"Inviting someone to dinner and paying the bill on the pretext of going to the bathroom is more comfortable than doing it in person." What do you think?

I have personal experience.

Around May last year, my son was dating a girlfriend. The two young people got along for a while, both felt good about each other, and officially established a relationship.

The other party’s family lives in the city, only 50 kilometers away from us, and we all know the other party’s parents. Since the two children get along well, as the man’s parents, we cannot ignore this matter. Just ask, not to mention we all know each other, so of course we have to take the initiative.

So, I called the girl’s parents and asked us to get together whenever we have time, and the other party readily agreed.

The conditions in rural areas are limited and not as convenient as in cities. I left the hotel booking to the girl’s parents. Soon, they got back to me and told me what time, which hotel and which private room. All arrangements were made.

When the agreed time arrived, we arrived at the hotel on time and made an appointment with the introducer and his wife. There were about ten people at a table.

After a while, the banquet started. I rarely drank, and my mind was spent on observing the behavior of the banquet. I would take the wine when there was no wine, pour water when there was no water, and act as half a waiter.

After everyone had had three rounds of wine and five dishes, they all said they didn’t want to drink any more and started serving the main dishes. I guess there won't be any more wine or food, which means there won't be any more consumption. I quietly walked out, pretending to go to the bathroom, and went to the bar to pay the bill. He returned to the box as if nothing had happened.

After a while, everyone dispersed. After walking out of the box and coming to the lobby, the girl's parents said, "You haven't bought the order yet, have you?"

I smiled and said, "I have already bought it."

Afterwards, the girl's parents He praised me more than once for handling things properly and for my quality.

After nearly a year of getting along, our two families have a very harmonious relationship. I went to his house for dinner and brought some gifts. He came to my house and also brought many gifts. No, during the Spring Festival, the couple The two of them came to my house as guests and brought expensive gifts such as tea, eggs, Wuliangye wine, etc.

I believe that many details in life can often reflect a person's cultivation and quality. If you pay attention to these details, they may have unexpected effects.

"Inviting someone to dinner and paying the bill on the pretext of going to the bathroom is more comfortable than doing it in person." What do you think?

I totally agree.

Because such people have very high emotional intelligence.

Why is it said that emotional intelligence is very high?

If we pay the bill on behalf of the other party, the other party will more or less feel that you are showing off your wealth or showing your sincerity in paying the bill.

The scariest thing It will embarrass the other person. (Does the other party want to say a few words, "I'll buy, I'll buy?" It's embarrassing to say or not)

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Money is a good thing that everyone likes, and no one has a grudge against money, so if it is a friend in the circle, At dinner parties, it is best for everyone to take turns settling the bill. If you don't want to pay, don't go to the banquet. There is a saying that goes well, sooner or later you will have to pay back your money. If you evade your account once, twice or three times, you will probably get yourself lost. Gains and losses have always coexisted. Those who take the initiative to check out in advance, in addition to being responsible and moral, are also mostly people with requirements.

Therefore, you must cherish such friends when you meet them. You must not lower your character or ruin your reputation because of trivial matters such as checking out, let alone lose valuable friendship. With you and me, courtesy and mutual respect are the only way to make friends and make them last long.

As the saying goes, do things in a high profile and live in a low profile. This is my usual work style. Inviting someone to dinner and settling the bill on the pretext of going to the bathroom is certainly more comfortable than doing it in person. The last thing in my life is to see some vain people pretending to be in a hurry to check out without taking any actual actions. Such people have only one way out, which is to join the blacklist and be kicked out of the circle of friends.

If you look at a leopard, you will know the whole leopard; if you are at a distance, you will know the whole situation. A person's character is made, not shouted.

A few years ago, I went back to my hometown to celebrate the New Year, and more than a dozen of my uncles, brothers and sisters came back from all over to celebrate the New Year. Brothers and sisters who rarely see each other have not been so neatly together for many years. Everyone suggested going to a hotel to celebrate. As the boss, I called in advance to reserve a private room and transferred 1,000 via WeChat as a deposit. After changing glasses, after drinking for three rounds, someone asked to pay, but the landlady said that they had already been paid.

Years later, my brothers would go around to my house to give me a few fish after they had caught them. Although I had never caught any fish, there was always plenty of fish to eat at home.

The so-called low-key life means that you must be generous, aboveboard, dare to do things, and never take things for granted.

In my experience, this happens all the time. Sometimes I do it, sometimes my friends do it.

On the day of the National Day holiday last year, I sent out an invitation to a few friends who I hadn’t seen for a long time to get together in the evening. Logically speaking, I should have paid for the meal, but after we had finished drinking and eating, when I went to the bar to pay the bill, the waiter told me that the bill had already been purchased by Chen, who I have known for more than ten years. Bought by a friend with the last name.

Inviting people to dinner, except for requests for business or business activities, the rest should be family and friendship. No one would invite a bunch of unrelated people to dinner. The first two are naturally paid by the owner. As for relatives and friends, I think there is no need to make such a clear calculation. This time he paid the bill, and you can just pay for it next time. If we had a good meal and no one wanted to pay, but you were looking at me and I was looking at you, how embarrassing would this scene be? Is this meal interesting? We can't have psychological pressure because of the question of who will pay for a meal. Then we might as well not eat. Why bother? You can't hold a grudge because you paid for a meal yourself or someone else paid for it. Some people hold grudges about what they owe others, and they hold grudges about what others owe them. You should be a bigger person and be more free and easy. Good, what do you think?

