Share the experience of parents in educating their children. First, insist on studying, learn the related knowledge of family education, study the psychological and physical development of teenagers, and study how to arrange children's diet and work and rest reasonably, so as to improve the quality of parents in an all-round way. For example, parents can read more books and magazines about family education and family health care, and watch more TV lectures about family education, which will be of great help to improve the comprehensive quality of our parents.
Second, do a good job in logistics; For example, children in high school have a heavy learning task, so they should ensure adequate nutrition, especially breakfast, because after a night's sleep, the children have completely digested the food on the first day and their stomachs are completely empty. I'm hungry. I study for a long time in the morning, and most of them are main courses. I need to invest a lot of energy and consume a lot of energy. Therefore, just eating steamed bread to satisfy hunger, children will feel hungry at ten o'clock, which will cause cerebral ischemia and directly affect the learning effect of three or four classes. Studies show that protein food stays in the stomach for about four hours, while starch food stays in the stomach for just over two hours. Therefore, eat some high-protein foods such as eggs, milk and soybean milk for breakfast. Children's clothes should be neat and generous, and they must not follow the fashion, and they should be more ostentatious than famous brands. This will distract children's excessive energy, stimulate their desire to compare with others, and pay attention to the result of dressing up, which will also make children more likely to sleep like puppy love: children's high school study tasks are heavy, and they should have a good rest environment to ensure that children have enough sleep. Good sleep is an important guarantee for good study. Regarding the issue of partial eclipse, I think there is a period of emphasis in one period, which is not the focus of correcting children's partial eclipse in high schools. Parents can take care of their children's tastes and let them eat well while satisfying their children's comprehensive nutrition.
Third, teaching by example is more important than teaching by example. We should create a positive and harmonious family atmosphere. Parents should become learning parents, and their learning behavior will exert a subtle influence on their children. Families with primary and secondary school students, it is best not to play cards and mahjong at home often, and it is best not to drink and chat at weddings all day. It is better to give children a relatively quiet learning environment. If there are differences between husband and wife, it is best not to make noise in front of the children. When the children are not at home, they can sit down and discuss it slowly. Especially the differences in educational concepts, should not be argued in front of children, as the saying goes? Others teach their sons before, and then persuade their husbands? Only in this way can there be a harmonious family atmosphere.
Fourth, parents should have a correct educational concept. To make children grow up, we must first make children become talents. Not all of them may be admitted to Tsinghua Peking University, but they must grow up to be healthy in all aspects of body and mind, and useful to the country and society. In terms of educational philosophy, I think we should pay attention to the following aspects:
1. Be responsible, make clear the purpose of your study, and let children know that when they were young, they should be responsible for their families, their parents, their teachers, themselves and the future collective country and society. They should know that learning opportunities are hard-won, their parents have made efforts for them, and the future society needs a large number of high-quality workers, who shoulder responsibilities in the future society.
2. Have a strong interest in learning. Cultivate hobbies in interest. For a person who loves learning, learning is a pleasure rather than a burden. The future society is a learning society, and people who don't like learning can't do much in the future society.
3. Cultivate children's good will quality. This includes consciousness, decisiveness, toughness, self-control and so on. You will often encounter all kinds of difficulties in your study. You must have the perseverance to overcome difficulties and conquer fortresses, and finally you can move towards new glory. In the process of learning, you will encounter various temptations, such as chatting online and playing games. You need to have good self-control ability to overcome these temptations and devote yourself to your study.
Parents should be children's intimate friends. We should pay attention to protecting children's self-esteem, helping them build up their self-confidence, educating them to learn to understand and care about others, giving them good interpersonal relationships, giving themselves a harmonious learning environment, paying attention to their psychological development and helping them to pass adolescence smoothly.
Pay attention to children's psychological development. Some problems should be subtly passed on to children in the usual small talk, instead of waiting for the development of problems and adopting rude and arbitrary education methods. For example, the problem of puppy love, parents can show their attitude to this problem when watching TV or talking about the problem of puppy love of children of acquaintances. A teacher once said when educating students that the fruit of love is beautiful, but the immature fruit is bitter. The student period is the golden age of long knowledge. Although the children in this period have grown taller and looked like adults, their hearts are not fully mature, and everyone's future development is still unknown. At this time, falling in love is easy to handle, which will not only affect your studies, but also cast a shadow over your future love life.
