Minimalism is the highest level of life. The key to minimalism is choice. What to choose and what to discard is actually a kind of wisdom.

Another one is the interference from WeChat groups. We don’t like to eat foods that are nutritionally deficient. Similarly, we can quit WeChat groups that are nutritionally deficient. Everyone will join many free WeChat groups. Because it’s free, it doesn’t matter if you join. But because 80% of people like free services, and people with this mentality want to get some benefits from you, you should not try to take advantage, including the so-called network groups, etc. Everyone dreams in the group, dreaming of being helped by noble people, but it’s a pity that the noble person is not in the group, but outside the group. If we want to change our lives, whether for better or worse, the only way is to get out of our current circle.

All of our addictive behaviors can be understood as having two causes. The first is escape. Most of the time it is due to excessive pressure in life. In the habit of addiction, one can briefly escape from the original living space and gain a false sense of relaxation. The second type is emptiness. If your time cannot be occupied by the things you love, you can only pass the time by scrolling through your phone.

The best attitude when we try a new thing is to prove it without doubting it. Because only by practicing it can you know whether this principle is suitable for you. What others say is just other people’s life experiences.

So whether it is life or minimalism, the highest state is to continue to do a small thing, and then think about how to do it well when you have time

Minimalism Three realms: ① Throw away everything you don’t like, throw away everything you seem to like but don’t like, keep only the things you like, and use the people and things you like to be together, and you will be naturally happy; ② If you have a happy confidant, you can laugh to your heart’s content, If you can hug each other and cry, then it is no longer so important whether the things are happy; ③ Let go of all external dependence, lie on the floor with bare walls, drink and sing, feel free.

Instead of letting life ravage you, it is better to stand up and take control of your own life. The mysterious charm of life lies in the unknowability of potential.

"WeChat communication is more convenient, Weibo is easier to obtain information, and Zhihu is more convenient to understand industry knowledge, but work efficiency does not seem to have improved, and professional skills have not improved. Why?" The reason for the question you asked is that we obtain fragmented information. We break down 24 hours a day into 1440 minutes, and may receive more than one piece of information per minute. Just think, this kind of quick browsing and hasty browsing will definitely have no effect. How long has it been since you last did something in depth? The so-called depth means doing only one thing for more than 2 hours. ”

If you want to change, do three things: ① Don’t use your phone while eating, ② Keep your phone out of the bedroom, ③ Don’t take your phone with you when going to the toilet, ④ Look at your phone at a fixed time every day

Clothes Everyone has it, and everyone has more clothes

Organizing clothes is a specific action of spiritual practice. We must need it. The first step is to classify and know how many shirts and socks we have; the second step is to sort out clothes. The third step is to keep the things you like; the fourth step is to throw away the duplicates; the fifth step is to throw away the useless ones. After these five steps, we basically enter the object. The stage of relative time; the sixth step is to throw away what is not suitable for you. No matter how much you like it in your heart, you must streamline it. We must be certain about the style, color, and texture of our clothes. As long as they do not fit Don't buy anymore; the seventh step is to allocate storage space.

Apply perfectionism to your work, and your things will get better and better. Use your rare confusion to your life. It will become smoother and smoother.

Minimalist principles: The first principle is the moment, the second principle is liking, the third principle is the least, the fourth principle is self, and the fifth principle is. That is, minimalism is about simplicity in breadth, not in depth. Once I have established my own style and preferences, to be the best in this direction, I have to buy the best thing that suits me within my financial affordability. Good clothes, the best bag, choose the best lover. It does not allow you to have many lovers at the same time. It allows you to have one lover, but love thoroughly.

The premise of minimalist life is. The items are small enough, not organized. Why is the home still so crowded after reducing so many clothes? I told him that it is because the furniture in your home is too big and takes up too much space. Think about the size of the wardrobe, but the sofa. How much space does the coffee table, TV cabinet, table, chair and bench occupy?

The appearance of your home is the appearance of your soul.

