Many people will encounter this situation when they are in love: two people seem to have feelings for each other, and even outsiders can see that the relationship is very ambiguous, but they are still unsure about the relationship. This may be related to one party overexposing themselves.

My best friend Xiaofeng is a small leader of the company, and she and Li Lin from the technical department started to have an affair.

Li Lin’s work requires frequent business trips. Xiaofeng took the initiative to book a high-speed rail ticket for him. When he came back from the business trip, he took the initiative to pick him up at the station and eat with him; when he ate at the construction site, he took the initiative to order takeout and Tell him to take care of his health;

Hearing good songs and seeing beautiful sunsets will unconsciously share them with him; Li Lin’s credit card was maxed out by his family and he couldn’t afford to pay it back, Xiaofeng helped him without saying a word He made a repayment plan and offered to lend him money.

Li Lin would also give Xiaofeng brown sugar and ginger tea when she came to visit her aunt. He carefully remembered her taste in milk tea and meals, and always protected her when crossing the road.

Li Lin has a calm and responsible personality, and their family backgrounds are similar. He is handsome and humorous. He is the ideal type of best friend. However, the two of them have not yet confirmed their relationship, and her best friend is afraid to take the initiative to confess her love. Being rejected doesn't even make you a friend. Xiaofeng came to me distressedly and told me about her sweetness and bitterness.

After analyzing her situation, I found that Xiaofeng was too proactive and dedicated, which made the man feel that his best friend was proactive and enthusiastic and that he had to do it.

Then I encouraged Xiaofeng to guide Li Lin to give, and made requests to him tactfully and politely, so that he could meet the needs of his best friend, and let the two of them be in an equal position in terms of initiative, so that he would not have The feeling that you “have to have him”.

After listening to my words, my best friend began to make changes. When she wanted to drink milk tea, she took the initiative to send a WeChat message to Li Lin: It’s delicious to drink milk tea. I wonder if anyone has taken the initiative; it was thundering and raining at night and I couldn’t sleep. When she was young, she took the initiative to act coquettishly and asked Li Lin to tell her interesting stories about her business trip; when the door lock and light bulb at home were broken, she took the initiative to ask Li Lin to come and help repair it. . . .

After making the change, the relationship between the two people quickly heated up. Last month, they received good news. Li Lin invited him to the park and used a drone to romantically express his love to his best friend. Now the two of them give me dog food every day.

Of course, there are many reasons why you are unable to confirm the relationship as soon as possible during the ambiguous period. Some of them may involve your ex, the other person’s family of origin, low self-esteem, etc.