"double income no kids" refers to the urban people who stick to the Dink family model with two incomes and no children. Most of them were born in the 197s and 198s. Have a good academic background; Strong spending power, no need to save money for children; Rarely use the kitchen, do not deal with daily necessities; Often go out on vacation; Income is above average. From the end of 199s, a "Dink" family began to appear in Xi 'an, which was accused of "no offspring, no sense of responsibility and no worries" and remained marginalized in society. Nowadays, due to the increasing work pressure and the rising cost of child rearing, some young people choose "Dink", and some of them later choose to give up "Dink" and become "Bai Ding", but there are also many "Pinkod" who stick to the end.
Recently, the reporter conducted an investigation and interview on the living conditions of double income no kids in Xi 'an, revealing the ups and downs of the Dink family. Most Dinks expect "tolerance and understanding from family and society". There are also some "dinks" who go their own way, only care about their own feelings, and don't care how people evaluate them, emphasizing the unique feeling of "I am dink, I am happy".
The old "Dink" was too busy to have children in business
double income no kids in Xi 'an appeared in the late 199s. Zhang Lin, 38, claims to be the first generation of "Dink" in Xi 'an, and there is a kind of chic and self-satisfaction in his speech. Zhang Lin is now the general agent of a pharmaceutical factory in Guangdong in Xi 'an, with an annual salary of 3, yuan. He got married in 1998. At that time, at the age of 26, he joined the business world as soon as he graduated from college. He went from a salesman selling drugs door to door to a general agent. The vagrant life and fierce market competition made him too busy to take care of his family, let alone have children. Zhang Lin's wife Xiao Xiao works as a tour guide in a foreign-related travel agency and flies all over the world. The two people are divided into more and less, and the matter of having children is pushed again and again. Later, Zhang Linrong was promoted to the general agent, and his wife Xiao Xiao became the vice president of the travel agency. The two made small achievements in their careers. To paraphrase a fashionable phrase, "You can close the mountain to facilitate afforestation (people)", but they have adapted to the world of two people, and they lack psychological preparation for the arrival of the third party "children" and become a heavy burden; Then, when they were older, they missed the best childbearing age. After careful consideration, the couple decided not to have children and joined the "DINK clan".
It doesn't matter to Mr. and Mrs. Zhang Lin that they don't have children, but they are strongly opposed by their parents. Fortunately, the three Zhang brothers won't break up. As a compromise, they promised to pay all the expenses for their younger brother's son to go to school until he graduated from college. "This is also a psychological balance. Anyway, we can't spend all the money we earn, so we should support the society." Zhang Lin is very open-minded
according to a survey by reporters, most of double income no kids in Xi' an are born in the 197s and 198s. They have a good academic background and strong spending power. They don't need to save money for their children, seldom use the kitchen, don't deal with daily necessities, and often go out for holidays, earning above average.
the petty bourgeoisie life of the "Dink" couple
Some people describe that the woman who chooses "Dink" is like getting on a carrier rocket, being exhausted in the workplace and paying attention to quality in life. They are avant-garde, emphasize autonomy and equality, are willing to try a new life, and can tolerate their husbands' blandness and gentleness. As long as each other feels complacent, happy, interdependent and appreciative, it is a tasteful and quality life.
3-year-old Villi and her husband Qiao Wangshan are college classmates. Villi is called a "strong woman" because of her vigorous and vigorous work, while her husband is a gentle man who is very "petty bourgeoisie" and enjoys life very much. What he yearns for is a leisurely and stable job, traveling every year, playing bridge and playing Go in his spare time.
After graduating from college, Villi worked as a real estate salesman in Xi 'an. Shortly after the marriage, her husband Qiao Wangshan went to Tianjin to develop and became the head of a private enterprise planning department in Tianjin. Villi has her own unique goal in life. Although her decision to be a "double income no kids" was persuaded and opposed by many people, including her parents, she still chose a "Dink" family very firmly. Last year, Qiao Wangshan returned to Xi 'an with the help of Villi, and worked as an ordinary clerk in the personnel department of an enterprise. His salary was not high, his work was not too busy, and he had no ambition, so he decided to be a housewife. Villi is very busy at work, and she is also busy charging and studying in her spare time. However, her husband lives a chic life, occasionally going to a classic movie or a concert, often participating in the activities of the bridge club, and traveling on sunny days. On weekends, they will hold a small-scale party at home, light candles, drink Brazilian coffee and French red wine, listen to music and recite poems ...