Furniture will occupy most of the area in your home, and the bedroom is used for sleeping. Only beds and wardrobes are necessary. Furniture can be small, moveable, and can be used for multiple purposes.

Once we own something, from that moment on, We are also owned by this thing. Once these items exceed the necessary limit, we are owned by the items we own and become slaves to them.

We live in this world and naturally have to own some. Necessary things. By necessary, you can just meet your basic needs for food, clothing, housing and transportation, and then invest a lot of time and energy into things that you think are meaningful and valuable, so that your life can burn warmly and fully.

Just have the necessary, minimum, and best items. To own is to be owned, so be minimalist.

Minimalism is just one sentence: according to your actual situation, have enough few items to meet the needs of life, and at the same time achieve good enough quality. That is to say: "Fewer items, more poetic life."

To abandon and be minimalist is to find the people, things and things that you truly love through subtraction. Just imagine how happy it would be to be with love all day long.

It’s not about having too many books, it’s about being precise and applying what you have learned.

What are books? They are like an old friend, and an old friend full of wisdom. As long as you spend dozens of dollars to buy a book, she can remind you not to get carried away when you are proud, remind you not to sink when you are frustrated, give you warmth when you are lonely, and remind you to stay awake when you are crazy. Really, there is nothing more cost-effective than reading.

How to organize books: First, take out every book, confirm that you no longer need it, and throw it directly into the trash can. Second, sort the books that are not thrown away into categories. Third, choose three kinds of books, at most three kinds of books, one type of professional books, one type of interest books, and one type of other miscellaneous books (some books that broaden your horizons and increase the breadth of your knowledge). Fourth, start from a certain category, such as the interest category, assuming it is philosophy. Browse through the books in this category and throw away any books that you feel have no retention value. Fifth, increase purchases. For example, if I am interested in philosophy and the existing books are not enough, I will buy some more. What should I buy? Buy classic books. The advantage of classic books is that they can be kept for a long time and you can gain something from reading them at any time. Sixth, make a study plan for the year and identify areas in which you want to make breakthroughs or conduct in-depth research. Seventh, when you read a book or even a passage and it feels reasonable, use it quickly and internalize it as your own wisdom, or as someone else's.

Because the most important thing for young people is professional progress and career growth. Since your main task at this stage is professional progress, you need to focus 80% of your energy on professional reading. . The reason why many young people are confused and doubtful is largely because there is no progress in their careers and society does not affirm their self-worth, which leads to self-doubt.

So how should you read: 1. Choose a direction, 2. Find classic books in this field, 3. Don’t be anxious, read carefully. Therefore, the secret is not how much you read, but how much the book changes you. If you haven’t read the previous text, just read this paragraph.

Just use your talents in the areas you are good at. Whether you earn wealth or not, such a life is wonderful.

Mistakes that the story owner has made in his work over the years: 1. Having no ambition. Only when you have ambition can you have ambition. Ambition here refers to what kind of person you want to be. No matter what you have really done for your ambition and how much you have paid for it, without ambition, you will not mobilize all your energy and resources to work hard to do one thing. Therefore, you must determine what you like and what you are good at, plus what you can exchange for wealth to support yourself, is the general direction of your career ambitions. Second, there is no accumulation. Doing administrative work is actually just doing odd jobs, and the growth potential is not strong. If the 45-year-old and the 25-year-old are basically treated the same, it means that they are in the wrong industry. A person's energy is limited and his output is constant. If he wants to break through, he must become Experts and experts in a certain field can increase the value of a unit product. Another problem is that people often change careers, careers, and areas of development, because changing means updating knowledge, skills, and connections, which need to be cultivated again. The third is pride. Pride can be achieved but only if you have the capital to be proud. "If the mountain does not let dust, it will be as high as it is; if the sea will not let go, it will be as wide as it is." I believe that no one will help a person who is not high in level but full of arrogance. Without the help of others, no one can accomplish anything. Zeng Guofan once said, "Pure people are not laughing at people" is the first priority. That is, don't laugh at others and think that others are not good enough. You should look more at the advantages of others and respect others, and look at your own shortcomings more, and be forgiving to yourself and others. 4. Laziness, knowing and doing are one, knowing but not doing is like unknown. Since there is no big ambition, some accumulation, and some pride, but as long as we hold on tightly and work hard, we can achieve something.

