Many parents complain that when their children grow up, they become more clingy. When I was a child, I let everyone hug me, but now I'm suddenly afraid of strangers. Some parents say that their children began to wet the bed when they were 3 years old. Why is this happening? What should parents do?
Case: there are two treasures at home, and the boss is the boss? Naive? Get up, Jiaxin won two treasures this year, and she is also a very beautiful girl. She has two small cotton-padded jackets at home, which are envied by relatives and friends. Before giving birth to Bauer, Jiaxin had already communicated with her eldest daughter about having a second child, and the children were very supportive. Considering that the eldest brother is 4 years old and can take care of himself in almost all aspects, the young couple only want a second child.
However, some time after the baby was born, Ma Bao found that the boss seemed to have become a little doll. What did he do? Backward? Phenomenon. I have been able to eat by myself for a long time, and now I always let my father feed me. I also say that my hands hurt and I always find reasons. She couldn't catch up with running before, but now she lets her parents hold her whenever she has the chance, saying nothing and becoming very clingy.
I expected the boss to help me take care of my penis. Great, Jiaxin feels very tired with two babies at the same time. In fact, this phenomenon happens more in the Bauer family. Is this the boss's entry? Behavior retrogression period? Yes
What is this? Behavior retrogression period? ? World famous pediatrician, honorary professor of Harvard University T? Berry? Brazer said: When children make a sudden leap in one development field, they often fall back in other fields. But parents need not worry too much. This retrogression is temporary, some for a month or two, some for half a year, depending on the individual. This is actually a very common phenomenon among children, so parents don't have to worry too much.
Babies in the behavioral regression period will have the following performances:
1. In terms of behavior, the life skills that I mastered a long time ago disappeared in an instant, and I began to rely on adults to solve problems, otherwise I would cry. Such as feeding, wiping, dressing and so on. The acting is a little sticky, as if it were back? Baby? The state of.
2, there may be some thorny problems, such as sudden bed wetting when I am very old, which has been like this for many days.
3. Become timid, cringe, or just the opposite, suddenly appear in interpersonal relationships? Violent tendencies? Children who used to know how to share have become overbearing now. Not only do they not let others share their toys, but they also rob other people's children's toys, which makes parents have a headache.
4. The same is true for sports. Sometimes you will find that your child fell and got hurt inexplicably, but strangely, the child clearly learned to walk a long time ago.
Some parents think it belongs to their children? Rebellious period? It's still early Is it a baby? Fake? Behavior, and thus reprimanded the child, found that the baby's behavior did not change much, but intensified. It's not that the child is rebellious, but that his behavior has regressed. This retrogression just shows that children have made progress in other aspects.
The child is regressing? Because there is? Become? Only? Back? As the pediatrician explained, the child has regressed in some ways because the skills he has mastered have to give way to new skills. It will take him some time to master new skills. At this time, contradictions and retrogression will occur. Parents should treat this problem dialectically. For the record, this one? Advance and retreat? Theory applies to physiological reasons. For example, children love to chew their hands and drool constantly. This is actually a manifestation of his teething. Parents don't have to hit their children's hands for this, but after finding the reason, they can reduce their baby's discomfort by buying grinding sticks or gutta percha.
For another example, children are more easygoing and follow everyone. Is this because they are still here? Face blindness? When they grow up, they will be vigilant and consciously stay away from what they think? Will it hurt? People, this is an instinctive reaction, but also the performance of children's psychological and visual maturity.
Sports is even more interesting. Whether it is fine movements or big movements, the development of babies depends on the strengthening of muscle strength. Children will learn to crawl, grasp, turn over and so on very hard. After children learned this, they began to pay more attention to coordinating these muscle forces, trying to? Balance? Keep up.
However, the initial stress may be unevenly distributed, so there will be some retrogression in the movement, such as stumbling and spraining the ankle. When the child's strength and balance are perfect, this problem is solved.
Another reason is psychological, which is more common in families with many children. Because of Bauer's existence, the boss feels neglected. He is eager to be taken care of by his parents, so he will show some? Backward? In order to attract attention. In this regard, parents must do more homework, even if they find their children's careful thoughts, they should not poke them, but care more and love them more.
How to make children develop good habits? Get it back? ? Although most children's behavior retrogression will naturally recover, they still need parents' timely help and guidance. Can this help children get through it smoothly? Behavior retrogression period? , rebuild self-confidence, and can master new life skills faster and grow rapidly.
So, what should parents do to make their children develop good habits and behaviors? Get it back? And then what?
1, accept this fact.
Recognize that children have? Behavior retrogression period? After that, parents should treat it with normality. Don't scold the child for it? Rebellion? Or? Naive? In fact, children themselves don't quite understand the reasons for this change, and it is easy to have psychological problems when labeling children at will.
Parents should be able to accept this fact and accept their children's retrogressive behavior. And show your attitude, that is, no matter how the child is, parents love him and will always be his strong backing, and you can't fight because the child is not good? Abandon? These should be intuitively felt by children.
2. Avoid comparing children.
First of all, we should avoid comparing our children with other people's children, because parents often make the mistake of comparing the advantages of others with their own shortcomings. Because each child's retrogression period is different, this comparison will only dampen the child's self-esteem and spirit.
Secondly, don't compare older children with their own children, and don't compare their advantages and disadvantages. What do parents often say? Your place is not as good as your 1 year-old brother. This will lead to confrontation between family members, which is not conducive to cultivating the feelings of brothers and sisters.
3. Help children master new skills.
Are the previous efforts and achievements wasted for physical retrogression? Of course not. It just takes a while to get used to it. Parents should encourage their children to get out of the frustration of retrogression and help them master new skills quickly.
For example, in the past, children's building blocks were only as high as piles, and they would be built soon. Now, because of my strong interest in the structure, I may be slow to move because I don't know how to put the house out, and some will lose my temper. Parents should be patient, guide their children to compare and place, and finally achieve their goals.
4. Let older children help you.
For a family with two children, parents should try their best to let the older children help you. First of all, make sure that the time between two children is at least 15 minutes every day. During this leisure time, you can listen to stories or play games together. Then call on older children to help parents take care of their babies, such as taking diapers or feeding them.
When the boss has participated in the life of the second child, will he feel that he still has this home? Sense of control? If we go backwards, this kind of competition will disappear by itself. But this is a process. If older children don't want to, parents can't force them.
Master the above, I hope your baby can learn from it? Devil baby? Change back? Little angel? All right, come on!