(1) Seize the opportunity to give gifts.
Grasping the gift-giving opportunity can be said to be a key step in the success of gift-giving. To this end, you should pay special attention to the following points.
Others need help most when they are in trouble. Giving a helping hand at this time will make the recipient unforgettable. That's what the so-called "sending an umbrella in the rain" and "sending charcoal in the snow" mean.
Relatives and friends, in case of festive occasions, give a small gift to express congratulations, which is very beneficial to close friendship, but the gift should be given first, otherwise it is better not to send it. If you don't send it, it's just negligence. If you send it later, it will deepen your impression of forgetting each other's good days.
When giving gifts, you must choose to go when the giver is at home. This is because it is impolite to give gifts to neighbors, because sometimes people who receive gifts don't want others to know that they have received gifts. More importantly, gifts are only the carrier of interpersonal communication, and the most important thing is to enhance mutual friendship through conversation.
It can be said that it is a very stupid behavior to give gifts to the other party's work unit without asking the other party's address. As a partner, you and the other party only have a working relationship, so the gift should belong to the company, and he can't take it home openly and privately.
It is best to give gifts in private, not in public places where there are many people and eyes. Especially when giving gifts to superiors and the opposite sex, we should pay more attention. The former will be ridiculed as "flattery", while the latter has ulterior motives. Giving gifts in normal interpersonal communication is a taboo, but it makes you suffer from improper behavior.
(2) Learn gift-giving skills
The key to giving gifts is the word "send". This is the last link of the whole gift. If you give well and use the right method, you will get twice the result with half the effort in doing business. If the delivery is not good, the recipient is unwilling to accept it, or it is a severe refusal, or a gentle refusal, or a gift afterwards, which will only make the sender very embarrassed. I have spent a lot of money, but my relationship is not over yet. It is really the loss of the wife and the loss of the soldiers. Therefore, only by mastering the gift-giving skills skillfully can the whole gift-giving process have a happy ending.
Here are some common and effective gift-giving techniques.
Borrow flowers to offer Buddha. If you send a local product, you can say it's from your hometown. Give it to your friend. There are not many things and no money. This is not specially bought for him. Please let him accept it. Generally speaking, the recipient's rejection will be greatly relieved, and eventually, he will accept your gift.
Bright flowers and dark willows. Don't talk about the word "send" if you send a friend wine or something like that. Come and have a drink with your friend on the pretext that someone else gave you two bottles of wine and ask him to prepare some dishes. In this way, if you drink a bottle and take a bottle, the relationship will be closer, the gift will be given, and there will be no trace. Isn't it wonderful? Of course, this is for close friends, and ordinary people may think that you want to' eat a meal and take advantage of a small loss'.
It's a sunny day. Sometimes you want to give a gift to others, and the other person has a problem with you, so it is not convenient to send it directly. You might as well choose the birthday and wedding day of the recipient and invite several acquaintances to give gifts and congratulations so that the recipient will not refuse. When I know that this idea is your idea afterwards, I will definitely change my view of you and make the relationship as good as ever. With everyone's help, it is the best policy to achieve the purpose of giving gifts and making friends.
Replace trees with flowers. Lao Li entrusted something to Xiao Chen, and wanted to send some gifts to solve it, but he was afraid that Xiao Chen would refuse. Lao Li's wife and Xiao Chen's wife are very familiar. Lao Li started his wife's diplomacy and asked her to visit with a gift, which succeeded in one fell swoop-the thing was done and the gift was accepted, killing two birds with one stone. It seems that sometimes direct attack is not as effective as circuitous movement.
If you send some money and things to someone with family difficulties, sometimes his self-esteem is too high to accept. If you send something, it is better to say that it is idle at home. Let him use it first and buy it later. The recipient will think that you are not giving alms, and you will be willing to accept them later. In this way, your gift-giving purpose has been achieved.
Icing on the cake. A student benefited a lot from his teacher and always wanted to repay his pain of not having a chance. One day, he happened to find that the calligraphy and painting in the teacher's mahogany frame were rubbings, which were out of harmony with the elegant furnishings in the room. It happened that his uncle was a famous calligrapher, and he had calligraphy and painting that his uncle gave him. The students immediately brought the calligraphy and painting and put it in the picture frame. The teacher not only didn't object, but also liked it very much. The purpose of giving gifts to students in return has finally been achieved. If you can't "send charcoal in the snow", "icing on the cake" is also a good policy.
Have the same effect. Sometimes you don't have to pay for gifts yourself. In some cases, human feelings are also a gift. For example, you can buy things at ex-factory price, wholesale price and preferential price through certain relationships. When you buy these things for your friends and colleagues, they have accepted your love as a gift at the same time. You didn't spend a penny, just put in a little goodwill and effort, and the effect you received was the same as that of a gift. Because the recipient paid the money, he felt at ease when he received something, and he had no worries; Those who send "feelings" are unprofitable and enjoy themselves. As long as it doesn't harm the interests of others, this kind of suspicious and affordable gift-giving method is also a coup.
In a word, there are many things beyond talent that need to be grasped. This is actually an assessment of a person's perception of the world.