Lack of ambition, lack of accumulation, pride, complacency, and laziness are the root causes of accomplishing nothing.

The pursuit of novelty is a weakness that people cannot restrain. No interest can last long, unless it is a hedonic interest. Such interests do not need to create value and are purely consumer interests that everyone likes. But if interest is to create value for us, it must be accompanied by boredom. Since everything is accompanied by a certain degree of boredom, then choose something you are good at. The so-called use your strengths and avoid weaknesses. The better you are, the better you can do it, the more recognition you will get from society, and the stronger your sense of self-worth. This plays a big role in To a certain extent, it can offset boredom.

A large part of the happiness that people pursue in life comes from a sense of accomplishment, which can also be called a sense of superiority, which means that we do better than others in a certain aspect. After throwing away factors such as opportunities, this sense of accomplishment mainly comes from your talent. Talent means that you can easily be better than most people in a certain aspect. Just discover it, perfect it, and persist in it. The most stupid thing is to spend all day correcting your shortcomings instead of using your talents. You know what you are good at, and you know where you are lacking in talent. Then try your best to maximize what you are good at, and try to avoid what you are not good at.

Practice is very important. If you want to do something, do it first. When you encounter something you don’t know or don’t understand, come back and read a book or ask others for advice. Don’t worry about gains and losses, and don’t dare to start. Note that there is no perfect execution. , there is only a perfect beginning. Once you start doing it, it will be perfect. Don't set up artificial obstacles for yourself.

Sometimes we place too much emphasis on so-called interpersonal skills, management knowledge, and tips for doing things. But don’t forget that all of these have a basis, which is your professional ability, what kind of job you can carry, and what you rely on to make a living. Without this, everything else is a tree without roots. To pursue it is to abandon the roots and pursue the bottom. The stronger the professional ability, the less other so-called skills are needed and the simpler life will be. Being outstanding in a certain field allows you to live your life the way you want. Depression at work doesn’t just come from the job itself. The closed office of your boss and the pressure of cultural differences will all become your burden. Being outstanding in medicine can greatly increase your control over these matters. People must form their own core competitiveness, so that the market will think of you immediately when allocating resources. So the first is to find gaps, and the second is to use your talents in this gap.

The correct path is to choose - focus - repeat - persist. Spend enough time getting good at something and passion will develop. Having special skills will bring you many pleasant feelings. There is never a perfect job or lover in the world, nor is there a ready-made, tailor-made thing that you can only do for a lifetime. The only thing that belongs to us is our will. We can spend time making choices, making the objectively existing food look like what we need, looking for that relatively good job, looking for that relatively good person, putting in sincerity and hard work, In this process, they evolved into each other's satisfaction.

Now there is only one question left, what are your strengths? I remember the teacher said that the so-called specialty is that you can do the same thing better than others in your own professional environment, and it takes less time to do the same thing well. According to this standard.

If you could sum up a perfect life in one sentence, what would it be? I think it should be: A belief (after all, we have something to believe in. If you believe that hard work can improve your life, then work hard; if you believe that you can live happily by intrigues, then engage in intrigues; if you believe that you can get ahead by being kind to others) In the long run, then be kind to others; you must first have something to believe in, and then talk about right and wrong). A career. A family. A confidant. A hobby. a space.

Making plans is more important than executing them. Don't blame yourself for not being self-disciplined, because self-discipline is too difficult, so failure is normal. Willpower is like a mobile phone battery that will be used up, but it will also be recharged. The core issue is how to recharge self-discipline so that it does not go so fast. of exhaustion.

What goals should be set? Goals are divided into several categories: economic foundation, study, health, family, connections, habits

The goal plan has two levels, planning & execution. The reason why the execution is not in place is because of the plan we made. It has something to do with it, so don’t blame your own execution ability. If the route is wrong, it will be difficult to execute it properly.

