? 01. Foreword

For those of us who were born in the 1980s in the early days of reform and opening up, as the pace of reform deepens and deepens, the biggest feeling we have is the rapid changes in life. There are new discoveries every year.

As big as the rapid advancement of national policies, economy, and military power. Such as the political confidence, openness, and deepening of reforms that have been marginalized and blocked by ideology; the continuous adjustment and implementation of policies that benefit and support the people; the advancement of marine development strategies from light blue oceans to deep blue oceans; the development and progress of aerospace science and technology, All of them have made a qualitative leap in the country's comprehensive strength!

Something as small as the earth-shaking changes in the way of life of ordinary people. Such as the continuous elimination and innovation of various home appliances; the popularization of travel tools from two-wheeled bicycles to four-wheeled cars; from landline phones to BB machines to "mobile phones" and then to smartphones, the continuous upgrading of electronic products brings convenience and convenience to people. A rich and diverse life; there are also the business models of traditional stores to today's Internet economy, e-commerce/micro-commerce and other models; and the current development of artificial intelligence, which is changing our lives in different ways, allowing us to continue to When we come into contact with new things, new products, and new models, we need to constantly adapt to the new environment and constantly adjust our concepts and mentality, so that we can better integrate into it and better make scientific and technological progress serve mankind.

However, psychologically speaking, people are path dependent: once they make a certain choice, they will habitually keep going on this road and will not easily look back. This mentality limits people's acceptance of The ability of new things makes people conservative, stubborn and narrow-minded.

In fact, those dignitaries who once ridiculed the steam engine later gave up the carriage; those experts and professors who once regarded the Internet as a scourge are now inseparable from it; those who are unwilling to learn to use computers Man, now I can’t even do the cashier job at the front desk.

The development of the world does not depend on anyone’s will, so a resisting attitude is often not only useless, but also gets you into trouble. Now that the change has occurred, the best way is to adapt to it early and make good use of it. We may not feel it now, but those who will be eliminated by society in ten years may be those who do not know how to use smartphones, dare not bind credit cards on WeChat, do not know how to take courses online, and do not understand new technologies in the industry.

If you reject the world again and again, the world may finally abandon you. I deeply understand the saying "When the times abandon you, they never say hello."

? 02 Reasons for not being willing to accept new things

When facing some things, it is not that our age is not good enough, but that our ideas are not good enough. It is not that our physical condition does not support it, but that our conservative habits do not support it.

What is the real reason for not accepting new things?

1. The inertia of unwillingness to take the initiative to change, the pursuit of comfort, and the unwillingness to leave the comfort zone

As we grow older, we all become more or less inert and afraid of trouble. I don’t want to try new things, worry about problems, cause trouble, make myself unhappy or bear collateral losses.

This section is especially prominent among middle-aged and elderly people! Human beings pursue stability, and gradually accumulate a conservative consciousness of being content with the status quo. This inertia and conservative consciousness of being afraid of change and unwilling to use their brains to think, coupled with a little perceptual knowledge of fear and distrust of unknown things. This has resulted in middle-aged and elderly people being slow to accept or even resist new things (specifically reflected in the learning and use of foreign languages, emerging electronic products, network technology knowledge, and new financial tools).

Of course, what we are talking about here is the general and general social situation. There are also some middle-aged and elderly people who are positive and keep up with the times. They study hard, are willing to accept new things, and actively influence and drive the people around them. Peer groups learn and accept new things, which can be regarded as role models and role models for the masses.

2. Lack of self-confidence

Being afraid of new things is actually a manifestation of lack of confidence in yourself or you feel that your own level is not enough. Being conservative means sticking to the rules and not daring to challenge. .

It will be much better to put aside success and failure and approach with a learning attitude. . Don't worry too much about the results, the process is the most important.

Hidden in your temperament are the books you have read and the roads you have traveled, which will leave traces.

3. Lack of motivation

There is no goal in doing things, or you are living too comfortably now. This won’t work, young man! you have to have a chance.

Force yourself to do something you don’t want to do but you find useful. Otherwise, the final result of boiling a frog in warm water can be imagined.

4. Solidification of thinking

There is such a famous experiment: put six bees and the same number of flies into a Put it into a glass bottle and lay the bottle flat with the bottom facing the window. What happened? The bees keep trying to find an exit at the bottom of the bottle until they collapse from exhaustion or starve to death; while the flies escape through the bottleneck at the other end in less than two minutes.

In the above case, because the bee thought that the exit was in the light, it took it for granted to set the direction of the exit, and kept repeating this logical action. It can be said that it is precisely because of this mindset that they have not been able to "get out of the cell." But those flies paid no attention to the so-called logic and had no formula for the light. Instead, they flew around and finally flew out.

In life, each of us has our own way of thinking when doing something, and we also have our own thinking mode when looking at something. However, many times, we often let our thinking become solidified and limited. One's own thinking forms thinking inertia.

What is thinking inertia? Thinking inertia is also called thinking set, and habitual thinking refers to the tendency of people to use fixed patterns or ideas to think and analyze in order to solve problems when considering research problems.

