I was born in 1985 and officially entered the society in 2004. I have a junior high school degree and am not engaged in a serious job. I stay in an Internet cafe every day and sleep in the Internet cafe 365 days a year. I can’t pay back the money I owe on my credit card. All my friends stay away from me. Later I found a job, started drinking, and worked one job after another. I was idle and lazy. My girlfriend tolerated it for three years, and her family forcibly broke up with us. The reason was that she didn’t work a day in three years. After the breakup, we ate, drank, whored, gambled, and smoked. Everything comes together. The unclear mind during the rebellious period caused the body to become worse and worse, but habits have become natural and difficult to change. I have no fixed place to live. I moved 7 times in a year. I slowly moved from a house with a rent of 1,500. I rented a house together, but in the end I had no money to pay the rent. I started to hate the rich and felt that the whole world had abandoned me. I saw that my friends and classmates around me were getting better and better, some started to get married, and some started to buy cars, but I still had to I can only survive by relying on my parents' financial support. At that time, I felt that marriage was very far away from me. Why would I get married? No job, no house, no savings, who is following me? I am completely degenerate.
Starting in 2010, when I was 25 years old, I gradually matured after experiencing many stories. I began to stay away from Internet cafes, bars, and discos. I started looking for a job with my only driver’s license. I have never driven a car and have been fired many times. However, in order to completely change my past, after perseverance again and again, I finally started working as a driver in a satellite van with no heater in winter and no air conditioning in summer. After a traffic accident, I became more and more proficient in driving, and started to try to change jobs, driving a small car, a commercial vehicle, a general manager driver, and a chairman driver, but the salary only stayed at 4,000 yuan, and I had to drive 24 hours a day.
I resigned at the end of 2013. After being introduced by a friend, I got a taxi driving license and started driving a taxi. At that time, the taxi market was very hot, and there were no Didi Express or ride-hailing services. I was the first one. By the end of the month, I had earned more than 8,000 yuan. I could finally see the future and hope. My parents finally felt at ease and felt that I had finally grown up.
In 2015, when the stock market was booming, I used my only savings of 80,000 yuan to speculate in stocks. As a result, I lost all my money. I lost my wedding gift and the down payment of the house. I was in a low mood and had a bad mentality. Well, I started to be addicted to alcohol again. Basically, I would drink when I had money. When I had no money, I would drive again. I drank for another year. Since I vomited blood several times in the process, I calmed down a lot and started to calm down and drive. , start all over again, but opportunities are not always with you. At the end of 2015, Didi Express and various online ride-hailing services began to go online. The taxi business plummeted. I only earned about 4,500 per month without taking a break. Life began to be hard. I am struggling and want to change industries, but I have no experience. I can only adjust my mentality and take it step by step.
In October 2016, I met my wife and we didn’t ask for a bride price when we got married. I’m very grateful to her. She took good care of the family and made me feel the warmth of a real family. The following year we After my daughter was born, after less than three years of hard work, my wife and I bought a third house in a new first-tier city with a deposit of more than 7 figures. The final conclusion is that there are many turning points in life, but it is also very difficult to find the right partner. Importantly, couples can combine their finances and change their destiny!
Note that the emphasis is on the last sentence. It may be because of the big twist. Maybe I don’t want to write in such detail. The money and house belong to my wife, and I only played a supporting role.
People often say: In life, the most fearful thing is heart disease, and heart disease is more terrible than the disease of poverty. However, if the family is really destitute, then the man will be so humble that his heart will bleed.
In 1991, I was admitted to university. When I looked at the admission list, I found that the county magistrate’s son and I went to the same university. Through someone's introduction, I got acquainted with the county magistrate. He was very kind and invited me to report to school together and take a special car there. I went home and told my father about it. My father's original employer, the coal company, was reorganized and diverted. At this time, he was laid off and kept his head hanging all day long. My mother is an ordinary housewife with a strong personality. She makes sarcastic remarks from time to time, which makes my father disgraced. After hearing what I said, my father was very happy. He felt that this way, he could not only take the county magistrate's son's route, but also save a lot of travel expenses. There are five people in the family, all of whom have to be supported by the father. Now that he is laid off, his livelihood is a problem, and every penny he can save is good. As usual, we have to thank others. My father and I went to the street to buy gifts. My father didn’t have a wallet, and the food money was in a worn plastic bag. I took a look and saw that the largest bill was five yuan. I walked around the street for a long time and bought three pounds of green apples and two bags of pastries.