The first principle in making plans is to be less but more precise. Human resources and energy are limited, so focus on a few goals and avoid biting off more than you can chew. Setting too many goals is very easy to distract your energy. In the end, you may not achieve any of them, which is counterproductive. Take out the ones that have the greatest impact on your development and exercise self-discipline. For example, if you are currently making money, then all bad habits that are not conducive to making money must be eliminated. Get rid of things like laziness, procrastination, and wasting time. Don't set seven or eight goals at the same time. It may seem like a thousand horses are galloping, but in fact, if you bluff and get through the initial passion, it will be difficult to continue.

Set up to 3 goals each year and delete all others. In my opinion, 3 is enough and 1 is best. ① Find a piece of paper and write down all your weekly plans, 100 of them will do. Write them out first, put the learning ones into one category, the healthy ones into one category, and merge similar items. For example, in the health category, Meituan is running, swimming, and fitness. In fact, their purpose is the same, which is for health, so it is enough to plan to keep one. ② Then start deleting the easiest ones, and ask yourself, is this the most important and urgent thing this year? Do I have to do it this year? Can I bear the consequences of not doing it? After deleting like this, there will be about 10 goals left. , you will encounter real difficulties here, that is, it is difficult to abandon them. It seems that each one wants to be realized. The most critical part of making a plan lies in this. You must keep deleting and discarding them until only 3 are left.

After setting 3 goals, the next step is to analyze them: ① Is it feasible? Ask yourself whether the current goal is compatible with your own abilities. For example, if you have just graduated but you plan to do 500 in one year The goal of a strong executive is beyond the scope of ability, and it cannot be lower than your ability, otherwise you will have no motivation. The principle is that monkeys pick peaches, and you can get them by jumping. ② Is it clear enough? People often say they want to lose weight this year, but this is a vague goal. 1 pound is weight loss, and 10 pounds is weight loss, so it must be clear. ③ Whether it can be measured? Is there a clear standard that can be measured? For example, how to measure a good relationship with parents? This is not a good goal.

④ Why do you want to achieve this goal? Don’t follow what others say. Ask yourself if it is what you really want, because no one will be happy or sad for you. ⑤ How long should it take? Although the annual goal is set, it does not necessarily have to be achieved by December. You must set a time. This time should not be too long, which is easy to procrastinate, and not too short, otherwise you will let yourself go. very tired. ⑥Who can help you achieve your goals and analyze the use of your own resources. ⑦ What is the biggest obstacle? Remember that there will be various difficulties in setting goals and achieving them, but remember that there must be one difficulty that is the core. Overcoming this difficulty will achieve most of it.

How to execute: ①Print the target. ② Make it public. ③Join the organization. ④Set decomposition goals. ⑤ Regular review, it is recommended not to review once, what is done well, there are many bad things, whether the goal is reasonable, if it is unreasonable, discard it decisively, the goal is set too high or too low, correct it, good rewards are completed, but not completed punish. ⑥ Progress gradually. Final advice: Goals set during New Year, birthdays, broken relationships, etc. are the product of impulse, regret for the past, or expectations for the future. In short, they are dreams and must be cautious.

It is normal not to persist. Persistence means boring and boring, which contradicts human instinct. Instinct is to like things that are easy and fresh. When you do something, if you are encouraged, you will slowly develop a habit. If you are suppressed, you will slow down. Give it up slowly. If you love something, you can stick to it. As long as you like it, the happiness it brings to you is far greater than boring. Don’t expect complete happiness. Absolute happiness is absolutely boring. So, what to do Things must be chosen that you like. I like to learn minimalist living, I like the feeling of psychological counseling, and I like to work in human resources to help others. These three are quite right. Naturally, you are willing to insist on living with the person you like; you will definitely insist on caring for your own baby, but not other people's babies; you will naturally stick to your own hobbies. If you don't like reading, don't read. If you like food, go eat. There is no distinction between being a gourmet and a writer. There is no distinction between high and low. There is indeed a distinction between happiness and unhappiness.

