First, tranquility: God is quiet and God is harmonious.
Bai Yin, a Japanese Zen master, is a good monk. A couple opened a food store near the residence of Zen master in Bai Yin. They have a beautiful daughter. Inadvertently, the couple found their daughter's stomach getting bigger for no reason. This shameful thing made her parents furious!
She finally stammered out the word "Bai Yin" under the repeated pressure of her parents. The couple went to Bai Yin Theory in a rage. After hearing the insults from the other side, Bai Yin simply replied: "That's it?" But things are not over. After the baby was born, the girl's parents gave it to Bai Yin without hesitation.
Second, chastity and tranquility: correct attitude and maintain integrity.
When educating children, it is like making porcelain from an early age, and it is best to start with mud embryos. In Ming Dynasty, Wu's "Family Honesty" said: If you neglect rights and interests when you are young, your character will be bad all your life, and if you are careless, your family will be ruined.
It means: don't be lazy, opportunistic, scheming, clever, and have a set of rules and regulations, which will lead to poor thinking and ruin. On the small side, I always like to take shortcuts. The system above you was formulated after many people studied it at any time. I can make my own guesses and actions.
The system above the country is very good. Here's another one. On the whole, the country's political system is orderly. If it is not satisfactory, it will pester the thief party and endanger the people. Li Zicheng, the thief king in history, is the greatest representative. It's just that in the end, the country broke down and the country broke down. Become a sinner of the first nation.
Third, virtual silence: broad and steady, amiable.
Hong Yingming's "Caigen Tan" in the Ming Dynasty said: It is difficult to be angry. It's hard to say at this time. If you don't understand it today, you will be warned tomorrow, such as thawing in the spring breeze, melting ice in harmony, which is the family model.
Nowadays, compared with the ancients, parents' education is far behind, and they are often beaten, punished and sarcastic. The ancients often reminded them unwittingly that this is also the lack of education.
In Wang Yongbin's Night Talk Around the Furnace in the Qing Dynasty, it was said that the bitch's crying and scolding was of little significance, and it would only stop when it was stopped.
Of course, you can state the severity and consequences; Let her know the disadvantages of doing so, other people's views will converge, and she will not go to the house to leak and even expose the tiles and swear at the night rain.
Quiet sentences, read more when you are upset and tired:
1, don't be demanding in everything, come as you come; Don't frown when you are in trouble, smile when you should; Don't force the result, just do it; Life is simple. When you are calm, you will be calm. Don't refuse to be busy, because it is a kind of enrichment; Don't complain about setbacks, because it is a kind of strength; Don't choose silence, because it is a kind of injury; Don't refuse to smile, because this is your greatest charm!
When you are calm, you can hear your own voice. Perhaps, what you are crazy about is not what you really want, but just accommodating others or society; Perhaps, you are worried, and you don't really want to love or should love, but you don't want to for a while. Sit down, watch the flowers bloom, watch the running water, be calm, and you will see clearly. Smiling at flowers is a kind of quiet happiness; It is a comfortable feeling to watch the flowers fall quietly.
3, life should learn to bear, let it go is survival, let it go is life; What you can afford is ability, but what you can put down is wisdom. Some people can't afford it, so it doesn't matter. Some people can afford it, but they can't. If you can't afford it, you will be mediocre, and if you can't let it go, you will be exhausted. There are too many things to put down in life. As long as we put down those unnecessary burdens, then we will move forward calmly on the road of life!
The real value of life lies not in the stage of life, but in the role we play today. No matter how brilliant the past experience is, it is also a withered flower. Although today's life is ordinary, it is a vibrant seed. Only when you are calm can you feel at ease. People who are impetuous and lack kindness and patience will inevitably lead to a deadlock in life. Restrain impetuousness, only meditation. Meditation needs to use reason to dilute frantic emotions, release the imprisoned past, and meet the unpredictable future with calm. Let your heart calm down, so that you can understand yourself and see the future clearly.
The highest realm of life is understanding, and the highest realm of life is peace of mind. Only with peace of mind can we enter the beauty of "closed doors are deep mountains, and reading is pure land everywhere". Looking at the world from a meditation perspective, the world is an oasis full of tranquility. Even if there is cicada singing, you will feel the artistic conception of "quieter in the forest and more secluded in the mountains" Inner carefree nature, completely immersed in the bright moon and breeze, will have a refreshing feeling. Calm as water, do whatever you want.
6. The quieter people are, the more they can objectively understand the world. Many times, it's not that I can't see through it, just because my heart is too messy. Not cold, not awake, not quiet, not far away. Silence makes wisdom, and the reason why wise people are not confused is that apart from learning, it is more important to be calm. If you want to see the world clearly, you must first precipitate your own heart. Don't let a stone break your heart.
7. The road of life needs to move forward step by step, and it needs unremitting efforts and dedication. There is no shadow of the past in the world, only the mood of the past. Life in this world is bound to go through ups and downs, and finally the power of heaven can be created. If someone tells you that he succeeded in one day, please don't believe that there is no shortcut in the world and success is never accidental.