Question 2: What should middle school students do about puppy love? Puppy love is now banned by school social teachers and parents! That depends on what grade you are in. If you are in high school ... you'd better let go quickly. Continuing to play this dangerous game will ruin your life. Don't expect you to be one of the lucky ones. You can keep your love until you graduate from college and get married. If it is junior high school, try not to delay. Because everything we do is for the college entrance examination (although I don't quite agree with exam-oriented education, I can't help it ...). But we should also pay attention to the methods. Breaking up directly may cause great harm to the other party or even both parties, so break up euphemistically. If you are not together but have this idea, get rid of it as soon as possible. But it's nice to have someone you like. You can use TA as your motivation, which may be the solution to puppy love (I was a junior high school student at that time, 1400, 1600. It can be said that I didn't go to high school, but I fell in love with someone with a grade of 100 in the third grade. Later, in order to make TA notice me, I have been working hard. Finally, TA saved me), of course, this kind of love is enough. It is not necessary to pursue it too much if you hide it in your heart or let TA know. It will not work if you continue to develop.
Question 3: What about puppy love among middle school students? The influence of middle school students' puppy love, two different voices.
(A) the negative impact of puppy love
1, puppy love will affect your studies.
Most of the students surveyed can realize that puppy love will distract their energy and affect their study. Indeed, there are many outstanding young people in puppy love, but they are too curious, excited and obsessed because of puppy love, too addicted to the fantasy of love, and can no longer devote themselves to learning, resulting in a decline in academic performance, and some even hate learning.
2. Puppy love will cause serious psychological harm to students.
Research by American scientists shows that teenagers who fall in love before the age of 17 can't cope with the emotional troubles caused by their first love, laying the foundation for mental illness in the future.
Puppy love may threaten students' health.
Because teenagers are impulsive and have poor self-control, middle school students who are puppy love are prone to make some excessive behaviors. They have violence and sexual orientation ... all of which will damage the health of teenagers. Due to the lack of sexual knowledge, the resulting physiological consequence-pregnancy will make both sides panic and feel at a loss. However, the moral concept and public opinion in our country can't tolerate teenage pregnancy, so some girls pretend to be sick and secretly go to hospitals far away from home for abortion, and they can't get enough rest after operation, which does great harm to their health. Or some girls are ashamed of their parents' abuse, school punishment and classmates' cold-eyed ridicule after the incident is exposed, and then commit suicide. It can be seen that the result of puppy love is often that girls become the ultimate victims.
4. Puppy love will distract students' will and affect the whole school atmosphere.
If boys and girls in a class fall in love, there will be various repercussions. Some people regard puppy love as the focus of after-school talk, asking about lovers' whereabouts and private activities, telling jokes to each other and diverting everyone's interest and attention in learning. Some even envy, yearn for, follow the precedent, take the initiative to find and find friends of the opposite sex, affecting the school atmosphere.
(2) Let nature take its course
1, puppy love is a normal phenomenon in the process of teenagers' physical and mental development.
We should admit that people have feelings. The emotional germination of adolescence is the result of the joint action of growth and development and environmental factors. "Opposites attract" is a universal law in nature. People are no exception.
It is normal for boys and girls to have a good impression on the opposite sex.
Middle school students are now in an open society, and there are many opportunities for heterosexual contact, most of which are normal and healthy. However, because parents and teachers are allergic, in many cases, boys and girls eating meals together and traveling in the suburbs together are considered puppy love, which leads to contradictions and estrangement between teachers and students and between parents and children, which is not conducive to students' growth.
Third, the reasons for puppy love among middle school students
In the face of more and more middle school students falling in love, prohibition is not a good policy, acquiescence is dereliction of duty, and teaching students to grasp growth is a good policy. So what causes puppy love among middle school students? The data obtained from the survey can be summarized as follows: some people think that the other party is handsome and smart; Some think that the other party and their own interests are consistent; Some think that the other party has excellent academic performance; Some people say they want to try, because they have seen books, movies and TV about love. In fact, there are many reasons for middle school students' puppy love, but in the final analysis, it lies in two aspects, namely, internal and external causes.
Internal cause
1, the first is the natural instinctive function of adolescent sexual physiology and psychological development.
Adolescents who enter adolescence begin to have sexual awareness with their physical development. They began to look at the communication between boys and girls sensitively, and they watched every move of their opposite sex classmates. Gradually, one or more "ideal models" of the opposite sex are formed on the basis of good feelings for the opposite sex, and in the common communication of many men and women, the good feelings of the opposite sex in groups gradually turn to attachment to the individual opposite sex, forming one-on-one actions, that is, puppy love.