A person is closest to God when he knows and can be silent.

How to listen more and speak less: The first one is that when we speak, we should think first and then express, instead of expressing instinctively. The second is to speak less and write more. Because you need to have a system, a structure, and be able to convince everyone, so it’s even more difficult. People often ask what books to read or what skills to learn. In fact, it doesn’t matter what books to read. What matters is how you read them. The first one is that you have to read it, you have to express your feelings after reading it, and you have to be able to write out the central things. The third one is to grasp the main contradiction when communicating. The fourth is to choose the communication partner. Finally, our main purpose is to persuade. One of the core principles of persuasion, and I think it is the most important principle, is that we have to think about the other party. "Grasp the main contradiction, then choose the partner, think about others, or even if there are none of the above, as long as you sincerely consider the other person, communication will be much easier."

Only by being able to control your body can you control it. Life

All emotions have positive effects unless you abuse them.

Conditions for jealousy: ① This person is relatively close to me, so the possibility and frequency of comparison are much greater, so I feel jealous immediately, which will make me feel more comfortable. ②This matter is very important to me. You won’t be jealous if Lao Wang buys a string of Buddhist beads for 500,000 yuan, because this thing is optional, but Lao Wang has a big house, and I don’t. I am jealous, because the big house is very important to me. Having it would greatly improve my quality of life. ③This person is not as good as me in any way. People who are worse than me are also living better than me. I am jealous.

Think about the process of envy: seeing someone excellent → learning their strengths → making efforts → reaching or surpassing the other person → society continues to progress. This can be called envy. There is another type: seeing someone excellent → feeling unhappy → verbal attacks → destroying through actions → harming others and yourself → social stagnation or regression. This is malignant jealousy.

① Find out the person you are jealous of, ② What are you jealous of, ③ Are you willing to catch up, ④ Are you able to catch up, ⑤ What is your improvement plan for next week

When taking the initiative to help others, remember not to do anything unless they ask you for help. Adults are very stubborn. If they are not aware of the problem, your love will encounter a cold wave and may even be misunderstood.

The best memorial is to experience it with immersion

So what is yours? Only your experience is yours. In the long river of time, if you have experienced such things, no one can deny that you have not experienced it, and you yourself cannot change it. Only your experience is your own. So be brave enough to discard it, say goodbye to the past, and embrace the present tightly.

On the 30th birthday of the heroine, she refused all invitations and chose to spend it alone. She wrote this paragraph in her diary: I used to like drinking, but now I like tea; I used to like colorful, but now I like black and white. ; I used to like to stay on the surface, but now I like to explore the essence; I used to like complexity, now I like simplicity; I used to like liveliness, now I like to be alone; I used to like to argue about right and wrong, but now I like to laugh it off. This is the tranquility and simplicity that minimalism brings to me. Quietness cultivates one's moral integrity, and frugality cultivates virtue. Without indifference, one cannot have clear aspirations, and without tranquility, one cannot reach far.

Love someone and do something with all your heart, and happiness will come. If you want to invest, you must be simple. Because time, energy, and resources are limited, we can only mobilize all our resources and abilities to do things during the period before death, and devote ourselves wholeheartedly to produce happiness. The so-called wholeheartedness , it is definitely not a hammer or a stick, but only doing one thing. This simplicity will give us feedback soon. Because of the investment, it has good results. Because of the good results, we complain. This positive spiral is infinitely upward.

The so-called simplicity means not doing anything else while doing this thing. I can’t finish this book without reading new books. If you can't do this job well, you won't do new work. If you don't understand this hobby, you won't start a new one. If you still like this piece of clothing, you won't buy new clothes. If you can't make the best use of this item, you won't buy new clothes. Objects keep everything to a minimum, take the burden off, don’t worry about cleaning, don’t worry about taking up space. Keep everything as simple as possible, stay focused on one thing, and don’t give up until you achieve your goal. Simple, so focused. Focus, so invest. Involvement leads to happiness.

