care of my baby full-time will affect my future life/career planning.

Of course, according to everyone's situation, the causes of anxiety are different. For example, if the elderly also help to take care of the children, there may be conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and husband and wife have different parenting concepts.

most of these anxieties come from insecurity, that is, the uncontrollable status/field of a brand-new unknown, which leads to various negative emotions.

I didn't quit to take care of the baby until I went to work for another month after my confinement. One or two months before the baby was born, I didn't even dare to hold the baby, because the baby's body was so small and soft, and I was afraid that I would hurt the child by being clumsy.

I ask my mother-in-law to help me do everything, including bathing my children and changing clothes every day. I can't describe the helplessness of being a new mother.

But after I took care of the baby full-time, my mother-in-law went back to her hometown, so I really had to do everything alone. A person dare not bathe his child? A person is afraid to take care of children? That's because you haven't tried.

everyone has the inertia of dependence. If you have someone you can rely on around you, you will be hesitant to do anything, or you will just be the shopkeeper of cutting. Because you know that someone will help you share it, you won't panic.

But when you know that no one can help you but yourself, this "having to" will naturally give you courage.

So from five or six months to almost three years old now, my child is tied up with me 24 hours a day. Besides taking care of her diet, entertainment and play, I have to do all the housework at home.

besides, I have to work part-time to earn money.

I think many of us are anxious because we think too much and do too little. Many troubles and worries. In the paranoia, negative emotions are infinitely magnified, and the conclusion is that I can't do anything.

but when you pay for the deposit, you will find that things are far from as bad as you thought.

children with poor anxiety education? Then learn how to be a mother, read parenting books and ask others about their experiences, etc. Learning and growing up with your children will also give you a sense of accomplishment.

Are you worried about your future career planning or that you have no independent financial resources? Then try all kinds of part-time jobs.

on the premise of not affecting the care of children, take time out to take some professional qualification examinations. As long as you have the heart and action, you will get started slowly.

from my personal experience, I must not let negative emotions bother me for too long, and I must not leave myself in an idle state.

When you have a plan and a goal every day, you will quickly get out of negative emotions, because you can forget these things when you are busy.

Many people think that taking care of children full-time is idle, which is wrong. Raising children is harder than most jobs.

If you play with your children, you will have fun, and if you study with your children, you will have serious counseling ... Find ways to find out the fun and sense of accomplishment of taking care of your baby. This parenting experience will become the most important memory in your life.

of course, no one is perfect, and what he does can't be perfect. When something bad happens, negative emotions will lead it to a worse side, while positive emotions will help to solve it in a better way.

So when you are influenced by some things, I suggest you don't think about anything, just take active actions.

After having children, every family is facing structural changes, and every mother is facing identity changes. All these are sudden, and it is impossible to predict them completely by psychological preparation in advance. "Anxiety" is an emotion that everyone who becomes a mother is bound to have, not only ordinary people who have no name, but also red people who have a halo. For example, papi sauce, which became a new mother not long ago, also sent a message on Mother's Day expressing the feeling that "mom is the hardest job", and the haggard look was true at first glance.

Therefore, it is inevitable to find ways to adjust, but before that, we need to face up to our own emotions. I believe that it is not because we are "stupid", nor because we are "cowardly", nor because we are "narrow-minded".

My child is five years old this year, and I have been taking care of her full-time. I have experienced several anxieties at different stages of her growth. I am happy to share my experience of self-transformation, hoping to help all mothers.

My first anxiety came from confinement, and the source that triggered my mood at that time was the lack of milk. Unlike many mothers, I belong to a more serious person, so I insist on lactagogue through various methods no matter what the facts are. However, when I took Chinese medicine and did a massage, the milk did not increase significantly. When the child cried and screamed every time he ate milk, there was a feeling of depression and disheartening. I began to constantly question myself, reading for so many years just to be a cow.