2. Secondly, moral concepts are relatively weak and self-control is not strong.
Many teenagers regard falling in love as a child's play because of their weak moral concept. They completely ignore the responsibilities and obligations in love, don't understand what is good behavior and immoral behavior, and some even have immoral sexual relations or illegal phenomena. Some teenagers know it is wrong because of their weak will and poor self-control, but with * * *, they can't control their emotions and behaviors.
(2) External factors
1. First of all, families often take a strictly forbidden attitude on this issue, not allowing children to have normal opposite directions and shielding all descriptions of sexual knowledge and love ... >>
Question 4: How to solve the puppy love of middle school students? Just learn to be responsible for yourself and others.
Question 5: What about puppy love between middle school students and their parents? Most of them are unrequited love and unrequited love. Only when you have a good impression on each other can you develop into puppy love. Puppy love behavior is the practice of transforming psychology into behavior on the basis of teenagers' sexual and physical development. Puppy love is very harmful, which directly affects teenagers' personality, physical and mental health and academic performance, especially for girls. Puppy love will basically end in failure, and it is impossible to be together for a lifetime. Adolescent children, while forming close friends between people of the same sex and the same age, will be aroused by physical development, and will also cause concern and love for the opposite sex. And this kind of attention will continue to increase, which will naturally sprout admiration for a particular opposite sex. Parents should trust their children, talk to them as friends and in an equal position, help them deal with emotional fluctuations, and cultivate their ability to consciously restrain their behavior and life. When children enter adolescence, parents should educate their children about sex, love and marriage at the same time, and take precautions against puppy love first. When children are found to have a tendency to puppy love, parents should not panic and give them enthusiastic help. You can tell your children that it is normal to be affectionate and righteous, but it is normal to fall in love because of the learning stage, but it is doubtful whether to do it. At this stage, children will like the specific opposite sex in their minds, but this kind of love can only be maintained at the level of friendship, not "love", because you are in the golden age of long body and long knowledge, and your physical and mental development is not yet mature. It's a pity that my studies and future are ruined because of puppy love. Parents' education on the issue of puppy love should not only be gentle Mao Mao rain, but also have a certain serious attitude, and should not blindly complain and accuse. It takes some time to understand that it is necessary to help children get out of the confusion of puppy love. High school, middle school and primary school students who are in puppy love often show some abnormal phenomena. For example, absent-minded in class, trance, and sudden decline in academic performance; Emotional ups and downs, uneasy; I began to pay attention to dressing up, suddenly spent a lot of money, and was good at expressing myself in front of a certain opposite sex; Suddenly someone sends messages, makes phone calls, often walks with a different person, and even has various deviant behaviors. As parents, if children are found to be in puppy love or tend to be in puppy love, parents should not treat their children with sarcasm, scolding or even punishment, let alone rush to school, the other party's home, or complain to neighbors, which will cause a storm in the city. The best way is to understand children, be considerate of them, guide them, listen to them patiently and give them warm and serious advice. It is necessary to teach children self-respect and self-love, distinguish the relationship between friendship and love, and appropriately tell them the social morality and power responsibility of love, so that children can have a further understanding of love and marriage. It is necessary to tell children that puppy love has an impact on their studies and future career. If you can't continue your studies because of falling in love, even if you get married, life will be full of ups and downs and conflicts, because the era of knowledge economy has arrived and you will eventually be separated. Parents should make self-psychological adjustment and strengthen guidance to their children after learning about their puppy love. Be calm and cautious, don't be impatient and reprimanded; Be able to face up to puppy love and analyze the reasons of puppy love with a calm mind; We should treat children with equality, sincerity and trust, and respect, care and understand children more. If parents are angry, angry, angry, don't take it out on their children. That would be counterproductive. If adolescent children look at it from the deep heart, not just from the behavior, puppy love is normal for teenagers, and parents don't have to regard it as a heinous crime. On the issue of dealing with children's puppy love, "persuasion" is far more effective than "reprimanding" First, parents should have a correct understanding of calm and cold treatment and realize that "puppy love" is the normal performance of adolescent boys and girls. Teenagers in this period will have a special sense of curiosity and closeness to the opposite sex, but some are obvious and some are hidden. In other words, puppy love is inevitable for children. Don't think puppy love is bad study or depravity. If a child is found to be "puppy love", the parents will immediately regard it as a scourge, break the law, and will be angry and fight, or tell the teacher and the other parent that they are angry and scold the child, which will make a storm in the city. There will definitely be no ideal ending. Puppy love is a kind of emotional privacy, and parents must keep it secret for them. If people don't know, don't let them know, even very close people. A child's puppy love is like a spring, which gets tighter and tighter ... >>
