This week's book is called "A Thousand Shots and Hundreds of Attacks on the Mind". Nowadays, many books seem to be unable to sell because they cannot afford such a name. I personally don't like such "clickbait", nor do I like the word "mind attack", let alone the word "hit". How to define this "hit"?

So, we don’t talk about “mind-attacking techniques”. In fact, there are some ways of dealing with people that can make others get along more relaxed and happily when they come into contact with you, and enjoy the process of getting along with you. Maybe this is the so-called The "emotional intelligence" of it.

The recency effect means that in an event, people's attitude towards something is usually the stimulus that is presented at the end. For example, you go on a 10-day trip. The first 9 days are very pleasant, you have food, drinks, and hotels, but on the last day something goes wrong and you have a missed flight. As a result, your friend later asked you how you felt about this trip, and you only focused on the unpleasantness at the end, so you gave this trip a bad review. But if you think about it carefully, it is this unpleasantness that makes you not so satisfied with this trip overall.

When applied to our real life, we need to maintain a good image at all times. Because of the recency effect, people will generally evaluate you based on their last impression without knowing it.

Correspondingly, there is something called first impression. This is a situation similar to the recency effect, except that it has one song and one tail.

I don’t know if you feel this way. Think about whether there are some people around you who are particularly ugly (no personal attack intended), but because you have been in contact with them so much, you don’t even think they are ugly. Do you think this kind of appearance is acceptable?

This is because after you meet each other more often, you become very familiar with each other, and you gradually become "accustomed" to the existence of such ugly characters. In other words, increasing the number of meetings can make the other person have a certain "good impression" of you. So, if you want someone to like you in the future, just hang out in front of them more.

When a person wants to open up his chat box, he naturally talks about some topics that he is good at and interested in. When they encounter such topics, they can talk a lot. These topics that they are interested in can allow both parties to have in-depth exchanges. With this as a basis, everyone can speak freely.

A person’s energy is usually reflected by his/her language. If you are depressed, people around you will also feel this emotion and become depressed; if you use positive language to guide, they will naturally use Positive language arouses the enthusiasm of people around you, so you can see many sales companies and even MLM teams shouting slogans and giving blood every day.

Some people are very afraid of causing trouble to others, so they want to do everything by themselves, fearing that they will owe others a favor. But if you are his friend, you will not think of trouble him if something happens. The first thing you think of must be the person who has troubled you. He still owes you a favor! In the end, the more you don't want to trouble others, the less likely they will come to you if something happens.

So remember, you might as well "trouble" others with some trivial matters. As long as it's not too difficult, people will be happy to help you. In the future, I will ask you for help if I have something to do. This is the correct way to communicate.

Around us, there are always a few competitive people who want to have the upper hand in everything. They will feel uncomfortable if they don't compare themselves to others. So on many occasions, we have to win the argument because of the little things, and we won't give in because of the little things. Over time, no one wants to get along with such people because they are too "real".

When does complimenting others work best? Talk behind someone else's back.

Why? Let’s take a look at the following scenario: The leader praises Xiao Hei to Xiao Bai for being responsible and capable. Naturally, Xiao Bai thinks that you are not too bad and know how to see the strengths of others, unlike other leaders who curse people all day long. When I have the opportunity, I will discuss this matter with other colleagues or directly with Xiao Hei.

In this way, Xiao Hei will be very grateful to the leader, which allows him to have face in front of his colleagues and get praise from the leader. He should work harder to repay the company.

This is an application in the workplace, as well as in life.

In a conversation, when you say "mine" instead of "ours" instead of standing in your own perspective, it means that everyone has the same interests. A homogeneous group, you are speaking for the team from the perspective of the team. Having a better sense of team identity because of "ours" will help you get others on your side.

Wouldn’t it be better to consider the above points more to create a better impression among your friends and customers?