This kind of apple is relatively sour, but it is also a luxury product for us. We can only take a bite during the Chinese New Year.
My father and I went to the county magistrate’s house carrying gifts. My father had never been to a high-ranking official's house, so he was a little nervous and timid. The county magistrate and the young master met us, exchanged a few polite words with each other, and then we left the gifts and headed back home. We went out and walked uphill, then turned around and headed home. At this time, my father stopped and stared at the yard of the county magistrate's house. I also looked over. The county magistrate's wife appeared in sight. She was holding the apples we had just delivered, walked straight to the trash can, and threw them in without hesitation. The father's head immediately lowered, with a very embarrassed expression on his face. He then quickened his pace for fear of being seen by the county magistrate's wife. At that time, I felt unspeakably uncomfortable.
Many years passed by, life was like a dream, and I was sitting in a high-end office building in Beijing. Not long ago, another thing happened that was like a needle pricking my heart. I worked the night shift that day until midnight. I was hungry, so I ordered takeout. At almost one o'clock, the takeaway boy called and said that the takeaway had arrived. I looked out through the window glass, and saw heavy snowfall. In front of the office building, it was all white. A young man was sitting in the snow, holding his thigh with one hand, feeling miserable, and gnawing on a steamed bun in the other hand. An electric car fell next to him, and food was scattered on the ground. I hurried downstairs. When the young man saw me, he begged with tears in his eyes, "I'm sorry, I fell down. I will refund your meal money to you. Please don't complain, otherwise my work today will be in vain." I said it's okay, there is no need to refund the meal money, you should go home quickly. But he insisted on returning the meal money to me. When I looked out through the window again, the young man had stood up. Instead of riding away directly, he bent over and scooped the food that had fallen on the snow into the lunch box bit by bit with a spoon. My heart suddenly became heavy, as if I had seen my father's humble appearance before.
Not far away is the bustling CBD, where there is a lot of entertainment and entertainment. Nowadays, we are accustomed to focusing on the rich and always forget that there are countless people at the bottom who are running around for a bite of food. The country's poverty alleviation policy is very wise, and we look forward to the day when the Chinese nation will be unified and prosperous.
The most humble thing is that I got divorced on July 28, 2014. I had nothing at the time, so I took 200 yuan with me to live with a friend in Beijing. Only when I arrived did I realize that my friend and I were both bragging. He sleeps every day and relies on his wife to support him. After sleeping in his basement for two days, he and his wife kept fighting. I had no money left, so I went out to find a place to live. I just wanted to find a place to stay, but the reality was too cruel. I finally found the Alien Cemetery in Jiuxianqiao and lived in the grave pit for more than a month. I had nothing left, and I gave up. Don’t be afraid of any ghosts or gods! At that time, I couldn't even eat. One meal a day, three steamed buns and one piece of braised tofu skin, cost about three yuan. I persisted like this for a month, and then I met a brother who applied for fake certificates. He took me in. I still don’t know the name of this brother. He lent me a motorcycle, and I started doing shopping. After a few months, I had some money, and later I got my own motorcycle and started delivering food for a year. The next year I started working in other industries, and last year I earned hundreds of thousands from doing side jobs. Being humble without money is something that normal people can’t even imagine sometimes! This picture is of a cemetery
Tell me about a personal experience! In 2015, one of my children was born, and his family was relatively poor. He was the son of his parents, who were almost 60 years old when they had him. There are three sisters in front of him, and he is a son; so the family loves him more.
How poor is your family? There were only two mud houses in the countryside. When he was 17 or 18 years old, he lived with one of his little sisters, and his parents lived in one room. The other two sisters are already married. When he was in his 20s, he also went out to work, but he didn't live up to expectations. He belonged to the moonlight tribe. He met a man in a factory outside and took him home to meet his parents during the Chinese New Year. It was originally a very happy thing, but when a girl saw him After arriving at Fa Xiao's family environment, he left before putting down his luggage. At this time, his father ran out and took the girl's hand and said: "Girl, since you are here, let's celebrate the New Year here. Although the environment at home is not good, But we will treat you sincerely." However, the girl did not stay because of his 70-year-old father. When I was young, I lost my temper at home after seeing the girl leave. He blamed his parents for not being able to give him a decent family. His mother became seriously ill because of this incident. His father also went out to pick up scraps during the Chinese New Year.