Don't blame the children in front of outsiders. There is no right or wrong, let alone settling old scores. Especially don't blame children in front of classmates. Put yourself in others' shoes. How would you feel if you were treated by your superiors in public? Everyone wants to be understood, praised and respected by others. For children's test scores, it is normal to realize that there are fluctuations. We shouldn't always complain about low rankings and other problems. Instead, it is necessary to help children analyze where the problem lies after the exam, whether it is sloppy, or whether the exam does not allocate time reasonably, which leads to the problems that will be done in the end, and then make targeted improvements. Every exam, children's scores in all subjects will always improve and their rankings will decrease. Encourage children's progress in time and help them build self-confidence. In addition, parents and family members care about each other and understand each other, and neighbors should help each other and live in harmony. It will have a good educational effect on children. Educate children to learn tolerance and understanding, so that children can have a good relationship with classmates and teachers and a harmonious and happy learning environment.
Don't spoil your children. Now most of them are independent children. Parents care about their children. Children will love themselves in life and care more about their children. They can't be soft in their studies. When studying, they should concentrate on their studies. Don't send something to eat for a while and something to drink for a while, which will affect their concentration on their studies.
Share the experience of parents in educating their children. First, lead by example.
Educator Mr. Tao Xingzhi said? Thousands of teachers in Qian Qian teach people to seek truth, and thousands of students in Qian Qian learn to be human. ? Parents, as children's first teachers, are the objects of children's worship and imitation, and the most important source of information that affects children's behavior habits. The biggest feature of family education is subtle influence. Parents' words and deeds in daily life often unconsciously affect their children. Parents' behavior habits, standards of right and wrong, attitudes towards others, moral concepts and many other aspects affect children all the time. Parents are children's mirrors. If you want your child to be what kind of person, parents should be like that first. Honest parents can cultivate honest children; Parents who swear can't cultivate civilized children; Selfish parents cannot raise selfless children. In order to cultivate children's good personality, parents themselves must match words with deeds and set an example for their children. Only in this way can they play a unique educational role for their healthy growth. At this point, I have a concrete experience. I have spoken English, haven't I? Get out? I don't know when I was taught by your heart. If things are not good, I say get out, and some children in kindergarten will learn. When I saw something bad, I kept saying to your heart: Mom is wrong, let's change it together. It took a long time to get better. Some bad habits are easy for children to learn, difficult to change, and even affect their lives. We parents should pay special attention.
Second, cultivate children's good habits.
Nowadays, many parents measure whether their children are smart and studious by how many things they have learned, such as how many Tang poems they can recite and how many words they can recognize. I think this is wrong. In fact, for children of this age in our family, it is most important to develop good habits. We should get rid of some bad habits of children according to their characteristics.
@ _ @ I am the dividing line @ @ @ Our family is very active and it is not easy to concentrate. I will train him to be more attentive on weekdays. For example, I often take turns counting with you. I count 1, he counts 2, I count 3 and he counts 4 to see who counts wrong first. Your favorite play. On toys, his father and I consciously bought him more building blocks. Your heart likes to play with building blocks, sometimes for more than an hour. These are very helpful to improve your concentration. I feel that your concentration has been greatly improved since you entered the middle class. In addition, a lot of content is incomprehensible to children around the age of four. Sometimes we can only force him to study mechanically. If children are not interested, it will have a bad influence on their future study. We should arrange some content according to our children's preferences. We like listening to stories recently, so I chose some easy-to-understand stories to read to him. After a while, I can teach him some simple words Let him retell the story himself, or make some mistakes intentionally when he speaks, and your heart will take the initiative to point out the mistakes to me. At this time, we must first admit our mistakes in time and praise our children's carefulness. In this process, we actually exercised our children's various abilities. As a father or mother, what we must consider is how to give our children a happy childhood, which is not an easy task, because the power of lasting happiness is always stronger than instant happiness. Only by accumulating little by little happiness can children have a real positive impact in the process of growing up and laugh at life in the future.
