Xin Qiji once said: "Cao Liu, if you have children, you should be like Sun Zhongmou." In fact, choosing a husband to get married is also like Sun Zhongmou.
It seems like a good choice to order Cao Cao, the son of a million soldiers, but it is not.
There is a very interesting phenomenon. There are 65 volumes in The History of the Three Kingdoms, among which Shu Wei has 30 volumes. However, even in this nearly half of the pen and ink, Cao Cao's share of women is far less than that of Liu Bei and Sun Quan, and there is only one-Bian Hou, that is, the mother of Cao Pi and Cao Zhi.
This is the incomplete historical data, which is hard to convince people. It doesn't make sense to say that Chen Shou and Cao Shi Group have problems. So Cao Cao is single-minded, only this woman? This is even more unreliable. Bronze finches are deep in spring and built by one person. There is only one explanation, and Chen Shou cannot be recorded. Cao Cao's position at that time was that he was the son of heaven, which was never an exaggeration. Was that little incident in the harem humane enough for outsiders? Women are just playthings and decorations to him. I think Bian Shi, a woman who "worships family", would rarely be included in history if she didn't "study the national system".
Choosing a spot man is, of course, food and clothing. However, at the same time, you have to endure the loneliness of "waiting for the door as deep as the sea", be your own canary with peace of mind, and silently "peony flowers are red, no one comes to see".
Let's talk about the inadvisability of futures Liu Bei first.
History tells us that Liu Bei once had four wives, namely Mi, Gan, Sun and his wife. But most of these four women have become tragedies: Mrs. Mi, the wife of dross, can be said to be the most important woman in Liu Bei's life. It was because of her initial support that Liu Bei was able to start a business, and the result was probably due to overwork and early death. Mrs. Gump had trouble with her, but she didn't live well either. When I was hanging, I was thrown in Dangyang Nagsaka. Thanks to Zhao Zilong, I was "rescued from the predicament" and finally died young. As for being later honored as a queen, it was only Zhuge Liang who pretended to understand the meaning of Spring and Autumn Annals, which had nothing to do with her. As for her granddaughter Sun Ren, her marriage is just the product of a political game, and she has no right to choose. Later, there was nothing.
Only the remarried widow, Queen Mu Wu, became the queen mother for a few days, but at that time, Xuande was dead, and Shu was in the declining era of "Liaohua was the pioneer", so I'm afraid it was far from happiness.
It can be seen that most women who are futures Liu Bei have no good end. The reason is that Liu Bei hasn't been idle for a few days in his life, running around all day, dreaming his own dream of "returning to Han Dynasty". How can he have time to be nice to his woman? By the time he completes the gorgeous turn from "poor generation" to "rich generation", the woman standing behind this successful man probably has counted her.
Women choose futures men, which may make a touching legend, but the taste is very bad. Even the "solitary red" is not qualified, and it has withered in a hurry.
Finally, look at Sun Quan.
In the history of the Three Kingdoms, the introduction of Sun Quan's harem can be said to be the most detailed. His six wives, Xie, Xu, Bu, Pan, Er Wang and Liu Fu, stepped onto the stage of history one by one, telling sad or happy stories.
The reason is that Sun Quan doesn't have the power to rule the world like Cao Cao. He still needs to fight, sometimes forming an alliance with Liu Bei and sometimes obeying Cao Cao to protect his southeast corner. However, compared with Liu Bei, who is also struggling, he is different.
Liu Bei can be said to have started from scratch, while Sun Quan is a "son-in-law" and a "brother-in-law", taking over the baton from his father and brother.
If Cao Cao is compared to the rich generation and Liu Bei to the poor generation, then Sun Quan is the rich second generation with fighting spirit. Such a man is naturally superior to spot Cao Cao and futures Liu Bei, and is a hot commodity and the first choice for mate selection.
Of course, "Sun Quan" is a minority, and it is difficult for ordinary women to find it. If I have to choose between the spot "Cao Cao" and the futures "Liu Bei", I prefer "Cao Cao". After all, it is better to abandon Changbanpo in spring.
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