the reason is probably that the family's "energy resources" are basically spent on the boss, and the second child was born immediately after him, so there is not much energy to "pay attention". It is in such an environment of lack of "attention" that he has to "seek inward".
In September, the second child also started to go to kindergarten. The school requires that the big class arrive at the kindergarten before 8: 2. The small class arrived at the park before 8: 4, because it was impossible to send it to school twice, and basically all of them were sent to school at 8: 15. In this way, for the second child, he is basically the earliest in his class. We all have this experience. If we arrive at school too early, we will face a huge "blank", a "blank" in the campus or a "blank" in the classroom. Talking about the "blank" of life has become the theme of this article.
to describe this blank in one sentence, "there is no one else except me", whether it is the intuitive feeling in the desert, the thin sense of existence in the downtown area, or the boredom of living alone. They are all manifestations of the "blank" of life.
As the saying goes, "people have spare time to make things happen", which is an experience that many people deeply feel. When husband and wife don't go to work on weekends, it is easy to quarrel; During the Spring Festival holiday, when I go back to spend more than three days with my father, I will feel depressed inside. When people are in the state of "doing nothing", they lack the sense of existence, so they create various entertainment projects.
But entertainment only temporarily fills the gap in time, but can't fill the gap in heart. For example, after mahjong is over, it may be a little comforting to win some money, but losing money is full of emptiness and frustration; For example, when playing a game, at the end of the game, a huge "sense of emptiness" is wrapped in a "sense of fatigue". For example, if you brush a short video, in a blink of an eye, several decimals have passed. We don't know what you are actually watching, but we only know that the eyes are sour and the skull is bloated.
"Play to death" not only affects our physical and mental health, but also lowers the quality of our lives, even lowers the lower limit of our personality.
of course, the same is true of "over-trading" in futures trading, and we can't face the "blank" of short positions. Compared with the anxiety of losing money, the anxiety of short positions is also a kind of torture. How many futures traders fall under excessive trading.
No matter "people are idle" or "excessive trading", it is an obstacle to human nature. The obstacle of human nature is nothing more than the "five thieves" (power, affection, fame and fortune) at the mercy of people. "There are five thieves in the sky, and those who see them prosper." See the essence of "busy" clearly, that is, see "five thieves". "Five thieves are in the heart, and they are implemented in the sky", just like "seeing the mind clearly, that is, seeing the Buddha". The foundation of the existence of religion lies in that it is to solve the obstacles of human nature. This is different from "philosophy". I understand that religion contains philosophy and is greater than philosophy.
just think, if we eliminate all our pursuit of the "five thieves", what are we left with? Not for power, not for love, not for name, not for profit, not for color, then what is the meaning of our life? For most people, they are trapped in this "five elements" all their lives. This is both a cage and a "Wuzhishan". If you can perceive the space outside the "five thieves", you will perceive "God". In other words, "God" is the "self" (true self) other than the "five thieves". I don't study for "power, affection, fame and fortune", so I must read books I really like; I don't do things for the sake of "full name, fame and fortune", so what I do must be something that can enrich me at the moment. In this way, there will be no blank in our life, there will be no "entertainment to death", and we will no longer be "walking dead" alive.