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What you say on your first day at work can mean a lot between you and your new employer. The relationship can last forever, or it can be a blip in your career.

J.T. O'Donnell is a career expert, founder of career advice website CAREEREALISM. and author of "Careereali***: The Smart Way to a Satisfying Career?" writer. "If you say something inappropriate, it sets the tone and that could be the reason you're forced to leave within the first three months," O'Donnell said.

Workplace confidence expert Michelle Kerrigan explains: "It's natural to want to be liked - to make a lasting impression and quickly integrate into the group." However, , many people try too hard and then talk too much when they should be listening. ?"

?"At my last company...?" or ?"At my last job...?"

None People like someone who pretends to be knowledgeable.

Rosalinda Oropeza Randall is an expert on etiquette and politeness, ?”Don’t burp in the meeting room? "The author of this article. She recommends going into a new job with energy, but she also recommends being a little humble." Not in the sense of being timid and conservative, but having a learning attitude - not knowing everything. ?"

?"When can I get a raise? ?"

Randall suggested: "How about passing the ninety-day probation period first?"

?"By the way, I have to leave early every Friday . ?"

"If you don't make it a priority to get involved and start working on new things and suddenly drop this bomb on them, it really shows that you're not a good person in this part of the world," O'Donnell said. Is there a lack of communication and respect?".

"They expect you to get in the situation, be there, be enthusiastic, ready, and willing to learn. ?"

?"Who should I interact with in this area, and who should I avoid interacting with? ?"

Questions like these, which essentially ask co-workers to gossip - can be fatal to a career, Randall said. And grumbling between one person and other co-workers It's just their own business, and things may develop that you won't know about.

"Take the time to reach out and say hello to everyone in your department," Randall suggests. ?"Make your own judgment.?"

?"That's not the way I was taught how to do it.?"

O'Donnell suggests, Keep the conversation positive. Bosses don't want to hear what you can't do - they want to hear that you're open-minded and ready to learn their way of doing things.

O'Donnell explained, "That comes out sometimes because people want to be able to demonstrate their expertise, and they think that's why I was hired." "But if you don't express it appropriately, it can really make the organization that just hired you feel negative and critical."

"What's a holiday party like? Do we get bonuses or Ham or something?"

"You're the clumsy actor," said Randall. "When the holidays come, why don't you just wait and see? By the way, if you come up empty handed. Home. What do you do?"

? "What do you need to do to upgrade your company phone?"

If your company phone isn't the latest or flashiest, Then chances are your colleagues aren't either. Asking for an upgrade will undoubtedly alienate some people, who will question whether you think you deserve more.

"Learn to work with what is given to you," Randall said. "If the company is not technical and has older desks, chairs, or office furnishings, don't allow or use them." It determines how you get the job done.

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?"This doesn't make sense. ?”

You may encounter your new company doing things in a way that you don’t understand or agree with, but it formulates it in such a way that it makes you look like someone who is always complaining, or even Worse, it's downright stupid.

O'Donnell advises: "Get some feedback before you make this automatic assumption. ?" Ask why the company does it the way it does, and try to understand the history behind the policy from an organizational perspective rather than saying the policy doesn't make sense to you.

?" Mine The previous boss was incompetent. ?"

Maybe your old boss was a ***, Kerrigan points out, but negative complaints and comparisons are rarely welcome, and these kinds of statements have a negative impact on your professional brand, as well as on you. image. You come across as incompetent.

She said: "Your brand is your trademark, and it is built through consistency of good and bad. Once established as bad, it is difficult to change perceptions. You must create and sustain a memorable, positive brand?".

"This Sunday I would like to invite you all to come to my church. ?"

If it's not work-related, you might also consider bringing the "never discuss politics or religion at the dinner table" rule to your desk.

"These discussions are generally not welcome in a work environment," Randall said. You may find that coworkers avoid you as Friday approaches. ?"

?"In my opinion...?"

In general, O'Donnell advises, "Ask more, tell less." Personal mantra for the day

Unless asked, it’s best to keep your opinions to yourself and see what your employer has to say about things first.

? “What kind of employee discounts are there? ?"

Follow the policies and procedures manual for these types of questions, Randall said.

?"Inquiring about, asking for special treatment is so?" Me, me, me? "-a less than ideal trait. ?"

?"Hey, Donna, work hard or barely work? ! ?"

"Hey Donna, working hard or hardly working?!"

First of all, not convincing.

Secondly, when you may see other Colleagues are teasing each other and think it's okay to get involved - don't do it

O'Donnell said: ?"They get to the point where they can be casual with each other... but you're not there yet. To that extent. ?"

?"Even though it may feel a little reticent to you at first, you have to be respectful, you have to be polite, and you have to prove to people that you're going to do a great job there. . ?” Share it quickly ~ let your friends know! Don’t make the same mistake again! ,