First of all, are you a boy or a girl?

1 If you are a woman, it will be understandable. When you boil a frog in warm water, it is already too late! If a man asks you to do something that goes against your principles, he is just trying to get your body and mind! Or your money.

2. If a woman asks you to do something that goes against your principles, she must have ill intentions towards you. I suggest you leave her for such a person, why! You are a person who doesn't know how to say no. If you can't afford to offend, can you still afford to hide? Right!

3. If you are a man and someone of the same sex asks you to do something that violates the rules, I suggest you leave. For example, there was a courier in our company who said that his daughter was seriously ill. He borrowed money from his colleague, who gave him a credit card. As a result, this guy used money to travel and visited famous places in China. It was only after the company checked its accounts that he found out. In the end, the money was still not paid. Don’t you think all his colleagues were tricked to death by him?

When someone asks you to do something that goes against your principles, no matter who you are, stay away from him because you don’t know how to refuse!

Hello everyone! I was green yesterday!

I would like to ask: Is this person your good friend? If you are not a very good friend, then it is easy to say. Tell him directly that this is a matter of principle and cannot be done! You can't push yourself against the gun, make mistakes, and be punished.

If this person is your good friend, leader, or benefactor, this will be a bit tricky. You need to be more tactful and artistic! Tell them clearly, what will happen to him if this is done? What will happen to you? What will happen to others? What will be the consequences and impact? What will happen to you if you don't do this? What will happen to him? Can you solve it through other methods or other channels? Not only do you think about it for him, but also let him think about it for you. Analyze carefully and weigh the pros and cons.

Since you are a good friend, leader, and benefactor, I can’t send you into a dangerous situation, right? ! Things that violate the principles must never be done! This bottom line must be kept! Good luck!

1 This kind of person takes full advantage of your vanity and psychological weakness of caring about face and loyalty to achieve his selfish purpose of benefiting himself at the expense of others.

2. This kind of person has sinister intentions, bad intentions, and scheming. It is recommended that you stay away. Otherwise, you will lose your principles and fall into the trap designed by him and be unable to extricate yourself.

3. When encountering this kind of problem, you must say "no" decisively and expose their conspiracy face to face. They will no longer "trap" you or play tricks on you.

Hello,

In psychology, there is a "threshold effect": If you want others to do you a big favor, ask them to do a small favor first.

Perhaps the person asking for your help is a veteran in love and a leader at work. He understands this truth and uses it to achieve his own goals.

Maybe he really encountered difficulties in work and life that he couldn't handle, and you happened to be able to help him solve them. He also weighed in his heart that if he violated the rules, it would not have much impact on you, so he did .

There is another possibility. During the long-term relationship with you, he feels that you are a kind, gentle and considerate person. You are more enthusiastic about the friends around you. If anyone comes to you for trouble, you will try your best to solve it. help.

Although China is a human society, you still have to be reasonable and follow rules when doing things. When you encounter something you don’t agree with, you can choose to refuse.

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You teach a person how to treat you!

Therefore, whether he does it intentionally or accidentally, the focus of attention does not have to be on him.

Instead, focus on improving your own communication posture. From a psychological point of view, there are 5 types of communication and response postures for a person: accusatory type, flattering type, super-rational type, interrupting type, and consistent expression! The first 4 are all unbalanced expressions, and the last one is a balanced expression! It is a way of expression that neither wrongs oneself nor hurts others. For details, you can read some of my previous answers!

In other words, if we are embarrassed to say no, our communication posture needs to be adjusted!

First of all, look at what kind of relationship this person has with you, whether it is a relative, a lover, or a friend. If it is a relative, what this person is thinking about is this. Even if it goes against your principles, you can do it. As for loving others, is it possible? It is a kind of dependence on you, and then there are friends. Friends are divided into harmful friends and beneficial friends. If it is a harmful friend, it means that your reputation will be damaged. If it is a beneficial friend, I think he will not force you to do something that goes against your principles. Things, if you really do it, you may have all kinds of helplessness!

I replied affirmatively: That is absolutely impossible. It is completely irrelevant to us doing our own jobs. So: As long as we do something useful to society. I don't care what other people say. Because as long as we are doing things for the people that meet the people's wishes. I don’t care what other people think, let’s just mind our own business! So: Let’s all concentrate our efforts, and that strength is the most powerful.