Generally speaking, it is a man’s personal qualities and attitude towards life.

The ancients said: If you don’t accumulate steps, you won’t be able to reach a thousand miles; if you don’t accumulate small streams, you won’t be able to reach a river or sea. And life is made up of many details. Although some details are insignificant, they also hide mysteries.

The details of life can often reveal a person's qualities and habits inadvertently. In the relationship between men and women, sometimes girls will deliberately pay attention to some details, especially when two people have just started dating, or even before the relationship, when they are familiar with each other.

Because girls usually have more emotional thinking, they will observe men’s habits and attitudes towards others from the details of life. Under normal circumstances, a person's behavior and quality can be seen from his habits; his principles of doing things and his pursuits can be seen from his behavior.

So men need to pay attention to every detail in life. This is not only a small reminder, but also an attitude and code of conduct that we need to cultivate deliberately. The most difficult rule in the world to follow is speed. Speed ??comes from literacy, and literacy comes from the accumulation of details in daily life. This accumulation is a kind of kung fu.

So in the interaction between men and women, the core competitiveness of men is actually the external material conditions, personal abilities and internal attitude towards life and life.

From another perspective, it is men’s unique social survival ability, self-living ability and personal life attitude.

Of course, these three conditions are not possessed by all men. After all, we are all ordinary people and not so perfect. So as long as one of these three points is advantageous, it will be fine.

Note that the core competitiveness of men I am talking about is not the competitiveness to please a certain woman. No matter how strong your self-renewing learning ability is, the women you like will like tall and handsome women. Beautiful man, but you are not born handsome or tall, so that’s okay.

On the contrary, when a man shows such characteristics and abilities, he will defeat many of his peers and become the first choice in the hearts of more women. Or even worse, his favorability and attraction in the hearts of women will greatly increase.

I am disgusted that many boys with nothing in their 20s are always thinking about how to pursue girls (or pick up girls), but do not think about how to settle down and accumulate more abilities and knowledge to prepare for the future.

You waste the most destiny-changing years of your life. Even if you pursue the person you like, you will end up in vain because you cannot bear the responsibilities of life.

Consideration, gentleness, generosity, humor, these are the icing on the cake in a relationship, not the place of destiny.

Use the time, money, and energy you spend on blind pursuits on introspection, continuous understanding of yourself, and finding what you really like, are good at, and useful. Only then can you attract people who truly appreciate you.