This year is hard to live by; poverty makes a family no longer a family!
Another thing happened recently; a boy had a girlfriend, but in today's society women are more materialistic and have higher requirements for children. They often have to buy high-end bags, clothes, cosmetics, etc. wait. But the boy's fixed monthly salary cannot support the girl's squandering. After a long time, the girl went behind the boy's back and got together with another man with better conditions. When the boy found out about this, he wanted to try his best to save it. In a square, the boy knelt down to the girl and kept crying and begging the girl to give him a chance. But what's the use? The boy could not meet the material needs of the girl, and in the end the girl left cruelly.
As the saying goes: "If you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives, but if you are poor in the city, no one cares about you." This means that as long as you are rich, relatives will come to see you no matter where you are. As long as you are poor, relatives in good places may not remember you. Therefore, there is a saying that the poor do not visit relatives. When a person has no money, friends, relatives, and even parents will look down on him.
Especially for men, men are under a lot of pressure in their lives. The most important things in their lives are: house, car, marrying a wife, raising children, and raising parents. Which thing doesn’t require more money to support? So men, try your best. If you are poor, you don’t need dignity, because dignity also needs money to support it.
I am so poor that I can endure the ridicule and criticism of others just for 20 yuan.
A new family moved into an old neighborhood nearby and planned to renovate the house. At that time, a wall and some old wooden cabinets were demolished, and a man from another province downstairs who recycles garbage was hired to move the things.
At that time, the price he quoted was 200 yuan, and the landlord said that he would give up to 150 yuan, and if not all the moves were completed, the money would be deducted. He had no choice but to agree.
At that time, the decoration workers were dismantling things and he was moving them. The old house didn't have an elevator, and the stairs were narrow, and it was on the sixth floor, making it difficult to go up and down. So what he originally expected to be able to do in one morning, he didn't expect to have to wait until after five o'clock in the afternoon to finish it.
And someone called him in the middle to ask him to take over the job, but because the move hadn’t been completed yet, he had to decline. During lunch, he gnawed on a big steamed bun and sighed.
When the landlord came over to give him money in the afternoon, he kept complaining that he was too slow and delayed his progress. Later, he saw that there were still some old furniture that had not been moved, so he asked him to continue moving and then gave him the money. .
He refused at that time. He was only talking about the wall and the wooden shelves on the wall, not the other old furniture in the house. If he had known that there was still old furniture to be moved, he would never have been able to do it for 150 yuan. Because the furniture is relatively bulky, you will need to find at least one person to help you.
So the landlord was very angry, saying that he was not doing well and wasting time, so he deducted 20 yuan from him.
The man was so anxious that his face turned red, and he muttered that he couldn't do this. But the landlord just insisted that he didn't do a good job and the money should be withheld unless he moved all the furniture now.
It was getting dark at that time, and the man was impatient and impatient, but he could only hold his breath and say nice things to the landlord, and he almost knelt down. During this period, the phone rang twice, but he pressed it down both times.
Fortunately, the foreman in charge of the decoration was still checking the demolition work. When he saw this, he couldn't help but walked over and explained the man's situation to the landlord.
In fact, we old residents all know that the man’s family is very poor, his father is paralyzed in bed, and his mother takes care of him in his hometown, taking his 5-year-old son with him.
He is here with his wife. The wife carries her two-year-old child around every day to pick up trash. At six o'clock in the evening, the man rides a tricycle to pick her up and take it back together. Send the items to the scrapyard in exchange for money.
In addition to collecting scraps every day, men also spend the rest of their time helping people move, clean houses, clean toilets and do some simple maintenance work.
Every month, his father’s medical expenses and the living expenses of his mother and son are a huge expense, so he tries to do as much work as possible every day, and he never chooses any job no matter how dirty or tiring it is. , as long as the money is enough.
In the end, the landlord gave him 20 yuan. He took the money and nodded and thanked him, then hurriedly took out his mobile phone and made a call, and left quickly, presumably to pick up his wife.
I heard that 20 yuan is the food expenses for their family of three for two days.
