The awakening of a 45-year-old woman: When people reach middle age, they no longer struggle with love. What do they just want to do well in the rest of their lives? Spend more energy on your children

Love is a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of a family. Li Min used to spend a lot of energy on her husband for a long time. On the one hand, she was afraid that her husband would have an affair, so she tried her best to discipline him; on the other hand, she longed for her husband's care, so she tried her best to please her. As for the child, she left her to her parents for a long time and did not pay enough attention to her. When the child was in the second grade of junior high school, his grades were very poor because of his rebellion. Only then did Li Min realize that he felt guilty for having too many children.

At that time, Li Min transferred a lot of energy to the child, paying special attention to its continuous development. In addition to the physical world, most of it was the spiritual world. With her whole-hearted companionship and education, her son has made great progress and successfully passed the city's key high school. Now, the child is the common pride of both of you and carries his expectations.

Li Min said: "If a woman neglects her children because she pursues the so-called perfect love, that is really a sin. The child's future is expected, and he is on an uphill road, but my husband and I Once you reach middle age, you have to take on the responsibilities of being a parent. Otherwise, you will be sorry for yourself, and you will really be sorry for your children. "Now Li Min understands clearly that she cannot rely solely on marriage. In life, even if she and her husband are separated, she will not be too lonely in her future life because she has children. Spend more time on yourself

After Li Min turned 42, she did many things that she was afraid of doing in the past. Li Min is the kind of woman who "never stops learning". She taught fashion design in the early years, and then picked it up again as a personal hobby. She often participates in design competitions and various amateur fashion shows. She is very proud of herself wearing self-designed clothes.

My friends are all envious of Li Min's figure, saying that he looks like a model when he walks on the catwalk. Therefore, she is more self-disciplined and has always paid special attention to her diet. Now, she loves reading very much and needs to read a book every week. For a long time, Li Min's character has been very stable and her mentality is very good, but looking at her face, you can tell that she is a woman who lives a good life.

When Li Min ignored her husband, she was busy with her own business. Outside of work, she found things to do on her own, sometimes drawing design drawings, sometimes looking for fabrics, and even making her own clothes. When the child comes home on Sunday, she goes to the library with him and then eats out. Her husband sometimes complained that they ignored his feelings and did not go along with him in anything they did. Li Min said that sometimes people are so weird. If you don't pay attention to him, he will pay attention to you. Only when a woman becomes better and better and strives harder can she gain the respect of others. Spend more time making money

Li Min has always been wealthy and free. Now that her son is older, she has more opportunities to do what she wants to do. He is the kind of woman who never gives up on herself. After his fashion design was praised by many friends, she was invited by a clothing store owner to cooperate with him in running a store and applied for a registered trademark. , began to engage in customized clothing business. The store is mainly run by a good friend, and she is only responsible for producing design drawings. Because everyone has some online resources, the business in their stores has gradually improved.

Li Min said that she was self-defeating. She originally just wanted to distract herself from her husband and enrich herself. Unexpectedly, it turned into something that could make money. It was really good. She said: "I don't like to reach out and ask boys if they need money. In the past, my husband would help me with how much money I needed. I also get a share of the income, so it doesn't count as a loss at home. Now my store I also have a good income, and even my husband is right, so I look at him differently."