Constantly try new things in life, don’t give up easily, don’t say no easily, stay curious, live a richer and richer life, and make your narrow life wider and wider. Abandon those mental germs of "I can't", "I can't" and "I can't do it", and go to a broader life!

My biggest source of positive energy is a white-skinned person Beautiful hardworking girl. She studied at a university in Beijing and received a two-year master's degree in finance. She has now graduated and works at the Beijing branch of a bank. During her first year as a graduate student, she did the following: (1) Ranked in the top 3% of her majors. The key was the advanced microeconomics and advanced econometrics that gave me the most headaches. She scored 9 in both exams, and one of them even is 95+; (2) passed the CFA level one and level two, and passed the five CPA exams; (3) besides studying, she also practiced calmly, and both companies are nationally ranked companies. former brokerage firm.

Last winter, in such a severe job-hunting situation, she could not help but stumble. After getting a relatively good offer in her hometown of the provincial capital, her family inevitably advised her: "Just come back, why force you to stay?" "Beijing." But she quietly told her friend: "I don't have to stay in Beijing, but I have gained more in my one year of graduate school in Beijing than in my four years of university, and sometimes even more than I did before. I have gained so much over the past twenty years. This sense of growth makes me reluctant to give up.”

Now, she has joined the company. When I was working, I occasionally chatted with my friends. I was so exhausted that I fell asleep on the bed as soon as I opened the door. I squinted my eyes and thought of her getting up on time at six o'clock every morning when she was taking the postgraduate entrance examination and sitting there for 12 hours without moving. I thought of her now sitting upright in a white suit and working. I feel that even though life is very tiring as she said, I seem to see that her future must be brilliant.

Seeing this, even I mistakenly thought this was a story about a top student. However, my sister, who is in high school, immediately told me: "The top scorer in our school's college entrance examination this year, who won the second place in the provincial rankings with a total score of 723, was actually dissatisfied with his results. He went back to school for self-study a few days after the scores came out. Now that you’ve learned English...that’s what you call a top student, okay!”

So, what I’m telling you is not a story about a top student. Because there will always be someone in this world who spends less time reviewing and gets higher scores than you do. I just want to say that in the same growing environment, there are always people who go faster and further because of their clear self-awareness.

Perhaps in the eyes of better people, her achievements are simply within reach. They don't even need to take exams in despair to get into prestigious schools, and they don't need to prepare as hard as they can to get offers that make everyone envious and jealous. But three years ago, she graduated from college like me. In the previous four years, we were in the same classroom, listening to the same classes, writing the same homework, making the same complaints, and doing the same test questions.

Today, three years later, I have been left far behind by her. I can only see the dust in front of me, and I can’t even find the figure. Behind that piece of dust, there was more than just a lack of knowledge. What I lacked was also the courage to face difficulties and the pursuit of challenging myself.

In the past, whether due to innate laziness or panic and frustration, I was used to setting various boundaries for myself in life. For example, I just don’t understand accounting thinking, I just don’t know the complicated operations in the futures market, I just don’t understand econometrics classes...

The older I get, the more I learn. In order to escape, when encountering a problem that they don't know, they always comfort themselves with "I won't do this job in the future anyway" or "I won't need those theoretical deductions to write a paper anyway", and find various reasons to avoid that knowledge. Flaws in the system. I don’t know if I will stumble because of my current laziness and avoidance in my future life and work, but now, I finally understand that even if I don’t stumble, I am far behind others.

The world is changing too fast, and everyone else is running all the way. If you are the only one who stops moving forward and makes excuses for yourself to avoid learning and accumulation because of your silly reasons, you will not only be left behind by your peers. In the future, there will be a large number of newcomers who will surpass your level. It will be really too late to regret it at that time.

When I was a freshman, one of my most respected teachers once said in a meeting, "Students and young people of your age can be seen as a growing tree. Now for you, it is crucial The important thing is not to focus on how prosperous the branches are, but how to dig deeper and deeper, because only when the roots are deeper and stronger can the tree become taller and more prosperous."

I couldn't listen to it at that time. , I think who doesn’t understand this truth? Now, this is the simplest truth, which I only understood after six or seven years. I think the implicit meaning of the teacher's words is: when you are young, you must not set limits for yourself. You should do your best to acquire knowledge, try your best to try new things and new experiences, and accumulate experience and lessons from being born bit by bit. . Only in this way can we lay down a solid and solid foundation, absorb nutrients, and grow tall and straight. But looking back at my rickety, fragile roots and malnourished branches, I just feel that I have failed my teacher’s earnest teachings.

Last month, a public account I follow held an event on WeChat called "New changes every day in the next 30 days", which listed many things that can be changed. . As a person who often complains and is full of complaints, I picked this little thing of "not complaining every day".

One month passed, and I was surprised to find that not only did I maintain a smooth and calm mood every day, and got rid of the anxiety that often troubled me, but more importantly, my attitude towards the entire life and future changed. Become active.

I had never seriously thought about the destructive impact of my shortcomings of "frequently complaining and being full of complaints". Later I realized that perhaps the negative emotions such as anxiety, easy giving up, lack of confidence and so on in life are all caused by Here it is.

It turns out that not only in terms of knowledge structure and learning, the "limits" I set for myself in life are also everywhere. For example, because my body is relatively stiff, I couldn’t do many simple movements when I took my first yoga class in college. However, the yoga instructor at the time misunderstood that I was unwilling to do it seriously and reprimanded me severely: “You can’t complete a yoga class seriously. Movement?!"

So, to this day, I still remember the embarrassment and embarrassment at that time, and I am unwilling to learn yoga again. When people ask me, I always give up on myself and say, "I just have that kind of stiff body, and I just can't do yoga." In fact, if I think about it seriously, the yoga instructor at that time may have just said something casually, but it made me feel uneasy. For several years, I have missed the opportunity to change my physical fitness through yoga. To borrow a friend's harsh scolding, "Stop nagging, you are just a glass heart that breaks to the ground every day and cannot be put back together!"

Nowadays, I am no longer willing to use stiffness as an excuse to refuse to practice. Yoga, and I no longer want to use the excuse of being in poor shape to refuse to learn swimming, the excuse of trouble and lack of time to refuse to put on light makeup before going out, and the excuse of being too far away and the bad weather to refuse to plan a trip. .

There was always a saying in the past, youth is so precious and it seems like it would be a waste no matter how you spend it. I don’t know whether I want to soak in the study room of the library, or read and travel to see the magnificent world. Top academics are still admired by everyone, and those who quit school to travel also promote their values. Despite the different opinions, most of us are actually confused and have doubts about the way to settle down and live a life. As a result, there was constant exploration, constant overthrow, and finally found one's own path.

I don’t know how to go in the future, or how to live a “correct” life with “no regrets”. I just want to keep trying new things in life, never give up easily, never say no easily, stay curious, live a richer and richer life, and make a narrow life wider and wider.

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