I remember that 11 years ago, when I first came to Ningbo, I found a job and quit because I was unhappy. As a result, I lost my ID card when I went out, couldn’t find a job, and the house I rented expired. I had no choice but to take advantage of the fact that the landlord was away and I left without even taking my things, because I had no money to rent a house and no place to put my things. I slept in a garage in a community in Hongtang, Jiangbei, Ningbo every day. I remember it was March, and the weather in Ningbo was still a bit cold in April. I waited until about 10 o'clock at night to climb over the wall and enter the community, spread the newspapers I picked up in the garage, and cover it. I slept like that for almost a month while wearing cardboard. I bought three steamed buns for one yuan a day and ate like that. When I was thirsty, I went to the public toilet to drink water. Fortunately, no matter how hungry I was, I didn’t go there. I robbed and stole. I watched people coming and going in the park during the day, and watched the lights of thousands of houses at night. I really felt bad. Now I have bought a house in my hometown, and I also got a marriage certificate with my girlfriend last year. Who am I to experience this experience? I have never mentioned that only when you are hungry will you know how precious a dollar is.
I can’t tell what humbleness is, but I know how far a word of poverty can push a man;
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I can’t remember which year it was. I only remember that I had no money during the Chinese New Year. How did I spend the 29th and 30th days of the twelfth lunar month? I remember that year and the days. On the twenty-eighth day of the twelfth lunar month, all the relatives who were supposed to leave were gone. I only had a dozen yuan left in my hand. I didn’t buy anything for the New Year. I had a wife and a son at home (how many years old was very young). What should I do? I went to the market on the 29th of the twelfth lunar month. There was a big market, which was 12 kilometers away from our home. It snowed heavily at night and the road was very slippery. In some places, it was like an ice rink. I went there on a bicycle. , as we all know, the prices of New Year's goods in the twelfth lunar month are irregular, and some are more than double the usual prices. I can't buy anything with the more than ten yuan in my hand. Look at the fish, I can't buy it, look at the meat, I can't. Buy, look at the white strip chicken, I can’t buy it, what are you doing here 24-5? Let’s go shopping. After shopping for a long time, I bought 2 celery stalks, a handful of garlic sprouts, a cabbage, and 3 green onions. Over the years, I I always remember clearly that I had less than 10 yuan left in my hand, so I didn’t dare to buy anything. I just went home and rode my bicycle back again. I felt uncomfortable while walking. I couldn’t describe how it felt. I was still thinking, tomorrow is the 30th of the twelfth lunar month, there is still a chance, there is a big market to attend, and I still have less than 10 yuan in hand, I can still buy something. When I got home, my wife didn’t say anything, and I could tell. That feeling in her heart. In the evening, the two of us were planning how to spend this new year.
The next day, the 30th day of the twelfth lunar month, I went to another big market. This big market was a little closer to home, about 3 kilometers away. All the people in the neighborhood also went to the market, maybe because they didn’t have any money. I feel guilty. There are so many people that I don’t dare to wander around, and I can’t choose anything. I purposely bought a handful of leeks, hung 2 firecrackers, and went home. No matter what, I can’t celebrate the New Year without making any noise. No, 2 hangings. One firecracker is set off on the evening of the 30th and one firecracker is set off on the morning of the first day of the Lunar New Year.
On the eve of the 30th of that year, the couple also made big dumplings stuffed with leeks and eggs. That year, there was no meat, no fish, no melon seed candies, no chicken, and no meatballs. Everyone was frying and frying, but we had nothing. On the morning of the first day of the Lunar New Year, we set off a firecracker, each of us ate a bowl of leek and egg dumplings, and then went out to pay New Year greetings. After the New Year greetings, I slept for the whole day after we came back. , that is to say, on the first day of the new year, I slept all day, and my wife took the children to play somewhere somewhere for the whole day.
Speaking of these, those who have never experienced it may never understand what it is like to visit relatives during the New Year. When I return home, I don’t know how I spent the New Year, watching people smiling and having fun, My own bitterness cannot be expressed in words. I have to knock out my teeth and swallow it in my stomach. Only when people reach that kind of predicament can they understand what suffering is.
After graduating from college in 2008, my relationship with my wife was not recognized by my family, and we had a quarrel with my family. My parents cut off my financial resources in anger. I had not yet found a job, so I had to rely on my wife at that time. A salary of more than 1,000 yuan a month is enough to support two people.