Question 6: How to deal with junior high school students' puppy love? There is an example in my class: One year at the New Year's Day party, the handsome entertainment minister Wu Mou presided over the party. After the meeting, Zhang, a junior two girl, immediately wrote to praise him; When the Spring Festival came, she sent him a New Year card with a long letter saying that she had fallen in love with him since the party and asked him to reply ... But when she handed him the letter, her heart was pounding. She only gave him a New Year card, but the long letter was hidden in her body and she was afraid to take it out. Since then, her academic performance has been declining, and she is often absent-minded in class; I often deliberately pass by his classroom after class and stay there for a while, hoping to see him; After school, she packed her schoolbag in a hurry and ran to the gate to wait for him, but nine times out of ten, she never expected him. In her diary, she wrote, "This yearning that I can't get rid of makes me miserable and unwilling to study. Even in my dream, I dreamed that his hand touched my shoulder, and they met on the same horse embankment and poured out their hearts to each other ... "-This is puppy love. Puppy classmates often secretly pass notes, make appointments, go shopping and go to restaurants. They just want to get in touch with a friend of the opposite sex and whisper, and don't want others to be present. At this time, students will change in all aspects, such as absent-minded in class, unwilling to study, declining grades, and even playing truant, staying out at night, being in a trance and other abnormal behaviors. Some even began to change their personalities, or remained silent and thoughtful; Or extremely excited, lost his normal state. The reasons for puppy love are often varied and complicated. We should not use these dogmas mechanically to take a seat, but be good at finding the signs of puppy love, such as abnormal performance in study, labor and extracurricular activities. Sudden decline in academic performance, frequent absenteeism, late arrival and early departure, even truancy, emotional instability, sometimes spring breeze, sometimes dark clouds, fidgeting, fidgeting, absent-minded in class; I don't like teachers and parents, so I avoid them. I like dressing up, paying attention to hairstyles and clothes, reading romance novels, extracting wonderful descriptions, humming pop songs and so on. Only by observing and understanding the signs of puppy love can we grasp the appropriate opportunity and master the principles of teaching and dealing with puppy love. 1, close to understanding, caring and respecting. When students find signs of puppy love, or after careful observation, I generally don't rush to deal with it, but calmly analyze it first, and consider it comprehensively according to the students' personality characteristics, hobbies, temperament, advantages and disadvantages, and then avoid everyone and speak alone. For example, the girl mentioned above, after I found the problem, I talked to her many times. First, starting from the characteristics of adolescent physical and mental development, I helped her correctly understand her subtle feelings and expressed her understanding of her distress; On the basis of gaining her trust, help her analyze the harm of puppy love, and clearly point out that if her feelings are allowed to develop, she will taste the bitter fruit of puppy love in the future. These educations woke her up. In the quiet words she gave me, she wrote: "Thank you for your concern and help. I want to restrain my feelings rationally and devote all my energy to my study ... Practice has proved that for students who are puppy love, only when they feel the intimate understanding, love and respect of the teacher will they be willing to whisper to the teacher, and education will receive results. 2. Strictly demanding and actively guiding junior high school students to fall in love with each other is a headache for class teachers, which not only affects learning but also increases the difficulty of class management. Many people have tasted the bitter fruit of puppy love, and tragedies happen from time to time, but there are still many boys and girls who are repeating the same mistakes and continue to fall into the painful and dangerous road of puppy love. For the education of these students, we must adhere to the principle of positive persuasion and patiently persuade them to realize the harm of puppy love in reason, so as to consciously restrain their emotions. But don't take measures such as withholding letters, ordering to break off diplomatic relations, criticizing and reprimanding, and making them public, which will hurt their self-esteem. Dealing with the problem of puppy love is a meticulous and complicated work, which requires the class teacher to keep a calm attitude, deeply understand the students' ideological and emotional activities, prescribe the right medicine, patiently explain and guide, and achieve the educational purpose through heart-to-heart. On the contrary, tough "blocking" and "banning" can only push students to the opposite side. Initiative of education. It is an indisputable fact that puppy love has aroused widespread concern and anxiety among educators, especially parents who are eager for their children to make a fortune. Small trees are hard to bear fruit, and small roads are easy to lose sheep. " Puppy love will undoubtedly have a negative impact on children's learning quality and even the quality of life and career. In a word, I want to mock the fact that I often get a good wife at the end of the jar ... >>
Question 7: How to treat the puppy love phenomenon of middle school students correctly? Puppy love among middle school students is a very headache topic for class teachers and parents, and it is also one of the most headache things for class teachers in class management. The so-called puppy love is puppy love, which is an out-of-control behavior. In fact, "puppy love" is the temporary loss of students' ideals and values in adolescence, and it is an irregular and rebellious ideological and psychological quality. There are many reasons for this kind of psychology and behavior, such as the bad influence of society, untimely and inadequate family education and class management, which can all cause students' "puppy love". There are four reasons why middle school students usually fall in love early: puppy love is because they can't get the warmth of their families; Puppy love is because of conformity curiosity; Puppy love because of imitating adult life; Being misunderstood by others leads to puppy love. Once students fall in love, it is difficult to educate and guide them, and improper handling will lead to a series of adverse consequences. How does the head teacher correctly handle the phenomenon of puppy love among middle school students?
