Seeing your question reminds me of a painful experience I had in Guangdong a few years ago:

I remember that it was not long after I came out of society, and I was arranged by the school to live in a family. Working in a Taiwan-funded factory was a bit harder, but the pay was pretty good compared to that time. Originally, my life was calm and stable, but a phone call from a classmate from my hometown changed my life. Maybe it was my inner turmoil and dreams that caused trouble, so I resigned and went to his place, because we were all in the same town. I was also a junior high school classmate, so it was more about trust and unconditional trust. I had just entered society and didn’t have much experience to draw from, so I stumbled into "MLM", an industry that was very popular at the time.

I won’t go into too much detail about my days there. Mainly, I persisted for more than half a year, and those days when I left “MLM” without any money were really difficult. Everyone knows that my family would not be very supportive or understanding of this kind of thing, so I still remember it very clearly: At that time, I was really penniless, and the Internet was not that developed at that time. If you need money, others will give it to you. I still needed to go to the bank to transfer the money, which would take a few days, so I didn’t have time at all. I also felt that I had no shame in asking others to borrow money. I had no choice but to go to Dongguan, Guangdong to find my brother. It was not very far away, and the travel expenses at that time were still Enough.

But the social security in Guangdong at that time was still very poor. It was in the early 2000s. I remember leaving the "MLM" den at that time with nothing. I didn't take anything, so I took a car and went straight to In my brother's factory, I couldn't even figure out the southeast, northwest, and the Internet was not that developed at that time. I could find out everything by searching on the Internet. Mobile phones are luxury goods for us, and we mainly rely on public transportation. Contact by phone. We were tricked into sitting in the wrong direction when we were in the car. We were kicked out of the car in a dark place at night. We were all still in a daze. It was night so most of us were asleep. We got off the bus when the driver told us we were there. We were dumbfounded as soon as we got off the bus. We were simply deceived. When we arrived at a deserted place, all kinds of anger surged into our hearts. Some people even picked up the cigarettes on the roadside. The stone was thrown, but the car had long since disappeared, and they just complained angrily. But no matter what, we still have to continue our journey. We can only travel together, find a more prosperous place, and then go our separate ways. Those with money can change cars and continue moving forward, but I really don’t have a penny on me. No more, no more money to even make a phone call.

I could only ask a security guard on the street, how do I get to Dongguan? People were surprised: How could we walk there so far away? I could only smile bitterly, and I didn’t want to tell people that I was penniless. What else could I do if I couldn’t walk? I remember that I walked for at least 24 hours, and the big shoes on my feet were almost rotten. I didn't eat at all. I was really exhausted and almost collapsed inside. I could only keep believing. My own belief is that it will be good if I find my brother, and I can have a good meal and sleep well. I really go to the big fruit wholesale market at night to look for the rotten fruits that people throw away. I shed tears while eating. Maybe I feel sorry for myself but I feel too tired. I sleep on a stone bench in the park. Sometimes when the security guards at the time saw me, I would be asked to check my ID card and run away. No matter what, I got over it in the end. I finally found my brother while walking along the road. The moment we met, I felt like I was no longer a human being or a ghost. I was tired, hungry and sleepy, so I quickly called my brother. I was invited to dinner. I remember that I really ate four or five bowls of rice in one go. I was finally full. Then I found a small hotel and took a shower and had a good sleep. The next day I felt like I was finally alive.

It feels so good. Maybe this is the bottom rebound from the lowest point in life. At this time, I feel very happy because I finally got through it. It was not easy. Now that I think about it, I can only write down a few words, but the feelings I felt at that time were really It’s too deep, too deep!

Although my little experience is incomparable with yours, I think the most important thing for you now is to live a good life and solve the food and clothing problems for the whole family before going. Think long-term, and then think about foreign debt and other issues. Can you find a temporary job or something to do so that you can have some financial resources and then think about your future? Although I have not started a business, you must have the ability and brains to choose to start a business. Failure is only temporary. Your foreign debts can only be paid off by you making a comeback. It is definitely not easy to rely on work, not to mention you have your own A big family to feed.

