After completing the divorce procedures with my wife, I felt mixed emotions. After leaving the Civil Affairs Bureau, I even had nowhere to go. My wife promised to give me some time and let me live at home, because my family didn’t know about our divorce yet. I don’t know how to tell my parents, or maybe I don’t want to go back to that home at all. I guess if my parents know that I’m divorced, not only will they not sympathize with and comfort me, but they will get scolded.
Just yesterday, my mother called me and asked for money. Apart from this reason, she never comes to me. My mother said, "If your brother wants to do business, you can find a way to get 50,000 yuan!" I laughed and thought of a way, what can I think of? Since I got married, more than half of my salary has been subsidized to my parents and younger brother. Now they just want me to ask for it from my wife and father-in-law. Anyway, as long as they can get money for them, they don't care about anything else. I told my mother, "Mom, I got divorced and left home."
As I expected, the other person on the phone was stunned for two or three seconds, and then there was a huge pain in the head and face. scold. He scolded me for being worthless, incompetent, and unable to please my father-in-law. I was extremely upset. Not long after I hung up the phone, my brother called again, "Brother, please think of a way. If you don't have 50,000, you can do 30,000. Don't you have two credit cards? Help me use some credit..." Look, this is my dearest person. He can't give me a few warm words, he only knows how to rub salt into my wounds.
Growing up, my parents’ attitudes towards me and my younger brother have been very different, one in the sky and one on the earth. I was just a puppet raised by my parents. They raised me just to make me pay for my younger brother. I am 30 years old this year, and my brother is five years younger than me. At that time, in rural areas, if the first child was a boy, we were not allowed to have a second child. My mother got pregnant unexpectedly when I was five years old, and my father went through a lot of trouble and paid a fine before my brother was born. The fortune teller said that my younger brother would be blessed with good fortune and that he would become rich in the future. After that, my treatment suddenly fell from the sky to the earth.
My parents were like eyeballs to my younger brother, holding him in their mouths for fear of melting. They were like a weed to me, leaving me to fend for myself. My younger brother wears new clothes and eats well. I wear old clothes that my cousins ??took over. I did pretty well in the college entrance examination and was admitted to a second-tier university. My mother sneered, "It's not a famous university. Don't go to it. Come down and make money as soon as possible." The next day, I packed my bags and followed a distant relative. The cousin entered the construction site.
Later, I was introduced to my ex-wife. Her family was quite wealthy, and her father-in-law opened two factories. My ex-wife broke her face while playing when she was a child, but she didn't leave any scars, but her left eye had weak vision and was almost invisible. Because of this shortcoming, their family wanted to find a son-in-law, but there was no suitable candidate. My parents heard that this family did not require a bride price, and they also had a car and a house, so they hurriedly agreed on my behalf.
In this way, my parents didn’t pay a penny and even received tens of thousands of yuan in gifts from my father-in-law, so they “married” me away. My relationship with my ex-wife cannot be said to be deep, but I do really want to live a stable life with my ex-wife. I thought I could be at peace, but I didn't expect that it was all a luxury. Not long after we got married, she asked me for money again and again. Without exception, the excuses mentioned were my younger brother, buying a mobile phone, buying a computer, buying clothes, buying shoes, and having a girlfriend. These were all the reasons why my mother called me to ask for money.
I started saving money behind my ex-wife’s back. At first, I asked for 3,200 yuan. Later, when my ex-wife found out about this, she didn’t blame me, and even offered to pay her monthly. My mother gave her two thousand yuan as a token of filial piety to the elderly and told me not to get into trouble with my mother over money. Our tolerance did not satisfy our mother's desires. Instead, she intensified her demands and demanded more and more. One time, she said she was not in good health and wanted to see a doctor. She asked me for 5,000 yuan. I couldn't get it out for a while, so I talked to her for a few days. My mother thought I was deliberately not giving her money, so she went to her ex-wife's office to check in. There was a scene. This incident caused an uproar in the factory. Even my father-in-law knew about it, and the impact was particularly bad.
My father-in-law was very dissatisfied with me after he found out that I often used money to support my parents. Originally, my son-in-law felt like he was being relied upon.
My mother and brother asked for money again and again, and my ex-wife finally couldn't bear it anymore and often quarreled with me. I felt that the whole family was becoming more and more disgusted with me, and the relationship that was not deep at first with my wife gradually disappeared.
I finally chose to divorce and move out of the house. My child is over two years old and has my father-in-law’s surname. Their family has good conditions and the child will not be wronged. As a man, I have lived a useless life for half my life, like a chess piece of my parents, at their mercy. This time I decided not to be cowardly anymore, I wanted to live a brave life for myself.
After I got divorced, I felt extremely relaxed. After hanging up the phone from my mother and brother, I packed up my things and said goodbye to my ex-wife and children. I didn't go home and got on the train going north directly. I hope that in the future, I will be able to break into a small world with my own abilities.