Third, strengthen communication and be a good teacher and friend for children.
In the previous stage, when I found that your heart was eating snacks at home, he always stole them away when I was not looking. In the past, he always asked my permission before taking them away. I was angry at first, but it didn't work. I suddenly realized that your heart is growing day by day. He knew that if he asked his mother, maybe his mother would not let him eat, so he might as well not ask. After thinking about this, I said to your heart: you can eat if you want, but there are limits. You can't eat too much at a time, okay? You are very happy in your heart. When you want to eat in the future, ask me if I can measure it myself. From this incident, I feel that when children grow up, they lie or don't want to communicate with our parents. Therefore, it is necessary to satisfy the children in some harmless little things. If children feel that some of his reasonable demands can be met by us, they will believe that we are people they can trust and will be willing to communicate with us on many things over time.
Fourth, creative praise.
Now our parents realize the importance of appreciating success, but when you want to praise your children, you shouldn't just say:? How nice! You are doing very well. ? Because everything our child does may be the first time for him, or it is very exciting for him. Your boring praise is definitely not enough for children. Let's have something fresh! For example, your child drew a big mangrove tree and showed it to you happily. Why don't you just say: How beautiful! ? It may not be enough. You can say this to your children. I like the way you draw big trees. Never has a tree looked so beautiful! ? In this way, children will be greatly encouraged. Such praise is obviously of practical significance to children, and children will think that you really like his works. In addition, when your child makes progress in a certain aspect, you certainly need to praise him. When praising, it is best to clearly point out what you admire most about him!
Fifth, teach children to solve problems by themselves.
As the old saying goes:? Only by tying your shoelaces can you walk steadily step by step? Mastering any skill can make children face the future and life better. Therefore, teaching children to solve their own problems can be said to be a skill to get happiness, because no one who can't solve their own problems will live happily. When children find that they can actually solve their own problems, they will feel very happy and satisfied!
Share the experience of parents in educating their children (1) First, create a good family environment.
Family harmony is very important for children's growth. Love between family members will help children learn tolerance, understanding, love, love others and love themselves. Without the care of family, children will become more and more indifferent and selfish. I have seen many cases, such as children's depravity, numbness and so on, all because the family lacks love. Imagine a child who doesn't even love his parents and family, will he still care about strangers? Therefore, we must create a warm and harmonious family life for our children and let them live a happy and worry-free life.
(2) Parents should set an example.
In family education, parents are role models for children, and their words and deeds will have a great influence on children inadvertently. Therefore, when parents ask their children to be polite and respect others, can they think about whether they have done so? I remember once, Han Han made a mistake, and I severely reprimanded him and said some harsh words, saying that if you do this again, I will hit you. I didn't think there was a problem at first, but later he actually learned this sentence and kept saying that I hit you. This makes me regret and feel sad. I regret that I shouldn't have said this to my children before. Sadly, my child said this to his mother. Therefore, when children can still correct, we parents must be cautious and think twice about our every move. No matter how angry you are, think about what effect I will have on the children.
(3) Appropriate rewards and punishments, seeking truth from facts, children losing their temper, cold treatment.
If the child is right, we should praise him positively. If the child is wrong, we should correct him in time. Reward and punishment should be measured, and enough is enough. Although education experts now advocate praising children more, I think this is another matter because I have personal experience. Han Han played with building blocks when he was one year old. It was a mistake, but I think he praised and encouraged him the first time he played. I tried to promote his progress, but it backfired. On the contrary, every time I made it, I made mistakes and became particularly stubborn. No matter what I said, he still wouldn't listen or accept it. This reminds me that if I had corrected him when he first built it, maybe this would not have happened. Therefore, I insist that parents should seek truth from facts when praising their children, and should not praise them blindly. Of course, the criticism is more moderate. If you criticize too much, or even hit your child, your child will gradually become rebellious. The child did something wrong, but still insisted on using reason to persuade him that he could not turn over the old account. The most important thing is that what you say can make children understand and listen. Han Han did something wrong before, and I will tell him a lot of truth. As a result, he still went his own way. Later, after listening to the expert's advice, he made what you said more acceptable to children, instead of saying some vague truth. And when the child loses his temper willfully, he won't listen to anything you say, so my approach is to treat it coldly and let the child make trouble by himself. Parents can look on coldly. When the child feels that crying is meaningless, when he calms down, we will try to reason with him again, which will make him more acceptable. If we continue to tell him this and that when he loses his temper, it will only aggravate the situation. If the crying continues, then we can only take him away from the scene and distract the child, which may be better.