So I personally think you should get back on your feet as soon as possible. The first priority is to find a job that can support your family. Only by allowing yourself and your family to live a good life can you have the capital to make a comeback. No matter what, keep going. Although it's not easy, I believe you can get through it! Good luck! ! !

In July of the year before last, I lost all my previous business in tourism, ecology and real estate. I probably lost less than 6 million yuan, and mainly borrowed money from friends and family, about 1.5 million yuan.

If my wife hadn’t encouraged me and couldn’t bear to leave my son, I would have committed suicide by jumping off the building.

Later, I started a POS business with my friends, and then established a small company by myself. Now I have seven or eight people under my management. They are all good friends who have worked hard together.

At first, all the credit cards were maxed out, including 32,000 Paipai Loan, 24,000 Doudouqian, and 28,000 Ping An Puhui. When I started to develop POS, I couldn't push it out at first. Later, I gradually gained more customers and more cooperation.

Now that the loan and credit card have been paid off, there is still more than 200,000 yuan left in the account. I will not be able to pay it off this year.

Hard work pays off. At the lowest point in life, you should enrich yourself, analyze yourself, keep yourself busy, and never give up on yourself.

Believe in yourself and you will succeed.

Thank you for the invitation.

Regarding the issue of entrepreneurial failure, I once answered a question. I might as well talk to you again today.

Don’t look at it. Ren Zhengfei is now a multi-billionaire. Back then, he was defrauded out of 2 million when he started doing business. That's unfortunate enough, right? However, there is no information about what he did next.

I'm just telling you. In today's society. Aren't you at the end of your rope? There is no perfect way for everyone. If you don’t succeed in starting a business, go work first. If you still want to start a business in the future, go work in the industry where you failed and learn from experience. The important thing is not to become discouraged after one setback. Those who are successful now still have setbacks when starting a business.

Find a job, no matter how high or low the salary is, at least solve the problem of food rations first. Once food and clothing are ensured, we can discuss the next step with our family members. If you have the conditions, you can ask for help from the outside world and seek help from reliable people. Many times it is not family or friends who lend a helping hand, but kind-hearted strangers.

In fact, everything else is secondary, the most important thing is to make a living. Even if you work part-time, part-time or part-time, don't be afraid of losing face. The most important thing is to make money to buy rice for cooking.

There was a time when my family couldn’t even afford to rent a house. It was a kind person from the church who took us in as a homeless person. At that time, the desperate family shamelessly accepted the other person’s help. My mother and I often do some manual work. The pay is not high, but as long as we are willing to endure hardships and are not afraid of being tired, we can still make a living. During that time, my mother took over handicrafts from everywhere. She was unemployed and helped my father with the small shop business during the day. When there were not many customers, she used her free time to do handicrafts. After I got home from school in the afternoon and let my parents have a good rest in the evening, I took over the manual work and continued to work.

The family works together and everyone does what they can for the family. Later, another kind person from the church introduced my mother to work in her factory, and the family's income improved slightly. It was a really difficult time. Our friends looked down on us, and our relatives avoided us. At that time, the family could only grit their teeth and persevere, struggling to earn a meager income.

After persisting for a few years, the situation began to improve. We have always been very grateful to those who reached out to help us back then. Now we can keep in touch with each other and get along with each other more like family and friends.

Thanks for the invitation! Answer: Everyone will have their own low point in life, and I am no exception. When I was about thirty years old, I encountered a problem that was difficult to solve. I was in a dilemma, and I felt very complicated, contradictory, entangled, and helpless... This matter has been bothering me for several years. . All my good friends who were usually good friends disappeared one by one. You can imagine how bad I felt. Just like this, I slowly endured it day by day... In order to get out as soon as possible, I listened to music crazily, read books, and recorded the "hurts" deep in my heart in my "diary"; I fell. Okay, just get up. The days go on every day, put your energy on work and family, and try to do everything well in life!

