1. Clear values: Find a person with positive life values and moral standards, and they are more likely to show the characteristics of high emotional intelligence and high IQ.
2. Observe his behavior: pay attention to his concern and concern for others, including family, friends and strangers. See if he shows kindness, patience, respect and care.
3. Communication and emotional expression ability: observe his communication style, whether he can effectively express his feelings, listen to and understand the feelings and needs of others. This shows that he has a high understanding and application ability of emotional intelligence and emotional wisdom.
4. Observe the way he handles conflicts and problems: A person with high emotional intelligence can usually handle conflicts in a mature and rational way, seek solutions to problems, and pay attention to maintaining the harmony of relations.
5. Understand his family upbringing and growth experience: Family environment and growth experience have an important influence on a person's values and behavior habits. Knowing his family background can provide some clues.
Remember, there are no perfect people, but through observation and communication with potential partners, we can better understand their qualities and abilities. At the same time, we should be clear about our expectations and needs, communicate frankly with each other, and establish a relationship of mutual respect, support and love.