The female host must be the embodiment of truth, goodness and beauty, the male host must be handsome and rich, and the love between them must be firm. Obstacles come from the outside world or misunderstanding, never from feelings themselves.
Therefore, many people who oppose Korean dramas will tell girls who love Korean dramas that if they watch less Korean dramas, they will never get married. There is no such perfect love in the world.
However, the love of Korean dramas has changed dramatically in the past two years. Not only is it no longer the pattern that women are strong and men are weak, but it is more about the discussion of love itself. On this spring night, I saw that Korean dramas finally dared to face the imperfections in love.
Spring Festival Evening is the second collaboration between director An Panxi and screenwriter Jin En. The first cooperation between them was "a beautiful sister who often invited me to dinner". At that time, I thought that the director and screenwriter wanted to talk about an imperfect love, but maybe Korean dramas have never been exposed to such themes, so it seems very meaningless and bloody. In the last few episodes, the audience began to be unbearable, and the Douban score dropped from 8.9 at the beginning to 7.7 today.
However, after the finale of "Spring Night", the Douban score was still 8.6, and the second cooperation between the director and the screenwriter finally held the venue. And the imperfections that I want to express in the feelings of men and women have finally been well presented.
Money and identity are probably the standard of the original male host of Korean drama, and this perfect aura finally faded in the drama "Spring Night". The man is a single father with children and works as a small pharmacist in a pharmacy. The point is that he didn't run this drugstore.
The hostess, an ordinary librarian, as a primitive political setting that violates truth, goodness and beauty in Korean dramas, had a stable boyfriend when they met.
Such a dull setting is hard to imagine appearing in a Korean drama that provides girls with love fantasy materials.
You should know that the male host of popular Korean dramas such as "Why is Jin Shuji like this" is the second generation of chaebol and the vice president of the group. The "touching" man is a star lawyer. That is, even if you don't have money, you are very talented and can become a leader or star in your own field. Not to mention the existence of superhuman beings such as aliens and ghosts.
Now the identity background you see is finally really like what you can meet in your daily life.
Perfect love is that my lover is a hero on earth and will drive colorful clouds to save me. Imperfect love is what kind of person I will meet. Love has never won the lottery, or even approached, but only compromised with each other.
Finally, love in Korean dramas is no longer a fantasy with a huge bubble, but a little fortunate in plain life. I'm not that good, and neither are you, but we met and fell in love.
The last two episodes of Spring Night are about the contradiction between two people. Originally, Ren Jing had reached an agreement with his family, and his parents also meant to compromise. However, men are getting nervous, especially when they hear the news that their ex-girlfriend is getting married.
After getting drunk, Zhihao asked Ren Jing if she would give up on herself.
This is the exit. At first, everyone didn't pay much attention to the children's problems, but deep down, they were still not at ease with each other.
Zhihao is worried that this will eventually become a burden for Ren Jing and a place to be criticized. What he wants to ask is not whether you will leave them behind, but whether you will be bitter, tired and complaining in this relationship.
It's not that Zhihao doesn't believe in himself, it's that Ren Jing is angry, but I'm a little hard in the face of all this. If what you gave me was not 100% support, but was so sensitive, I would have been cautious and needed to be more cautious. Why don't you help me to lighten my workload, instead, you add to my burden?
This kind of love in my heart was not so straightforward in previous Korean dramas. Either they think it's not a problem, or in the end the problem doesn't exist (for example, the ex-girlfriend comes back and says that Eun Woo is not Zhihao's child).
Because it seems that as soon as these little thoughts appear, love becomes imperfect. How can you have doubts about love, can't let go, can't see each other's efforts, and their love is not firm enough? But the twists and turns of love and small challenges are the normal state of reality.
Those unspeakable doubts, those unknowns that are not from God's point of view, and those occasional small mistakes will make love imperfect, and facing up, tolerating and even compromising is the real status quo.
Robert Jeffrey Sternberg, an American psychologist, put forward "triangular theory of love", believing that love consists of three basic components: passion, intimacy and commitment. Many people regard the existence of these three basic elements as the definition of a perfect love.
But in fact, Robert Jeffrey Sternberg also said that even if these three basic elements exist, love is constantly changing and will not be 100% perfect. What we have to do is to constantly adjust and maintain the relationship between the three. This process consumes a lot of energy and will make love disappear inadvertently.
Korean dramas like to put these three elements aside before, and this love is stable. Love at first sight attracts each other's passion, sweet intimacy and a commitment to overcome obstacles. Actually, it is not so logical and natural.
It's like when everyone is talking about the play, Ren Jing broke up with her ex-boyfriend and shared the whole play. In fact, under careful analysis, whether it is a tangled boyfriend, a strong father, or a worried mother, the obstacles are not great, not to the point of exaggeration.
But even so, the feelings of two people will still be turbulent. Because Ren Jing wants to go first with her children, a sad and angry hero. Because I have a misunderstanding about myself, I feel very wronged and quiet.
This is not perfect, what is more imperfect is that there are many such situations.
In the last episode, Ren Jing asked Zhihao to write a letter of guarantee not to drink or get married. You think you will see an obedient hero, but what you see is a hero who breaks the precepts with the encouragement of his friends.
That is the reality. A boyfriend who loves you after writing a letter of guarantee may not always listen to you completely. If you put it in the current emotional column, you can break up online. Ren Jing just reprimanded a few words, and the letter of commitment at the back was changed to don't lie.
If love is so strong and you pursue perfection, you may not be able to live.
Xue Zhaofeng, an economist, said in "Seven Pa Shuo" that marriage means running a business and signing a contract, running a family business and signing a lifelong wholesale futures contract. From the perspective of economic man, marriage should not look at each other's highest point, but should look at the lowest point. Accept the bad side and create a better future together.
So, welcome to the real love world of adults.