The two most difficult things in the world, besides taking money from other people's pockets, is to change a person's mind. Once habitual thinking is formed, it is difficult to change because it has been accumulated over a long period of time and the cognition has been solidified. He will continue to reinforce his prejudices, which will become deeper and deeper as he continues to use this way of thinking.

Therefore, in life, we always look at things one-sidedly. We judge someone’s heart when we see their appearance. When looking at a task, we are always accustomed to doing it according to what most people do. If you do something different from others, you will think it is different. Thinking stereotypes will constrain people's ideas and make us look at things incompletely.

03 Correct opening method

1. Use more reverse thinking

How to get rid of fixed thinking and get rid of thinking inertia?

You need to think more and use reverse thinking to look at problems.

Reverse thinking, also called alternative thinking, is a way of thinking that reverses common things or opinions that seem to have become a foregone conclusion. Dare to "think the opposite way", let your thinking develop in the direction of the opposite, conduct in-depth exploration from the opposite side of the problem, establish new ideas, and create new images.

When everyone is thinking in a fixed direction of thinking, but you are thinking in the opposite direction alone, this way of thinking is called reverse thinking.

Generally there are three methods:

1), perspective-taking method;

2), perspective-taking method;

3 ), divergent reverse thinking (from one point to many points, from point to surface, from here to there, multi-directional thinking).

Just like many paid communities now, such as paid courses, get, and Fandeng reading software. Generally, people are always interested when they see free ones, but they are less interested in paid ones. However, free ones are also the most expensive. Yes, just like QQ and WeChat are free, so they have a wide audience. Although it seems to be free, in fact, the benefits brought by the platform are far beyond your imagination. You just need to get them in another way!

The 007 writing community I joined this year is a good paid community. Many people may have thought it was good but lost interest when they heard about the paid community. This is human nature and everyone thinks it is good. You know the difference. When you don’t see the value behind it, you can’t feel that it can provide you with a valuable platform, where there are energy fields generated by outstanding comrades from all over the world who have the same hobbies, desire to grow, and like-minded people. , it can continuously stimulate your energy, let you see all kinds of new things and new ideas, constantly refresh and upgrade your knowledge, explore and grow, and constantly transform! If you see this, you may not refuse paid platforms and paid courses!

Just like the law of conservation of energy that we have learned in physics, you must not have imagined that everything in life is inseparable from it. Its content is: Everything is composed of energy and does not appear out of thin air. It can only be transformed from one form to another.

A wise man once said: "All the gains and losses in life are just a phenomenon of the transformation of life energy according to the principle of energy conservation.

This principle in physics , many of us have studied it, but never knew that it can also be used to create wealth, change destiny, and be used in all aspects of life.

When we understand the law of conservation of energy, You can actively use this law to create balance, actively change your destiny, and explore more possibilities!

It is also a good way to cultivate your strong desire for knowledge and do more thinking training.

< p>In short, think more, be diligent in thinking, reflect more, learn more, and train more.

2. Be brave, strong, and have a positive attitude.

You cannot accept new things because you are used to it. Everything in the existing environment has become dependent on you. To overcome these problems, you have to try to change your perspective and mentality.

Because life is inherently a challenge. Life is meaningful. With this kind of mentality, you will not be afraid of new environments. You must be confident in yourself, stimulate your potential, and believe that you can do it, instead of just looking up to others and thinking that others can always do it. When it comes to yourself, you can’t do it! Why can’t the phrase “you can do it” be applied to yourself and become “I can do it too!” ”

Life is a challenge, challenge yourself, challenge new things, challenge new social environment. If you want to accept and understand new things, study hard and challenge!

Contact more with people who have strong self-confidence or people who are lively and active in thinking, and watch more entertaining programs or movies and TV series.

To borrow a word from comrade 007: It is best to overcome fear. The only way to overcome fear is to have more courage than fear.

Just like joining the 007 writing community, seven years is a long span, and there will be many bumps in the road ahead, which we need! To overcome it. It has been nearly half a year since I joined. Every time I am nervous before homework, the trouble of not knowing what to write is something we have to find a way to solve. Although we are still exploring, we have also gained growth along the way and have comrades in arms! We encourage each other, support each other, embrace each other, think about each other, and learn from each other, which always makes people feel warm and touching.

There is nothing scary about new things and new people. The scary thing is to face it yourself! Faced with new people’s mentality and ideas in a new environment, I try to actively communicate with new people around me. I can learn with everyone, and my cognition is also changing little by little. As the saying goes, “Birds of a feather flock together.” "All things and the world are indeed attracted to each other at the same frequency.

In the process of learning from excellent people, you become better bit by bit!

3. Adventurous spirit

Everything has its two sides. When facing an emerging person or thing, we must seriously understand the consequences of failure, have an understanding of it, and Be mentally prepared for the worst, then work hard to find ways to succeed, and continue to do it with concentration and determination. With your efforts, everything may develop in a good direction!

