First, I don't have enough goods in my stomach. This "commodity" may be the lack of knowledge, experience, information and skills. In contact with people, I always feel that I am inferior to others in some aspects, I can't find the point of communication, I am lack of confidence and very passive, so I am afraid.

Second, I have goods in my stomach, but I am introverted and lack the ability to express myself. I can never express myself clearly. Stage fright on the spot, unstable play, leading to nervousness and fear, unwilling to communicate.

Third, the stomach is full of goods, and it can express itself, but it lacks certain interpersonal skills, social and workplace experience, a correct understanding of the law of survival, and even produces disgust, fear and unwillingness to socialize.

For social phobia, the first thing to get rid of is the psychological burden and build confidence.

1, no matter how many goods there are, dare to say. There is a saying in Hou Weidong's official notes: People will die for thousands of years. This is also the way he used to motivate himself. Society is made up of people of different ages, roles, positions, social status and qualities. Everyone's way of thinking, value system, personality and style are naturally different. Each of us has our own specialties. It is also important to have a correct attitude, ask for advice with an open mind, actively explore the meaning of life, and experience.

2, learn more, cultivate their own advantages, that is, core competitiveness, cultivate their own self-confidence, and have an objective evaluation of themselves and others.

3. Train your eloquence and expressiveness. Have you seen the king's speech? As long as you work hard, pay attention to the skills of speech and practice more, you can do it.

4. Establish a correct outlook on things around you. Everything exists for a reason. You can relax a lot by sticking to your inner bottom line, seeking like-minded friends and understanding the essential meaning of some things. I remember the leader said that Zhang was a great man, but he was also very tactful. In order to carry out the Wanli New Deal, he was forced to exchange interests with Feng Bao. People who do great things need to pay attention to the pattern.

5. Read books on psychology and get to know yourself and others. Learning more psychology can better understand and solve problems. Many times, troubles are caused by ignorance.

I wish you an early step out of the introverted little world and a new world. Don't be too sensitive, move forward confidently, set a small goal, reap some small gains, face the sea, spring blossoms, and butterflies will come naturally ~

It is the key to overcome social phobia, change the tendency of autism and enhance self-confidence.

1, to participate in social activities, it is best to communicate actively. Establish close ties with others, especially colleagues and strangers at work. If you have more contact, you will get used to it. We have to get out! We can't escape! Only when you face it can you get better! This is also psychological slam therapy.

2. Speaking in many places is the fastest strategy to enhance self-confidence.

3, learn to refuse others, don't give them as soon as they open their mouths, and the refusal must be categorically rejected. Because there is nothing to be embarrassed about, nothing to be embarrassed about! Because people who dare to make unreasonable demands on you are not good people.

4. Raise awareness. Understand that everyone has unlimited potential, everyone can succeed, everyone has advantages and disadvantages, and don't always compare your own shortcomings with others' advantages. We should constantly discover the bright spots in life! Find your own advantages and find your own core competitiveness. Then give full play to your advantages, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and you will certainly make a difference! Others say that they can't find their own advantages and say that they are useless. Really? No! You don't know the rules at all! A person's strengths and weaknesses, strengths and weaknesses are the relationship of unity of opposites, none of them will exist, and those without strengths and weaknesses will not exist! So I hope you can understand the profound truth. Although a person can't be conceited, he can't feel inferior! Only by believing in yourself, reusing yourself and not being afraid of difficulties can we really see a different and brand-new self.

5. Accumulate small successes. Constantly challenging in your field, facing difficulties and accumulating small successes will eventually enhance your self-confidence and make you succeed in this field.

Finally, I tell you that I used to be a person like you, with an autistic tendency and a slight social fear. Later, with my constant efforts and dedication, I made great progress. I think I'm doing well now! I hope the above experience can help you. A person who doesn't socialize can't survive at all! So we must correct it. Qian Qian, the winner, has many difficulties. If you want to change your destiny, don't wait, give full play to your subjective initiative, work hard and act according to objective laws. I believe you can conquer your destiny and get your own happiness!

You are not alone!

When I say "I have social phobia", people who know me usually show a look of "just keep making it up" because they don't want to believe that this guy with strong organizational and communication skills wants to join the team with social phobia.

But I know I am.

We can label ourselves as "introverted", "socially fearful" and "highly sensitive", and it doesn't matter. Most importantly, don't equate yourself with a label. Because people are complicated, you can't use a label to represent them. More importantly, don't be bound by labels. Autism is one option, and learning to endure your social anxiety is another.

I wish you can find a way to live in peace with your social fears as soon as possible!

First, about phobia: phobia is a neurosis in which you are afraid of a certain substance or thing, emotion or idea. But you know it is unnecessary, but you can't get rid of it. Social phobia is a neurosis (manifested as fear and resistance) that is afraid of socializing.

Second, about neurosis: neurosis is the full name of neurosis. Simply understood as neurosis is a disease, manifested as anxiety, depression, fear, compulsion, hypochondriasis, somatization (limb weakness, headache, dizziness, etc. ) and so on. Patients have self-knowledge (relatively stable personality), which is different from psychosis.

Third, neurosis: there will be mild neurosis, and in most cases it will be delayed due to serious psychological abnormalities. Neurotic problems usually appear more than 3 months before psychological distortion, and it is difficult for them to get rid of the need for help.

The questioner felt that he had social phobia and was a little autistic. Judging from being able to ask this question, the questioner has almost no neurosis. Because of the combination of social phobia and autism, I am afraid that the questioner will have strong resistance and fear even in the face of the internet.

Therefore, the questioner is probably a manifestation of psychological emotion, that is, there is a neurotic problem, which may be caused by some bad social influence and is seriously generalized (such as unwilling to attend normal family dinners and not wanting to talk to people, etc.). ).

Because of the performance of social fear, it will lead to reluctance to associate with people and talk to people; This kind of performance of not wanting to communicate and talk is often considered as autism (shutting yourself off, unlike childhood autism). In fact, the two problems boil down to one problem, which is the problem of social fear.

Questioners can try to find out the causes of bad psychological problems at the first time: through self-reflection. Only by solving the initial problem can we get out of this situation completely.

Rome was not built in a day, and the problem of generalization needs to be solved one by one. At this time, we can put the cart before the horse, solve the recent problems first, and trace back gradually.

How to solve it? Systematic desensitization method can be used to carry out desensitization training one by one to solve the problem. If the questioner feels it is necessary, he can find a psychological counselor for professional symptomatic treatment.

It is suggested that questioners can try to watch more live videos. There are also some interactive links in live video. You can see how others interact, feel the atmosphere, and let yourself take the initiative to accept the atmosphere and get out of the so-called autism.

Recognizing your own problems is a good start. If you want to change the status quo, you must learn and improve yourself from all aspects. Of course, after knowing the Lord Jesus with confidence, life will change, and these problems will be solved!

Get in touch with more people, start with good friends, get used to it, overcome your fears and come on.