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I read a post today, which is very interesting. At the same time, I think the hero is not broad-minded enough and always wants to take advantage of everything.

The thing is, a couple, both intellectuals, have a husband who graduated from 985 with an annual salary of 4,. Their parents are from the countryside, that is to say, the husband is a Phoenix man from the countryside.

My wife is a 211-year undergraduate in China, a master's degree in studying in a famous American university, with an annual salary of 25,. Her parents are civil servants in the provincial capital of the Mainland, and she is an only child.

From this level, the wife's family background is better than her husband's, and she is a peacock girl.

after marriage, I bought a three-bedroom apartment, and the woman's parents paid 5, yuan. After marriage, the man paid for the mortgage, the wife paid for the water supply and electricity network, and all the rest was AA.

From this level, both men and women are almost even, and neither of them owes anyone.

After marriage, I gave birth to a son, with the wife's parents taking care of her, and her in-laws taking care of their old age in their hometown. The couple give the woman's parents 2, yuan each month, which adds up to 4, yuan, and all the other living expenses of the son are shared by AA system. The husband's parents' medical expenses are paid by the man himself.

At first, the family thought it was nothing, and their life was still very happy. Unexpectedly, their wife got pregnant unexpectedly and was still a girl. The whole family is very happy and wants to be born.

at this time, the woman said that her daughter wanted to take her surname. After all, she made everything AA, Dabao was also taken care of by her parents, and her in-laws didn't care. There was nothing wrong with the second child taking her surname.

But the husband didn't agree. The woman insisted, and the two sides were unhappy. Although there was no divorce, the relationship was not so good, so the husband forced his daughter to take her mother's surname.

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After reading the whole post, I really want to say that since the marriage is AA, what's wrong with the second child's mother's surname, Phoenix Man wants to take advantage of it.

Some netizens commented even funnier: "AA system, it's good not to let a man have one himself. All women are born, why can't they have a surname? "

Yes, what age is it now? Men want equality between men and women, and they want to fight for the right of all children's surnames, but they are just exercising male chauvinism under the banner of equality between men and women.

I once wrote an article about the AA system of marriage. The heroine and her husband just insist on the AA system of everything, and her children's kindergarten tuition is 4, yuan a year, which she pays by herself.

I always feel that AA marriage is like a fake marriage.

why do we women get married? Why do we get married? Don't you want to grow old with a man who deserves to be entrusted for life?

since I have worked so hard, I have to bear half of all the expenses of marriage. Then, who should I find to pay for the maternity risk?

Teacher Xue Zhaofeng put forward such a viewpoint in "Qipa Shuo": "Getting married means running a family business, signing a life-long wholesale futures contract, and both parties will take up their own resources to run the business together. At this time, the resource packages given by men and women are different, with physical fitness, fertility, beauty, family relationship and their own future growth potential."

I quite agree with Teacher Xue's point of view. According to this point of view, then AA marriage is obviously unfair to women.

Why do you say that? Because women take out twice as many "resource packages" to get married, which are all intangible "resource packages", including body, fertility, appearance and family relations, and women have to bear half of the economic expenses.

From this point of view, women lose in AA marriage.

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In order to take care of the child, the child is a descendant of both husband and wife, and both men and women should have the responsibility to raise it. Now, in order to take care of the child, the woman has to ask her parents to raise it. Some women even quit their jobs to take care of the child, and they have no income, and they have to suffer from her husband's dirty eyes and ridicule. Who should they settle accounts with for their family and children?

a family, when the account books are clearly calculated, lacks the flavor of affection.

Although relatives have to talk about money when it is time to talk about it, shouldn't marriage and husband and wife be regarded as the same interest?

I have asked many women, are you willing to accept AA marriage? Most of their answers are no.

Almost all of them think: "I only gave birth to a child after a narrow escape, and I have to bear the responsibility and pressure of raising children. My figure is deformed, my face is covered with spots, and my stomach is scarred. Why should I pay for my own children?" Besides, this child can't take his last name? "

In my hometown, there is a family that is very distinctive. The old couple gave birth to three sons, the eldest one is named after his mother, the second one is named after his uncle (it is estimated that there is no adopted son in his uncle's family, which I have never seen since childhood), and the third one is named after his father.

once, when I met the eldest daughter, I asked one of them, "Little sister, is your last name X?"

She said, "No, my surname is my father, and my sister is my mother."

do you understand?

The tradition in their family is that it seems fair for both men and women, one with his father's surname and the other with his mother's surname.

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Actually, the name is just a code name. Whether it's the father's surname or the mother's surname, they are all their own children with the same blood.

There is no surname with dad at all, which means that people on dad's side are close to dad, but have nothing to do with mom. There is no such fallacy.

The law also stipulates that children can take their mother's surname or their father's surname when they register.

Nowadays, young people in big cities pay attention to the right marriage and equality between men and women. Since they have a second child, it is understandable that their mother wants the second child to take her surname, which is nothing more than a sense of value and stability.

Many families have two children, even if they are in the same class, they don't say it themselves, and others don't know whether they are brothers or sisters, and their names and surnames are different.

people don't pay too much attention to this and think there is nothing to make a fuss about.

Other people, who don't want to be different, think that it doesn't matter whether their children are their own children or their parents' surnames. Some women take their father's surname even if they have a second child, just because they think they are single-parent families when they don't want their children to go to school, and they don't want to have unnecessary misunderstandings.

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