When a woman says to you, "Why should I use my youth to fight with you?", it has perfectly explained her understanding of you and her own value.
From the subconscious point of view, you below her criteria for choosing a mate. Your talent isn't interesting enough for her, your looks aren't handsome enough for her, your work isn't addictive enough for her, and your potential isn't sure enough for her. The various insufficiencies I call are not in terms of absolute value, but in terms of relative value, or in other words, from a transaction perspective, from her perspective, they are not enough to make up for your economic shortcomings, nor are they enough to be equivalent. her youth.
To get to the point, for her, an intimate relationship can only be a check that can be cashed immediately, not a future. Current returns are highly irreplaceable. Her main supply in the transaction is her "youth", which is also the core resource she thinks she possesses. There is reason to believe that the woman who said this is not only willing and able to contribute to other aspects of marriage except "youth" They are all very limited.
What you hope is to have an evenly matched reorganization, where both sides can become bigger and stronger based on their respective advantages. However, the depreciation rate of youth as an asset must be very fast in accounting treatment. In the marriage transaction, the woman requires not only a higher present value return, but also a stable and continuous return, and a valuation of the asset. Obviously unreasonable. The transaction is not established.
The only unreasonable thing in this world is love. Love can be unpredictable. Love can be hard to buy. Love can be born today and die tomorrow. Marriage is reasonable. A high-quality marriage requires compromise and continued enjoyment from each other. The most important thing is that marriage requires sharing each other's fate. You are me and I am you, so when you take the oath, you have to say that no matter life, old age, sickness or death, no matter joys and sorrows.