Let children learn to respect others.
Let children learn to respect others. First of all, parents should learn to respect their children. This is my consistent insistence. When Han Han was very young, I could squat down and listen to his advice. Some people may say what such a young child can think, but it is not. Although the child is young, he is still an individual. He has thoughts, and we should respect him more. For example, Han Han always brings toys when he goes out. At first, the child's grandfather always refused to let him bring toys, but after a long time, he didn't go out. Although the toy is put down, he will still cry for a long time. Now think about it, crying at that time may be because of dissatisfaction with the disrespect of adults. Later I discussed it with Han Han. At first, I discussed with him what toys to take out. Gradually, he took the initiative to discuss with me and became obedient. Even when I am outside and with my child, I will teach him to respect others. For example, if I see other children's toys and want to play with them, I will teach them, and you should discuss with them. When you are not playing, you can give me the toy for a while, ok? When other children want his toys, I will teach him: Give the toys to the children for a while, will you? Everything depends on the child's own wishes, not the wishes of adults. I've made such a mistake before. When I was playing with my friend's children, I saw my friend's children crying for Han Han's toys. I always grabbed Han Han's toys for other children without thinking, so later Han Han developed the habit of crying when he took off his toys while sleeping. I think that I hurt his self-esteem, and my disrespect for him has caused him serious consequences, although Han Han has faded after time.
(5) Let children learn their own things as soon as possible, do it themselves, and cultivate their labor habits.
When Han Han just knew how to sit, we had put him on a stool to have dinner with his family. Although he couldn't eat by himself at that time, we insisted on showing him how adults eat, so Han Han slowly learned to eat by himself and learned to eat with chopsticks very early. As long as he can do things at home, he insists on doing them himself, such as sweeping the floor, washing vegetables, taking chopsticks, moving stools and so on. Many parents think that what children can do at such a young age is getting busier and busier. In fact, it is certain that he can't do well, but as long as he participates, if you always stop him from working, he will feel that his mother doesn't need me, and over time he will no longer be willing to do it. Moreover, the cultivation of work habits will make him cherish the fruits of other people's labor more, such as not littering toys, littering and so on.
(6) Create a learning environment for children and cultivate their study habits.
At one time, the family watched more TV, and Han Han watched more TV. Then I thought I couldn't do this anymore. So now everyone in the family has learned to read, even if they don't read, so Han Han also learned to read. Although it won't take long, habits are gradually formed, and it will be better if they accumulate bit by bit. As the saying goes, it is better to go to Wan Li Road than to study in thousands of books, so I will take my children out for a walk whenever I have time. Learning knowledge in nature is more acceptable to my children. Although education experts don't recommend children to learn ancient poems of Tang poetry at such a young age, I think reading these poems can cultivate children's aesthetic feeling and sense of rhythm, although children still don't understand them. As for children's songs and music, it is certainly beneficial to watch and listen more. The point is that Han Han likes them very much. I think it is most important to cultivate interest.
(7) Cultivate children's masculinity and don't spoil them.
Han Han's father is often in other places, and Han Han doesn't see his father several times a year, so as a mother, I should be a good father as well as a good mother. Therefore, I have been intentionally or unintentionally trying to cultivate Han Han's masculinity, but I don't spoil him very much. For example, when Han Han fell, I never helped him up. I always encourage him to fall and get up, and then pat the dirty things on his body. If it's broken, even if it hurts, it won't show. Just tell him it's okay. So now Hanhan falls down, as long as it's not serious, he basically doesn't cry, just comforting me and saying, Mom, I'm fine! ? Although it seems that I am cold-blooded, I think I did the right thing, especially for a boy, we must cultivate his strong character and not be cowardly.