Zhang Xiaoxian said: Where there is hope, there is disappointment.
To grow up is to learn to understand that there will always be countless disappointments in life, that is, dissatisfaction with others and dissatisfaction with yourself.
Anyway, don't let these tiny disappointments destroy my hope, and don't be too hard on yourself. Don't be too hard on people who love you so much. He's just like you, just one person.
Come on, tell me a case.
What makes you super disappointed in your husband?
Case: My husband owes a lot of gambling debts, but he told me that this is the life I want.
Not long ago, Han Xiao came to me and said, "Teacher, I am very disappointed in my husband. I feel that he has no sense of responsibility and has no responsibility as a man. " .
Later, I learned that Han Xiao and her husband, A Chao, met on a blind date. They were in love for two years and married for five years. The child is four years old this year. A Chao was temporarily transferred last year, and the two separated. After half a year, A Chao went home, but Han Xiao found that A Chao often didn't play with his mobile phone, often sighed and was listless.
Han Xiao thought her husband was cheating and forced her to ask questions many times. Finally, her husband told her the truth. It turned out that after staying in this remote place for half a year, Achao learned to share stocks with his colleagues in the company. Not only did he lose money on buying a car, but he also owed more than 300,000 foreign debts. This is the total income of families who have not eaten or drunk for two years.
In the face of obsessed Chao, there was a quarrel with Chao. Complain to Chao: "When you did this, did you think of our young son, your elderly parents and me?" Unexpectedly, Chao listened to a slight cold, did not apologize, turned and ran to the rooftop.
On the rooftop, A Chao said to Han Xiao, "If you don't often tell your brothers and sisters who buy a house today and a car the day after tomorrow, will I gamble?" I'm not doing this to give you the life you want! "
Han Xiao said that this is not the first time A Chao has been confused. When the child just turned one year old, A Chao and his colleagues gambled online and lost 60,000 to 70,000 yuan. Finally, Han Xiao used his dowry money to help him fill this loophole. Chao had the same reason at that time.
"I thought he would learn from his mistakes. I thought it was the first and last time. I didn't expect forgiveness to end. "
Analysis: the leaves are not yellow for a day, and people's hearts are not cold overnight.
Han Xiao forgave Chao for the first time, because he believed Chao's story and foolishly took the responsibility on himself. He felt that he had put too much pressure on A Chao, so he chose to take risks.
However, the reality once again gave Han Xiao a blow and made Han Xiao awake. Now she has no hope for her husband Zhao.
When are girls most likely to be super disappointed in their husbands?
First of all: we can't see the future, we lose hope.
I am happy to marry the man I love. I found this person: lazy, not enterprising; Never break your word; No sense of responsibility, no sense of responsibility, having fun by yourself, but regardless of the integrity of the family and the management of the family.
In life, you can often see the last time in a man's mouth, such as "I will never ignore your feelings again", "I will never go out fooling around again" and "I will keep my word and keep my promise".
Men habitually draw grand blueprints for women, but they forget when they turn around. Finally, the promise turned into deceptive rhetoric, which gradually disintegrated mutual trust.
Women choose to forgive again and again, and men destroy hope countless times. In the end, this person is still the same as before, without any change.
What is even more terrible is the gain and loss. I can't give her money or love. I also think that it is melodramatic for girls to want love, and it is material to want a better life.
Secondly, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is right or wrong.
It is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law depends on how the husband reconciles.
However, many husbands are always afraid of being burned and choose to watch the fire across the bank; There is also a kind of person who always stands in the camp of parents, no matter right or wrong, thinking that there is only one parent, and there is no such thing as a parent in the world.
Instead of lubricating the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, men make things worse and worse.
It is difficult for many men to deal with their relationship in work, family background, marriage and so on. , leading to conflicts or differences with his wife, and even angry at his wife, further causing conflicts between husband and wife.
Third, ignore women's contribution to the family.
Men take everything women do for granted. Let women feel that marriage has lost its meaning to themselves.
Too many men can't see their wives' efforts, only to see their attractiveness fade with age and family considerations.
Finally, the wife doesn't feel loved and insecure.
It is said that love comes before chewing gum and marriage comes after chewing gum.
What a man does to a woman is not necessarily that he cheated on her or fell in love with someone else.
But when she cried, no one was jealous, and she learned to be independent; When she was afraid, she learned to be brave and had no one to accompany her; No one asked her when she was bored, but she learned to put up with it. When she is tired, no one depends on her. She learned to be strong. I don't care when I want to talk. She learned to know the inside story.
When she has survived all her sorrows, she no longer expects your love. However, some people say that women are melodramatic.