Since I have no money and can’t afford to rent a house, I haven’t found a job yet, so I stay in the school dormitory. The dormitory aunt came to communicate with me several times, and I agreed that I would get started right away. I kept putting it off for some reason, and during that time I avoided my aunt when I went in and out of the dormitory building.
I finally found a job in human resources, which is to transport labor abroad. After working for a month, I didn’t expect that the boss was a liar. He promised me one thousand and fifty yuan a month, but in the end I was given four hundred and fifty yuan with seven deductions and eight deductions. , had no choice but to resign.
The summer vacation is almost over, and new students are about to enter the school. Auntie’s original communication has turned into forcing her to rush out. She has cut off water and electricity, and has said all kinds of unpleasant things. She has no choice but to carry her with her. The luggage became a bum. I stored most of my luggage with my wife and stayed in an Internet cafe for a week, looking for a job, a house, and interviews. It happened to be the year of the global economic crisis, and it was too difficult to find a job. In the end, I had no choice but to go to a real estate agency. transition. Let’s settle down first. I also found a house that took more than an hour by bus from the company. Fortunately, the fare was only one yuan. The house is a top-floor attic with no windows. There is only room for a bed. There is room for one person to stand at the door, but you have to bump into each other as you walk in. Cold in winter and hot in summer. In the summer, I feel like I have to take three or four showers every night. When I feel comfortable sleeping in the early morning, I have to get up to go to work again, and my eyes are sticky every day.
Everyone knows that doing real estate is a hard job, especially in the early stage, which requires market research, house cleaning, dispatching orders, making phone calls, stationing, memorizing information, viewing houses, showing houses, etc. It takes a lot of physical energy, so I have to keep up with my diet, but I don't. In the morning, everyone else eats big buns with soy milk, deep-fried dough sticks, and I am a steamed bun. At noon, when others eat rice, stir-fried vegetables, and a big plate of chicken, I eat three yuan a bowl. Noodles mixed with scallion oil. My wife took care of it in the evening and was a little full. I never go to dinner when others treat me to dinner, and I have no way to return the favor. I clean the house and take care of the house on my own two legs. I sometimes rub off on my colleagues, but I have no choice and no money. I work hard, but there is no result. I have many projects, and I am often the first in the company, but I have no deals, so I can only grit my teeth and persevere. Once, a client drove a Ferrari to look at a house. He thought he could take me with him. However, the client told me that the car had just been washed, so he asked me to take a taxi and follow him. I had no choice but to think that it was a good idea and I had to spend the money I should. Chengxiang encountered road construction and took a long detour. When he arrived, he still had five yuan left. Fortunately, the driver was kind and didn't want to take any more. But when he got out of the car, he saw that the customer hadn't come. He called and said it was too busy and he had something to do at the last minute. , let’s talk about it next time. I was left alone there, not knowing how to get back.
I completely collapsed. The cynicism, the grievances I had suffered at work these days, and all the humble efforts finally turned into tears. I sat alone in the garden and cried. It was the first time that I felt overwhelmed and confused in life. I walked alone on the streets of Shanghai with my bag on my back, and didn't get home until one o'clock in the morning. It's not that I don't want to ask my colleagues or my wife for help, I just don't want them to see me in such embarrassment.
Maybe God pays off my hard work. After struggling for nine months without placing any orders, I finally received my first order in my life. Although the money was not much, I felt so excited. It goes without saying that this is an affirmation of hard work and the best proof for oneself. When we got the first commission, my wife and I spent all the commission on a meal, which was regarded as a reward for ourselves and her.
Later on, I never stopped working, and I was ranked in the top 1 of the company every year. I also changed my living place from the suburbs to a place very close to the company, and my social circle also expanded. After 10 years, I finally convinced my family to marry my wife. After that, I left the company, started my own business, and bought my own house. Now I have a son and a daughter, and my life is pretty good.
Actually looking back now, I still miss that time. If life hadn’t pushed me to that point, I wouldn’t have been able to inspire all my fighting spirit to change my situation. Only after overcoming the embarrassment and misery at that time did I have the happy life now. No one can give up on themselves or hope at any time. Perseverance is not necessarily victory, and giving up will definitely lead to failure. The more ruthless you can be to yourself, the greater your achievements will be. This is not poisonous chicken soup, it is a fact. No matter how hard it is, you must tighten your belt and grit your teeth to get through it. It is impossible for people to be unlucky all their lives. Those who work hard will definitely be lucky. After climbing over the dark side of the mountain, they will be greeted by the bright sunshine.