1, respect and care, positive guidance
Puppy love students should never be discriminated against. We should understand and respect their feelings, win their trust on the basis of understanding, approach them with caring attitude and help them. Some class teachers regard puppy love as a "big violation", and once they find out which student has puppy love behavior, they take "emergency measures", such as innuendo criticism without name, breaking off diplomatic relations within a time limit, etc., and even denounce it as "improper style" and "poor ideological quality", or humiliate students in public with sarcastic language, or complain to parents, and take strict discipline from them. This simple and rude treatment greatly hurts students' self-esteem and makes students who fall in love with each other feel depressed and depressed.
When the class teacher finds that the student has signs of puppy love, or after careful observation, confirm the student's puppy love. Generally speaking, he should not rush to deal with it, but calmly analyze it first, consider the education and help plan according to the students' personality characteristics, and avoid everyone. He can talk and teach alone, respect the privacy of students and keep secrets strictly. Still have to get in touch with your parents in time. The purpose is to persuade parents not to scold or abuse their children, so that parents and children can live in harmony, trust and understand each other.
2. Be rational and emotional.
Puppy love students should not be involved in rough * * *, forcibly separated, and should not be condescending and severely reprimanded. The head teacher should be the guide of students' life path. As a friend and "adviser" with an equal attitude, knowing the interests and helping them to handle the relationship is related to their lifelong happiness. Because of the poor self-discipline ability of middle school students, on the premise of persuading students through persuasion and education, the class teacher can help students to formulate a self-discipline standard and help urge them to consciously implement it. There are two boys and girls in my class who often get together and have a close relationship. They were in a trance in class and their academic performance plummeted. After I found out, I chatted with them and got to know their relationship. I promised them not to tell their parents for the time being, and put forward two rules that they must abide by: first, they are not allowed to be alone and keep normal communication at school; The second is to pay attention to learning. Two students obey the rules, and they gradually feel that there is something wrong with their love. In fact, it is not their own problem, but the timing of love is wrong. This is just a beautiful mistake. As a result, the relationship between them gradually became a normal classmate interaction.
3, trust instead of criticism, properly handle.
Once puppy love happens, you must not kill it with a stick, but you must give tolerance and understanding to your puppy love classmates. The head teacher must know the psychological changes of students in time in order to do a good job in all aspects.
There is a boy in the class, Zhang Moumou, who is cheerful, intelligent and studious. However, he has been in a bad mood recently. He is always listless in class and seldom takes part in class activities, so his academic performance has dropped a lot. Through observation and various understandings, I am sure that he is "in love". I talked to him many times and said that I would help him deal with this matter. But no matter how I guide him, he just won't reveal who the girl is, but I already know who the girl is in my heart. He promised me that he would handle it himself, but after a week, he was still the same. I found the right opportunity, changed his seat, and quietly arranged for him a girl he liked. My point is that since he has a crush on her, as the saying goes, "distance makes beauty", he doesn't want to study until there is a distance between them. I asked them to sit together. Will he be like that without distance? As it turns out, I did nothing wrong. Now he is not as enterprising as before, and he has regained his original liveliness ... >>
Question 8: How to deal with puppy love among middle school students? (1) Strengthening adolescent sex education In view of the particularity of the growth of middle school students in Shenzhen, society, schools and families should actively carry out adolescent sex education for their children. It is particularly important to strengthen this education in junior high school and senior high school. When the problem has become a social phenomenon, it will be impossible to deal with it in a simple way, such as blocking and guiding. Educating children about the correct attitude towards sex is probably an important means to avoid further harm to them at present. While carrying out sex education for children, we should pay attention to the combination of sex education and ideological and moral education, and the combination of health education and personality education. Through sex education, students can be familiar with some sexual physiological and psychological knowledge, so as to correctly treat all kinds of situations that appear with physical development. Sexual moral education is to improve students' ability to distinguish right from wrong, beauty and ugliness, and to admire evil, and to cultivate self-control ability of moral will. Let them know that people and animals are different. The main difference is that people can control their instinctive desires, while animals are naturally expressed. Because people have outlook on life and morality. Through education, they understand that the spirited horse of adolescence should be controlled by the reins