First of all, congratulations on recognizing your own shortcomings, facing them bravely, and having the courage to improve. This is a good start.

On how to become brave and confident, here are a few things For reference:

1) Tell yourself many times a day that I am the best;

2) Discover your strengths and strengths and use them more;

3) Always review your own successful deeds and forget about some troublesome things;

4) Through your own efforts, do well and do a few good things;

5) For your strengths, develop them; for things you are not confident about, have the courage to do them boldly a few times;

6) [Regarding what you mentioned in your article, look at yourself] Look in the mirror every day Say, I am the most...

Believe in yourself, you will succeed.

Guidance:

Not daring to look directly at the truth shows how you feel You have no self-confidence and lack of confidence in your heart. To put it simply, it is not polite to stare directly into other people's eyes. The correct way is as you said, keep eye contact from time to time, but don't stare at them. If you are mentally burdened at the beginning, you can like Let me try this. I rarely stare into other people's eyes. I usually place my gaze near the other person's chin and nose. In fact, within this range, the other person cannot detect whether your gaze has strayed, so I will feel less psychological pressure. .Or you can wear sunglasses when you go out, and then look directly into other people's eyes for a while when others don't notice you. This is also a kind of exercise.

To be brave, I think at least Pay attention to the following points:

1. Be selfless in your heart. The ancients said: Only by being selfless can you be fearless. You cannot always take your own interests as the starting point, otherwise it is impossible to be fearless. If Dong Cunrui thought about his own life when he blew up the bunker, Losing is not worth it, so can he still sacrifice his life for justice?

2. Hone his character. Only those with strong character will be brave. Therefore, you should pay attention to hone your character in difficult environments and learn to endure hardships and stand hard work. , you can't pamper yourself. Sometimes you need to grit your teeth and persist.

3. Knowledge accumulation. Knowledge is the source of power. No matter what you do, you need knowledge and skills. Knowledge and skills are beneficial when you do it. Only when you have confidence in your heart can you have the confidence and courage to move forward. Otherwise, how can you be brave if you don't have confidence in your heart? So study hard! There is no end to learning. Knowledge will give you strength and courage.

4. Moral cultivation. You should pay attention to cultivating your own sense of social morality and justice, be clear about right and wrong, love and hate, and understand which things are worthy of your efforts, sweat, or even sacrifice, and which things are not worth doing, so that you can be brave Only when talents are used in the right place can they inspire courage and devote themselves bravely to justice, society and the public.

Life care:

If you are shy, hesitant or pessimistic, then you It is possible to live a boring life and not achieve your goals. Most progress is led by brave people - scientists, politicians, artists and others who do not wait for opportunities, they create opportunities. So , if you want to be brave and move forward, here are a few ways to help you get started.

1. Pretend you are brave

Assume you are the kind of person who wants to be brave as much as possible. Brave people, what do you think you would do? If you know some brave people, imagine what they would do. If you don’t know such people, imagine those brave characters in movies or books. Spend a day Spend an hour or a day a week pretending you are them.

When you do this, go somewhere where no one knows you and where they won't be surprised that you do something out of the norm. .See what happens through action - you may discover how amazing things can happen when you are brave, and you may be determined to incorporate this brave behavior into your daily life.

2. Take the first step

When you feel hesitant—especially when communicating with people—be confident and take the first step. Ask people you know after get off work

How about going to a bar down the street for a drink? Tell them that if you buy two tickets to the concert, you'd like them to go with you. If you did anything drastic a month ago, give them one now. Give serious hugs and sincere apologies. Smile at attractive people.

3. Do the unexpected

What you do will surprise those who know you. What about? Wearing high heels? Skydiving? Brave people are not afraid to try new things. One of the reasons is that they are so prominent in a certain field that people always second guess them.

You can start with small things, you can wear some clothes of different styles and colors than usual, and go to some places you would not usually go. Finally, you may tell others some new ideas about entertainment. When you mention this, it opens other people's eyes ("Are you serious about surfing?" or "Are you kidding, you want to buy that hotel on Third Street?")

4 . Look for what you need

Waiting for others to discover your efforts, or expecting others to discover your needs, it is better to control and find it yourself.

Some people think that asking is equal to greed and selfishness And unreasonable - yes, if you are asking for something you don't deserve. But if those people take for themselves what should belong to others, then they are greedy, selfish and unreasonable.

Also, what's the worst thing that happened? They said no. Life goes on.

If you work hard and wait a long time, you have the right to ask for a promotion or get paid.

Ask for a discount and proper bargaining can go a long way. "What can you do for me?" is a simple but powerful statement that can save you money.

Ask for cancellation of credit card charges Fees.