Thank you all, my name is Ruizidao.
I have experienced it myself. I am a distant relative, I call him my cousin-in-law. Their family ran a large-scale breeding farm, and it was very prosperous in the first two years. The mink market was good, and they earned hundreds of thousands in two years. Then they expanded the scale, enclosed five or six acres of land, and raised more than 2,000 minks. That year, the price of mink suddenly became strong, with each skin reaching more than 500 yuan, and some households even sold it for nearly 600 yuan. The more the price soared, the more reluctant people were to sell it. My cousin-in-law didn’t even sell a single piece of skin.
As a result, the price quickly fell back, and my cousin-in-law was unwilling to sell it. He has been selling the skins for three or four years, and it dropped from more than 500 yuan to more than 100 yuan. In the past four years, he sold six to seven thousand skins. As a result, the debt reached two million.
Most of the money was raised from relatives, with the promise of 10% interest a year. Not to mention the interest, the principal has also been lost.
Because of poverty, it was difficult for my cousin-in-law and relatives to move around. During the Spring Festival, he bought each family a box of the cheapest snacks and two bottles of low-quality wine, with the total cost not exceeding 30 yuan. We don’t have many red envelopes for elders here to pay their respects to their children, usually 100 yuan per child. He originally wanted not to give red envelopes to the children, but he had to give them because of his face. He does not give red envelopes on a per-capita basis, but on a family basis, with 100 yuan given to each family. Some families have one or two children, and some families have four or five children, and he still gives 100 yuan. I wonder how the children will divide the bonus packets and whether they will get into fights. His mink farm is in the river three miles away from the village. He rarely goes home. He occasionally goes home to see his parents, but he comes up empty-handed. Although his parents knew that his life was not easy, they did not give him a good look (he lost all the 200,000 yuan that his parents had provided for their retirement). His sister and brother would get very angry when they met him, and they would scold him when they saw him!
As the saying goes, a man is poor but his ambition is short, and a horse is skinny but has long hair! Poverty makes a person so humble that he loses all his dignity; poverty makes a person so humble that he sinks into the dirt!
2018 was a bad year. I don’t know why I ended up in this place. I originally worked at Foxconn, and my monthly salary was not bad, maybe more than 5,000 yuan. But I spend too much money and can’t save money no matter what. I also applied for two credit cards, but I didn’t make any money. In the end, I asked my family to send me 10,000 yuan to pay off the credit cards.
At that time, the credit card was overdue and I had no money to pay back, so the final reminder call came to my dad. This phone call was like a bolt from the blue and completely broke his heart. He called and asked angrily that I had not saved a penny after graduating from college and working for three years. I was originally expected to save some money and add his money to pay for the down payment of the house. I am 26 years old, unmarried, have no house, no car and no savings. I know that I am too unsatisfactory. I always like to play, can't keep money in my hands, never consider the consequences of doing things, and spend ahead of schedule. In the end, all my relatives knew about it and called me to ask what was going on. All my family members were discussing this matter. I was really too embarrassed to go home and didn't dare to face them.
I didn’t plan to go back during the Chinese New Year. I thought everyone would say that I might as well not go back. But then I thought about how lonely they must be, having family reunion dinner with their families every year and not going back all year long. So I went back shamelessly with an uneasy feeling. As expected during the Chinese New Year, everyone will ask how much money they have saved this year. The person next door who is younger than you has saved tens of thousands. My uncle comes to my house every day to show off to my dad how rich his daughter is. With an annual salary of 200,000 yuan, he bought a house in Shanghai. During the Chinese New Year, he bought boxes of wine and cigarettes. And I didn’t buy anything when I went home for the Chinese New Year. I didn’t even have money to buy my parents’ clothes, which made me feel very uncomfortable. Every time, the house is brought up. I don’t know why I like to be a house slave so much. I guard a house all my life and suffer the consequences.
When I was at home during the Chinese New Year, I really felt the sadness and humiliation of having no money. Everyone will look down on you and not treat you well, even your closest relatives. Therefore, when people live, they must fight for themselves and strive to impress others.