Now you can get this information through chatting, which is the fastest, most direct and most complete. What do you think of "what is the purpose of contact?" Just to exchange needed items and do "daily tasks", or to make feelings better and better? If it is a "daily task", it is not necessary. If you insist on doing it, it may be easy to have an accident. A little "change" in the process of chatting may evolve into a stage play in your heart.
Long-distance love really can't be said by anyone, and it tests people's emotional ability. Especially if the demand is not equal. One wants a sweet long-distance relationship, and the other doesn't have this demand and has changed places. This is the root of the conflict.
I used to think of sweet long-distance love (the story of long-distance love in Zhihu is not suitable for everyone), but my goods are salty and I don't like to express myself. Fortunately, after a period of running-in (training), he will report anything to me and discuss it with me. Anyway, I also like a quiet and steady man. I think this way of getting along is also suitable for us. When you arrive in a foreign land, you go your separate ways and have nothing to say.
Many times, our thoughts and personalities are completely different. First of all, there are gender differences. For some people, if they feel that they don't love you, they love you (mostly boys, me too); On the other hand, some people think that if the other person doesn't always say that he loves himself and take the initiative to find himself, then there is not so much love (mostly girls).
If you use your own ideas to guess each other, it will generally cause great misunderstanding and even lead to emotional breakdown. Therefore, this article is also divided into men and women, mainly for the party with strong sense of demand. If the other party wants to maintain a relationship, it needs more initiative and care. To maintain a good long-distance relationship according to each other's needs, first of all, you can not expect to chat every day, which can generally last a little longer.
Many people are full of confidence before talking about long-distance relationships, saying how to video chat every day, good morning and good night every day. This kind of early stage is ok, but if punching in every day becomes a task, it will become a habit or a burden over time.
Is the person who is used to and willing to take the initiative to contact every day true love? Not exactly. Everyone feels comfortable with different ways of getting along, and the other person enjoys it, which only shows that your personalities are very compatible and can't be used as a criterion for judging love or not. Many people ask why a person who likes himself suddenly dislikes him. As I have said, if getting along with you requires the other person to do something by himself all the time, in your opinion, it is to safeguard your feelings, but in fact it only protects your love for him, but it can't protect his love for you.
He will push himself again and again, and he will dislike you more and more. At this level, it can also explain why feelings cannot be forced. It is understandable to talk if you want, but frequent communication will bring the problem of "emotional labor".