Ask relatives, friends and even strangers for help or advice

Ask people to speak clearly if you are not sure what they want you to do.

5. Risk-taking

There is a difference between recklessness and risk-taking. A reckless person will not take risks... they don't even think about it. On the other hand, a brave person Have a strong awareness of risk, and will find a way to survive the dangerous period no matter what, be prepared and willingly bear the consequences.

Think of an athlete taking risks every day. Are they reckless? No .It is a kind of planned risk. You will also mistakenly think that we are all like this. But not taking action may also be a mistake, which will lead to emptiness and regret. For many people, risk-taking is far more important than failure. It's much better to have done nothing.

Similarly, don't equate bravery with aggression. Aggression is often about imposing your own views or actions on others. Be brave and be more like those around you. It has nothing to do with it; it's used to overcome your fears and encourage you to take action.

Remember, while you have the power to try new things, there are also many opportunities to fail because of your lack of experience. Embrace Failure is not the enemy of success, it is a necessary component. The enemy of success is inaction.

6. Re-examine yourself

In the end, courage comes from your heart Faith has everything to do with it. It is not equal to what you do or who you are. If you don't know who you are, you can't be truly brave.

Start digging into what makes you unique. Find out where What makes you special, then write it down and stick it where you can see it. Plant a flag for it, pay attention to it and love yourself for it, no matter what others think. That's the essence of bravery.

Let’s talk about confidence.

How can you be confident without courage? Confidence will naturally increase if you are bold.

Do you think you are a bold person? What would you do? How about describing a bold person?

The dictionary tells us: Boldness is courageous, unafraid, fearless, adventurous, confident, reckless, and self-assertive. Maybe you possess some of these characteristics, or you desire Get other traits.

Anyway, why do you want to be bold?

You want to be more confident than you are now

Do you believe it?

Do you want to take more risks in your life?

Are you living a boring life and looking for adventure?

Do you want to? Do you stand out from your peers or business competitors?

Have you always envied those who shine with a unique personality?

Do you find yourself shy or unwilling to establish what makes you Can't get what you want most outside of life?

If you are not bold enough, you may be shy or negative, and your life may be boring, static and unfulfilling. This can be very painful. Not being bold or confident enough can prevent you from getting the relationship you crave, a fulfilling career, or the adventures you're passionate about.

Many people who lead colorful lives exhibit these qualities of boldness Traits. They don’t wait for things to happen in life, but go out and create them themselves. When faced with limitations or challenges, they don’t stop, but keep moving forward. They live life to the fullest because they are enough Go out boldly and get what they want.

Do you want your life to be more exciting and more fulfilling both spiritually and materially? Maybe you need to learn how to be bold. Here are some suggestions!

Make an action list

Make a list of things you have always wanted to do but for some reason never did. Let’s say you always wanted to travel abroad but made up lots of excuses why you couldn’t Do this. Then set a travel goal for the next 6 months to a year. Write down all the reasons why you think you can't do it. Then figure out how to defeat each excuse. If you encounter difficulties, consider Get a coach and

Fake it till you make it!

Decide what new personality trait you want to adopt; such as being more extroverted. Find a few people who have this trait and either imitate it Either ask them to guide you. Choose exercises that will help you practice. For example, ask a stranger for directions or where to find a certain item at a concession stand. Another day, at a party, take the initiative to ask someone you want to know and do. Say hello to the people you talk to. Notice how your self-confidence grows little by little as you take small actions every day. Work with a coach or an accountability partner so you can stay on track and not fall back when you get hurt.

Change your style

Whether you are going to change your look through clothes or hairstyle, or change the way you talk, walk, behave, or interact with people, develop what you consider to be a bold new style. If If you look good on the outside and feel confident, your inner self-confidence will also grow. If you always wear black and white, consider adding some color to your wardrobe. If you always speak softly and slowly, try Talk louder, faster. See if you feel bolder.

Take some risks

Get out of your soft place and do something that is out of character for you. Be bold We are all brave, so whether you decide to skydive or buy a race car, see how unexpected it will feel. You may always fall back on your old lifestyle, but becoming bold usually means branching out Be yourself and let go of the past. Being bold means keeping trying. Maybe it's going to a new place to eat on vacation, or meeting people who are completely different from your current life. Not only will you surprise your friends and family, but you will also Surprise yourself.

Pretend "as if".

Suppose one day you become bold. How will you feel? What will you do differently? Find out Some bold people, look at what they do and how they do it. Then imitate them and pretend as if you are bold too. When a situation arises, don't handle it the same way you did before; act differently according to your bold personality. Will Put yourself in a completely unfamiliar environment - this way you can practice bold behavior unconsciously. After a while, you will naturally become bold.