In fact, looking back at this low period in the past, it has sharpened my mentality. It made me understand: "To live, you must face everything in life bravely." I have grown up and grown up! Although the process of "going through it" is very difficult and very addictive, there is a kind of enjoyment called "enjoyment in hardship". The more life occasionally hits you, the more you must be full of "fighting spirit" and always be ready to "fight back" against bad emotions! We should be like "Little Grass", living tenaciously, tenaciously and bravely, "nothing is a big deal"; everything will pass!

Life has its ups and downs...you have to taste the ups and downs, the sweet, the bitter, the spicy and the salty! "Low tide period": It can make you understand and understand many things. "Low tide period" is also the process in which you are developing in the direction of "good luck"! Don't give up your self-confidence in every period, say to yourself every day: "Come on", and embrace the world with a smile and happiness!

Just push through. Is there any way? Some suffering must be endured. If you escape, it will come to you through another way. Suffering will make you grow. It only lasts for 3 or 5 years. Once you get through it, things will become brighter. You are very eager to have a girlfriend at your age. I have been here and I understand your difficulties. Women will come sooner or later. There is no need to worry. There is no need to pursue girls specially and humiliate yourself with a cold face and a hot butt. If you can learn, study hard. If you can't learn, go to society and exercise more. But society makes it easy for people to learn bad things. Don't exercise again and again. In the end, you will become an ignorant bastard. That way, you will be finished for the rest of your life. Even if you don't go to school, You should also read more and read more good books so that you can gain insights and tell you what is the correct path in life.

Take the story of a friend. As a young man, around 20 years old, I started to make my way in society. Not only did I work as a waiter but also as a courier. I did almost all of them. How did you do? Or how are you doing? It is not very good to get it. In many cases, it seems to be muddling along, and there are many temptations outside. Friends are in a mess, and life is also in a mess. Sometimes you may not have enough money to eat, and sometimes you may be drunk and dreaming, eating and drinking.

One day, when he and a few friends entered a night of no return, it was a challenge between desire and human heart, a struggle between money and ideas, and all his strength was spent on money. Everything points to getting rich.

But who would have known that the night that day was so long and the ending of the story was so tragic. Not only did he not make any money, but he lost everything and came back exhausted and penniless. .

Debt collectors are everywhere, and there is nowhere to hide. From cities to rural areas, from having nothing to never coming back again, a complete life, an ordinary life is destroyed in this way. The person planning to get married and the relatives invited to the wedding are all gone, and the only ones left are the parents. Excuse you, when the debt collectors show up at the doorstep of the rural home, the family members cry heartbreakingly, the parents' That kind of helplessness, only hearing the heartbreaking cries and boundless regrets of my friends.

This may be the moment when his life has completely fallen into a trough, and everything has fallen into the darkest and most desperate moment. He always wants to have a good life and live a better life for his family and his parents. .

Who would have thought that all the good things would be destroyed in one thought, and all the stories would be shrouded in darkness.

As a friend of a friend, it is so difficult to borrow money, and even more difficult to repay it. Now we can only rely on ordinary life, ordinary work, bit by bit, bit by bit. With a little effort, you will no longer be so depressed and slowly get out of the trough of life. That is the real thing. When it comes to how to go out and how to get ahead, I haven't seen the results yet.

The lowest period of my life is now. From 2018 to March this year, I lost more than 200,000 in business, and the credit card balance was 250,000. I bought a house in May last year with a down payment of 550,000, and a loan. 900,000, with a monthly payment of 4,800, and it will be paid off in thirty years. I have no official source of income yet. I am 30 years old this year. How big is it? I will be 60 when I pay off the mortgage. I plan to have a baby immediately. I will wait a year. All kinds of expenses, life is so stressful that I can't breathe

Find a job first so I can eat and then think about what to do next. I am also in debt now. I also work part-time delivering food and doing odd jobs in restaurants besides going to work every day. Although the income is very small, it is better than nothing. I also plan to find some small business when I have enough money. Working can only provide food and clothing. It is basically impossible to pay off debts without having money, so I have to do it myself

I am going through a trough. Things were going well before. Since the last time, I have been in business for nearly ten years. After I stopped doing it for some reason, I continued to do it intermittently, but every time I wanted to do it, I felt depressed and confused, as if I was trapped in a cage and couldn't break free