of morality and reason. The education of sexual knowledge should master the principles of timeliness and moderation, and should not make sexual knowledge education a purely biological and naturalistic sexual knowledge enlightenment, otherwise it will bring temptation against the original intention. Can't achieve the purpose of education. (2) Encouraging and guiding middle school students to develop in different directions will not only sprout the feelings of first love, but also lead to puppy love. It can also purify and sublimate the feelings of first love. In which direction, it often depends on the guidance of educators. Therefore, as educators, we should not only create a relaxed, free and healthy living environment for middle school students, but also respect their differences and give them positive and appropriate guidance. We should educate boys to respect girls, pay attention to discretion in actions, and also educate girls to respect themselves, respect themselves and love themselves. Let them understand: 1, the difference between friendship and love. Friendship is not equal to love. Friendship can occur between the same sex and the opposite sex. And love will only be for the opposite sex, friendship is for everyone, and love that does not exclude others is single and exclusive. Friendship is open and can be shared, while love is hidden and selfish. Let them know the difference between them, which will help them correctly distinguish the emotional meaning of themselves and others and keep a certain vigilance. 2. Avoid unnecessary physical contact and pay attention to your external performance. Adolescent students are in the embryonic stage of love. Under abnormal circumstances, the contact of different parts of the body will produce a strange feeling, which makes people daydream. 3. Seek a wide range of taboos. In the communication with the opposite sex, try to get along alone, communicate widely with students of the opposite sex, establish a wide range of friends, participate in more group activities, and maintain good relations with many friends in group activities. (3) It is a good thing to carry out activities and broaden interest, so that adolescent students are full of energy, developed in intelligence and have a wide range of interests. However, due to the lack of ability to distinguish right from wrong, it is easy to fall into low-level interests, become interested in sex prematurely and fall in love prematurely. Educators should guide their consciousness and interests to cognitive, sports and social interests in time. First of all, we should guide them to devote their vigorous energy to studying hard and determined to serve the motherland and become useful talents. Secondly, carry out the second classroom activities, carry out a variety of scientific, technological, cultural and sports activities, and absorb their attention into healthy and beneficial activities, so that their spirit can be entrusted and their exuberant energy can be released. This will help to prevent puppy love, but also transfer the feelings of puppy love and correct the behavior of puppy love in time. (4) Observe carefully, grasp the signs, and guide middle school students to have puppy love in secret. But before anything happens, there are signs and clues. Therefore, teachers should carefully observe the physiological and psychological changes of students, find the signs in time, and do a good job in individual education. According to typical investigation materials, the information sent by students who have puppy love behavior is: suddenly pursuing fashion excessively and paying attention to dressing up; Students who are active and like to associate with teachers suddenly become silent, unwilling to contact teachers, especially class teachers, and often go to the movies or playgrounds without telling their parents and the opposite sex; Suddenly someone wrote, and the sender didn't leave an address. He likes watching movies, TV plays and love novels with love plots. If teachers encounter the above situation, they should make a careful analysis according to the students' personality development history and actual psychological state, and make correct decisions ... >>
Question 9: How to deal with puppy love among junior high school students? Handling it well can become the motivation of students' efforts, and handling it badly will cause people to flow.
It's no exaggeration. Are you a client, a parent or a teacher? The angle of this station is different, and the treatment method is different, but it is mainly in the following points.
If you are on the other side, no matter how you handle it, please remember to think more about the other side and the future, not just the present. Think more, use more brains, for the sake of junior high school love, slowing down the process will do you no harm.
If you are a parent, no matter how you handle it, please remember more, think more about your children, and don't curse at every turn. Children in junior high school are rebellious, so it is better to communicate with them in a language they can understand. Don't decide what is not allowed and what is not allowed so quickly. They won't listen.
If you are a teacher, no matter how you deal with it, please remember not to despise students. It's not all bad for junior high school students to fall in love, some are just curious about the opposite sex. So remember, your position is to educate people, not to format them.
Question 10: How to treat the phenomenon of "puppy love" among middle school students and guide it correctly?
If you are a teacher, you can also ask boys to come out and talk alone: just say that your grades are not good enough, can you be worthy of others? How long will it last? When the boys are finished, talk to the girls.
Don't just say no, rebel.