Hello, I am Hongbo Youmeng. The questioner asked: "Inviting someone to dinner and using the excuse to go to the bathroom to pay is more comfortable than doing it in person." I think this is very appropriate. Why? There are several reasons?

First of all, the subject here makes it clear that this is inviting people to dinner. Inviting someone to a meal means, as the name suggests, that you have to pay for it. Since you are paying, don't wait until the end of the meal to pay the bill. This will make the diners unnatural. It's possible that he will settle the bill without you noticing, so you won't be inviting people to dinner.

When you invite people to dinner, everyone eats with the same mood. Whether it is a daily dinner party or you want to ask someone to do something, this is someone who is entrusted by you. Since it is entrusted by others, you need to make the guests you invite more natural. If you can pay the bill inadvertently, or when you use the restroom, when the meal is over and people are about to get up to pay the bill, you can tell them that you have paid the bill.

In this way, customers will look surprised and praise you for being so fast. At the same time, they will also appreciate and praise your approach!

If you have not paid before, at the end, when the waiter comes to the table and wants to pay, the waiter will not know who is paying the bill, so she will try The question is: Who pays the bill? In this way, all the guests present will feel uncomfortable. If you don’t pay, won’t you be looked down upon? This may lead to everyone rushing to pay for it. Even if they don’t rush to pay the bill, everyone will feel unnatural at that time.

So since you are inviting people to dinner, you should buy the order in advance when no one is paying attention, or when you are using the toilet as an excuse, so that everyone can be comfortable.

I am Hongbo Youmeng, welcome to follow me.

I also personally experienced the "excuse to go to the bathroom to pay the bill"

It was last September, my best friend and I traveled to Chengdu. After contacting us, he was very enthusiastic and said that he would take us to play together. He postponed the matter that day and picked us up at the airport and sent us to the hotel. No wonder he was embarrassed! Then we went to eat together. Chengdu hotpot was very delicious and we had a lot of fun chatting while eating.

My friends in Chengdu are very hospitable. When I went to Chengdu for a few days, I didn’t want to bother my friends and wanted to thank them for the meal. I used the bathroom to pay for it without permission. For us, this is A kind of etiquette, it is more decent than rushing to pay in person, and you need to be able to deal with others!

When he had enough to eat and drink and paid the bill, he said that he had already bought it. His friend was very angry when he learned that he looked down on him. When he came to their place, he wanted to be a landlord and follow the local customs.

A friend's words and deeds are also a reflection of his life, and he is enthusiastic and helpful, so no matter what the occasion, you still need to know how to do things with emotional intelligence, and you can't be looked down upon by others for not understanding the world!

First of all, you have to judge whether the order for today’s dinner can be purchased. For example, if the boss of the company says he wants to treat you, don’t make the boss lose face by grabbing the bill.

Secondly, if you are a new entrant The department must find a way to understand the rules for everyone's usual meals, so as not to make others unhappy or embarrassed when they buy orders later. Once you do these two things, you can start paying in style using the following tricks.

The first tip: Make an agreement with your friends before the dinner party that you will be the host. If you forget to mention it in advance, then make it clear at the beginning. If someone refuses to give in, you will say that it will be your turn to treat them next time. This is accepted by most people.

The second trick: Choose a restaurant that you are familiar with. The manager or waiter of the restaurant is familiar with you and trusts you. When you arrive at the restaurant, tell the manager or waiter that you will pay for the meal. In this way, no matter how polite your friend is when checking out, they will only charge your card to pay the bill, no matter how many credit cards they hand over at the same time.

The third trick: Choose a restaurant, order dishes and drinks, and pay in advance

When I have nothing to do, I usually invite friends to eat and drink. When friends go out to eat, they book a hotel first, pay some money in advance, tell the hotel that they will refund the amount and pay less, and then call them.

Once I invited a friend to dinner. There were only 6 of us at first. As soon as the food was served, my friend got a call and told me where to eat. There were 6 or 7 people who came over, but I didn’t recognize any of them. During the meal, my friend's friends didn't say anything to us. After eating, my friend kept calling the waiter to pay the bill. When the waiter walked in front of him, he stopped moving. I also accepted it. When he saw him like this, I told him that I had paid the bill. I don’t know if you have ever met a friend like this.

During the World Cup, I went out to watch a football match with my friends. I directly gave the money to the boss and said I was afraid that no one would pay for it when I got drunk. I said if it’s not enough, I can wait until my wife comes to pick me up, just ask her. At this time, the boss said, “Young man, you are so free and easy.” I said, you must be more free and easy when you relax, that’s how life is.

There is really nothing wrong with paying for meals and drinks in advance with your true friends. First, your current living conditions may be better, and second, there are not many friends who can share the same difficulties

Hello

I believe that many people have the situation you mentioned, and I am also such a person.

Usually when I go out to eat with my friends, most of them pay the bill this way. At the beginning, I ate with my colleagues and friends from work, because the relationship was not too deep and I didn’t want to owe any favors. or something, I will settle the account in advance. However, we are all understanding people, and later on, we would make it up every time we had a meal together. Everyone said that it was good, and there was no awkwardness between each other. We really liked this way of getting along with each other.

When you have a meal with your good friends, it’s more casual. Whoever lets you come out to eat to stir up the situation usually pays. The person who invites you should pay for it yourself. We I will also find an excuse in advance, such as going out to make a phone call or something, and settle the bill in advance. Those who can get together and become good friends also have relatively similar three views, and everyone will understand it tacitly.