They have their own lifestyles and interests, and they have their own circles, because they are free and unconstrained. Li Huite likes this kind of life and is used to it. She doesn't want her children to change anything. For the future, Villi said, maybe she will go to a remote area to help raise a child who is out of school, or claim a adopted daughter among her close friends, which is considered as a sustenance. Wait until you retire to complete your travel plan. As for providing for the aged, Villi said that the couple had taken out several old-age insurances, and when they could not move in the future, they sent themselves to a nursing home without adding any burden to anyone.
Ding Gou-the highest level of "DINK" in Xi 'an
Families without children are inevitably monotonous and lonely, and life always has a sustenance. Therefore, "double income no kids" chose to keep pets to pass the time and relieve fatigue and fatigue, and their care for pets is no less than their own children.
On August 1st, when the reporter interviewed Zhang Lin's home in "Old double income no kids", he saw that the Zhang family kept a deer dog, a Beijing Ba dog and two purebred Persian cats. Cat food and dog food are all imported, and even the sand covered by cats is specially bought with money. When Zhang Lin saw his dog and cat, he barked at them one by one, and they were very affectionate. He held the deer dog named "Bao Bao" in his arms for a while, put it on his back for a while, kissed his mouth and licked his nose, causing other dogs and cats to turn around him, and the room was in a mess. At this time, Xiao Xiao, the hostess, came forward as her mother, who relieved her father and formed another caring center.
Mr. and Mrs. Zhang Lin call themselves "Dinggou", that is, Pinkod. They are a group of people who vowed to bring Dingke to the extreme (carry him to the end). After marriage, they changed their children to dogs. They are the highest level of "Dink" in Xi 'an, so some people call them "Dink with ashes". Among the Dink families interviewed by reporters, "Ding Gou" accounted for more than half of the interviews, and became the main component of the "double income no kids" in Xi 'an.
The "Dink" in Xi 'an tends to be marginalized.
"There are three kinds of unfilial behaviors, and it is great if there is no empress". In the ancient tradition of China, it is human instinct and responsibility to have children, while "double income no kids" will inevitably be criticized for not having children and not taking social responsibility. At the same time, his life concept has not been accepted by the mainstream society, and has been marginalized.
Last October, a netizen posted on the Internet asking double income no kids, "Why don't you have children? It's not like you can't afford to have children. You have fun for yourself, and you completely ignore your parents' feelings. Think about how much your parents want to hug their grandchildren. Have you thought about the feelings of the elderly? You are a group of selfish people, and you shouldn't have come into this world! I really despise these selfish dinks who don't want children. These people who think they live an elegant, clean, unrestrained and free life can't taste the excitement, joy and satisfaction of being a new father and mother. Because having children is a complete life, and having children will continue your love ... "
" I choose Dink as my freedom. What are your reasons? What is the need for you to interfere with me? " After the post was issued, it was strongly opposed by many "double income no kids", including the netizen "Avanti". Subsequently, the netizen "Xi 'an Dink", who has been married for 7 years and has not given birth to a child, posted on the Internet that bearing a child will cost hundreds of thousands of yuan economically and bear unspeakable pressure psychologically. Finally, she said frankly: "When we get out of the misunderstanding of fertility, you will find that you have more. Some people will say, has such a person disappeared? There is no one in the country? Don't worry, there are enough people who think differently from us, and the world works without you. "
With regard to the living conditions of double income no kids, Jiang Jianjian, an analyst of Horizon Research Consulting Group, said that the existence of Dink's consciousness reflects the diversity of social fertility wishes from the side, and will also play a certain buffer role in liberalizing fertility restrictions. In the long run, it will be an important way to adjust the birth policy. Jiang Jianjian also analyzed that with the continuous accumulation of experience in the one-child education and the gradual improvement of the social security system, even if the birth restriction is liberalized, people's fertility behavior will tend to be rational.
Wang Guoqi, vice-president of Shaanxi Family Education Research Association and director of the Institute of Sociology of Xi 'an Academy of Social Sciences, thinks that family changes are the epitome of social changes, and childbearing is no longer the most important function of the family, which should be said to be social progress. People with different backgrounds and experiences can choose their own family structure according to their own understanding and values, which also needs to be understood and accepted by the whole society. However, it is indeed the family's responsibility to have offspring and maintain human reproduction. Having children can make both husband and wife psychologically healthier and understand their parents' kindness from the hard work of raising children. Therefore, don't blindly or even impulsively choose not to have children and be "double income no kids".