Complexity is the norm before the age of 30, accept it. After the age of 30, simplicity is inevitable, just obey it. It is wisdom to stay simple before the age of 30. Remaining complicated after the age of 30 is foolish.

Buying books is like overwhelming, reading is like spinning, and moving is like hitting a wall.

Just buy the book you see in the bookstore. This is not much different from impulsive shopping when going shopping. Don’t be fooled by the illusion and buy many best-selling books impulsively, just like hot-selling clothes

For some things, it’s good to have them in your heart. If you keep them, treat them well, read them over and over again and play with them.

To be social and avoid becoming a homebody, attend various interest group or club gatherings, plan related gatherings yourself, and communicate with friends every week.

Build a dressing style around one color, leave space in your closet so it’s easy to find, choose well-maintained fabrics so you don’t have to iron them, set a purchase goal, and go to the mall.

There is no such thing as persistence in the world. I just continue to do what I like. This is great happiness. There is no need to persist. No one has ever said to insist on enjoyment, because enjoyment is beautiful and can only be achieved when It is only when we are in pain and helplessness that we mention the word persistence

Think about it, we live in a comfortable space, have a harmonious family, a job that we like, one or two close friends, and a firm belief in a certain person. Belief, have a hobby, there is nothing to regret in this kind of life, this is all that minimalist life pursues, and the highest pursuit.

“You can get along with everyone” means “In fact, your relationship has always been so superficial.” No two people are exactly the same, even close friends. In-depth and quality communication will definitely accompany with disagreements and disputes.

You can spend 20% of your time improving shortcomings, but you should spend 80% of your time leveraging your strengths.

Why do babies have no worries, because they can do whatever they want

I have a lot, but I am not happy because there is too much junk in the things I own, an unhappy relationship , a job you don’t like, a lot of clothes you don’t like, smog and heavy traffic, a normal person will not be happy if they have these

In fact, simplicity is more difficult than complexity, you must try your best to understand it Only by clearing your mind can you be simple.

Throwing away is to abstain from material desires. Throwing away external items is to abstain from material desires. Throwing away spiritual garbage is to abstain from greed, anger, and ignorance. Precepts can produce concentration, and concentration can produce wisdom. Therefore, throwing away is practicing practice. May I become a practitioner soon. Materially yes, informationally yes, and spiritually and ideologically yes.

Frequent users of social networks are 2.7 times more likely to be depressed than infrequent users

There is no good way to get rid of perfectionism, but to accept it and live with imperfection. , Imperfect self, imperfect partner, imperfect children, imperfect parents, don’t expect yourself to be perfect, and don’t treat others as saints. If you expect saints, this world will make you despair.

Concentrate your energy on one point, and God will help you, and miracles will happen. The simplicity after giving up is to concentrate.

Sometimes you cannot throw away things you don’t like quickly because you are too busy and have too much time to struggle with these useless things. If you have a passionate life, passionate love, and With a job you like, best friends, and gay friends, you don’t have time to worry about whether to throw things away. There are only 24 hours in a day. If you don’t occupy it with good things, you will be invaded by bad things.

What is the meaning of something more expensive and high-quality? It allows us to move forward step by step in our short life in order to match its instant glory. It also makes it possible for us to see through it. Another kind of beauty in this world is that we know that we deserve better.

What we want is a few enough and good enough items, not an organization full of skills.

For an item, if you can’t definitely say you want it, then you must definitely say you don’t want it. It’s small enough and good enough.

Minimalism is not about letting people find what they really want. What they really want is always by your side. Minimalism is about helping you get rid of the noise, focus on what you want, and feel at ease.

Minimalism is not less, but no excess. Enough is not too much, but just enough for you.

Minimalism is a choice, and in this process, you must have an inner examination of yourself and ask yourself quietly: Is this suitable for me? Do I like this? Is this still needed? This is a process of understanding yourself, clearly knowing your likes and dislikes, knowing your strengths and weaknesses, leaving behind what you like, thinking about this kind of living situation, doing things you like, and loving the people you like. , use the items you like, and live with the world you like day and night. This is happiness, a high-level happiness.