Whenever we talk about relationships, many girls will have this feeling: when you are in love, you and I want to be together 24 hours a day, but after the love period, relationships tend to become routine. They began to worry about whether their relationship would go downhill.

As a woman in love, it is normal to have such sensitive emotions. So how can you become a woman that men can't live without? This requires you to learn to "counter-detect" which behaviors of women are worthless in the eyes of men.

As long as you know these key clues, you can find the direction of your own breakthrough and successfully capture a man's heart.

Clue 1: Frequently looking for him and not having his own social circle

Adult love is not like that in student days, where the main focus is on passing notes and daily activities. Most of the time is spent on dating each other. The biggest pressure is that if dating affects academic performance, the teacher needs to summon the parents.

What adults need to face are changes in society and pressure from work. At this time, what men want most is to focus on their careers and strive to create more material wealth in order to give their loved ones People live a happy life.

But if a woman always comes to him frequently and sends long messages to her, and if he doesn’t reply in time, she still thinks randomly through the screen, or even unreasonably cries and complains that he doesn’t love you anymore.

In the eyes of men, such women are naive, because they don’t know how to put themselves in a man’s shoes, and instead they cause a lot of trouble. They only revolve around men and do not actively manage themselves. With such a small social circle, it is difficult to form a mature ideological system.

Coping strategies:

Women should learn to "let go" and "be independent." Don’t cling to a man and control the frequency of looking for him. Keep your WeChat chat concise and concise. At the same time, focus on improving your work skills and running your own social circle, and balance the relationship between love, work and friendship. .

A woman's "letting go" can give a man freedom so that he can devote himself to work with peace of mind. At the same time, when he feels your consideration, he will also feed back his consideration to you. A woman's "independence" is reflected in maintaining good input and output in work and social circles, so that her thoughts can become more diversified. A woman who knows how to keep pace with the times is a plus in the eyes of men.

Clue 2: Love comparison and excessive consumption in material matters

It is a woman’s nature to buy and buy. A man who loves you must be willing to work hard to make money to buy you. But some women like to compare blindly, thinking that what others have, she should also have, and men should satisfy her.

If a man cannot satisfy her, she will be like a repeater, repeatedly saying, "XX's boyfriend gave her XX, and she is very happy.", "The same woman, why XX Just dress more glamorously than me?" Wait.

Some women even tend to overspend: with a monthly salary of 3,000 yuan, they insist on overdrafting their credit cards to buy bags worth 20,000 yuan.

In the eyes of men, such women are materialistic. They closely link a man’s love for her to money. This will undoubtedly cause a lot of pressure on men, especially young people who have just graduated. Men, their salaries cannot support women’s excessive material needs.

Although men will not say it directly, they will feel that they are being "consumed" in their hearts. They will think that women who pay attention to material things are vulgar, not to mention that they themselves are not capable of supporting them. vulgar.

Coping strategies:

First of all, never associate love with money. A man who earns 100 yuan will give you 90 yuan and a man who earns 1,000 yuan will give you 100 yuan. , in fact, everyone knows which one loves you more.

Secondly, instead of comparing material things with them, it is better to compare ideas with them, read more and travel more, and increase your knowledge. The inner cultivation accumulated over the years cannot be pieced together by luxury goods.

Finally, if a woman wants to be financially independent, she cannot completely rely on men to realize her desires. The bags she buys for herself will give her a real sense of accomplishment.

It's easy to spread your hands and ask a man for money, but if he leaves you one day, how can you continue to live?

Clue 3: Not giving the man face when outside, making trouble unreasonably

Some women know that the man is going out to party with old friends, and he has already reported it in advance, but she still keeps calling him. , urging him to go home quickly to accompany her. If the man does not rush home in time, they will feel that they are not important in the man's heart.

Some women and men go to dinner with each other’s friends. When they talk about their relationships at the dinner table, they will always tell embarrassing things about the men, making everyone laugh, but he next to them His face looked extremely embarrassed.

Some women cannot control their temper in public and directly scold a man or point out his faults, attracting passers-by to watch. At this time, it does not matter whether the man admits his mistake or not.

In the eyes of men, these types of women are ignorant. Men want to save face, especially when they are out. They think that if there is any problem, they cannot go home and close the door to communicate properly. They have to put it on the table and talk about it.

Such a woman seems to want to tell the whole world how miserable my man is to prove that she is lucky to be with him, but in fact, what kind of person he is is what you are like. Women, as the saying goes, share the same scent.

Coping strategies:

A woman must learn to be a "different person". Leave enough face and image for the man outside. Even if he really does something wrong, you have to find another way to smooth things over. This also shows your magnanimity. When you get home, patiently communicate with him what you are dissatisfied with him about, and put forward your complaints. I think this is the correct "husband-keeping technique".

For a woman who knows how to take care of a man’s face and image outside, when he comes home, the man will definitely try his best to please you and reflect on the issues you raised. After all, emotional integration is a process of constant empathy for both parties.

A woman that a man can’t live without is not necessarily beautiful, but she must have her own thoughts. She may not be graceful, but she must be good at improving her temperament. She may not be talented, but She must be the one who knows how to understand him the most.

Such a woman does not need to look for experience and lessons from many failed relationships. She only needs to grasp the preferences of the man in front of her, and then she can prescribe the right medicine to continuously improve her bonus points, and finally gain the man's sincerity. and pursuit.

Such a woman can be regarded as a walking aphrodisiac.