I read the book "Robinson Crusoe" when I was a student and was immediately attracted to it. I highly recommend everyone to read it!

This book tells the story of the protagonist Robinson who was stranded on an unknown desert island during a voyage. Later, when he was desperate, he used his own hands to build a residence, tame wild goats, and keep bees. , growing food and living alone for more than 20 years. Finally returned to his hometown.

The protagonist’s adventurous spirit, perseverance and never-giving spirit infected me. He also used his own hands and wisdom to make enough food and clothing on the island, which allowed us to see that in deep despair, You can achieve the desired results with your own wisdom and hard work! The light of hope will always illuminate your way forward!

4. Don’t set limits for yourself and learn with an empty cup mentality throughout your life

Hong Kong’s richest man Li Ka-shing is an admirable business giant. It is very necessary for us to explore the reasons behind his success. those details, because there is a reason behind success! No one can succeed casually!

According to reports, he has always had a good habit of reading newspapers every day to see the latest news at home and abroad, so that he can understand the trends at home and abroad! Provide reliable information support for his investment! In the early days, newspapers were paper-based, but later switched to electronic information. He followed suit and learned to use computers and new electronic tools such as iPads to keep in line with the times.

What is even more impressive is his language learning. Experience, he is a native of Chaoshan. He has spoken Chaoshan dialect since he was a child. In order to escape the war, his family fled to Hong Kong. Hong Kong is a very competitive business society. If you want to survive here, the first step is to survive. There was a language barrier, and the Cantonese spoken in Hong Kong was Cantonese, so he worked very hard to learn Cantonese. It didn't take long before he learned to speak fluent Cantonese.

For people who grew up in Guangdong, Cantonese is not a big difficulty. The real difficulty is English, and English is the official language of Hong Kong. Learning English is inevitable. Li Ka-shing went to a middle school in Hong Kong. Most of the middle schools in Hong Kong teach in English. Even in Chinese middle schools, more than half of the textbooks are in English. Li Ka-shing's English foundation is almost zero. During class, he feels like he is listening to a book from heaven. Totally confused. The other students in the class were all born in Hong Kong and have been learning English since they were young, so it sounded completely effortless. Li Jiajian knew his own shortcomings and was determined to learn English well. In fact, compared with us, he has a unique English learning environment and started learning English earlier, so the learning process is relatively easy.

But this is also inseparable from his own efforts. In order to learn English well, he holds a vocabulary book in his hand to learn English on the way to and from school every day. In the dead of night, he was afraid of disturbing his family's rest, so he walked alone to the street lights to learn English. At dawn, he got up again and read or recited English aloud. His family members felt that he had gone crazy in learning English.

Later, his father died of illness and the family situation became difficult. He had no choice but to drop out of school to make a living and work as a waiter in a teahouse. He had to face heavy work every day, but this did not kill him. He is determined to learn English and often squeezes out his spare time to learn English. Because of this kind of effort, in the fiercely competitive shopping mall competition in the future, Li Ka-shing benefited a lot from his language advantage and started his career. Li Ka-shing relied on his fluent English to negotiate with foreign businessmen and won the development of the Yangtze River Plastic Factory. The first pot of gold.

Later, as his business empire grew bigger and bigger, he still did not forget to improve his English. At this time, he could already get the best English learning, and he could spend money to hire teachers to study specifically. Because of his persistence, he was able to achieve such great achievements. Throughout his English learning journey, there was a unique sociolinguistic environment, which motivated him to learn English. His own efforts helped him persist. No matter how difficult the learning conditions were, he never gave up.

5. You will feel the beauty of new things if you try them

Travel should be one of the hobbies that most people like, and I am no exception, and I have benefited from it over the years. Big!

Everyone’s living environment and ideas are different, and their ways of traveling are also different. I prefer traveling that is close to nature and challenging!

My travel dream actually started when I was a student. In the second year of secondary school, I took a train for the first time in my life. My classmates and I took a 12-hour standing ticket from Zhangzhou. The train went to Nanping; and when I resigned from my first job, I tried to take a train from Fuzhou for more than 20 hours to Kaifeng University to find my brother, and spent a week in Kaifeng/Luoyang/Zhengzhou, Henan... ......

After that, I got out of hand. I would always use my free time to go to various places to experience different customs, walk into nature, see the miraculous workmanship of nature, and see the sunrise. Unique view of sunset! Go to places you have never been before and increase your knowledge.

The magical thing about traveling is that you use a new and curious mentality to discover new things and unknown worlds every day. You can always get many unexpected surprises and meet new companions during the trip. Although we meet by chance, we can always get along with each other sincerely! The energy of the whole person is full. Put aside the busy work and various worries of life, slow down to perceive yourself, think about the meaning of life, use your eyes and heart to discover the beauty around you, and have a wonderful feeling of sudden enlightenment! It's like recharging yourself, replenishing your tired body with energy to better face the future life.

I hope you have an open mind, view everything in a positive light, and always maintain sufficient curiosity and acceptance for new things.