Therefore, the most important thing in marriage is not love, but these two words-responsibility.
First, marriage is a promise of responsibility.
When getting married, the most common wedding vows are etiquette questions asked to the bride and the bride:
"Would you like to marry this woman (man)? Love her (him) and be loyal to her (him), whether she is poor, sick or disabled, until her death, will you? "
At the wedding scene, most newlyweds will say "yes".
It seems that this process is the common process of all weddings, but in fact, this process is a process of deciding whether to take responsibility.
After all, love can be two people falling in love together. As long as both parties in love feel happy, it is enough for this relationship.
But marriage is different. Marriage is two people living together.
After marriage, the life of husband and wife is not just dating every day and occasionally telling love stories, but having children and starting a family together.
It also starts from marriage. When you are in love, it will become a daily necessities in marriage, and no one can escape this process.
Therefore, the most important meaning of marriage is not that all shall be well, jack shall have Jill, but that two people form a family and begin to assume the responsibilities as husband or wife.
This feeling is like what Xue Zhaofeng said in Wonderful Tales: "Marriage is to run a business, to sign a contract, to run a family business, and to sign a lifelong wholesale futures contract."
The resources paid by men and women are different, but the reason for paying their own resources is to make their career better and better and make this family better and better.
Therefore, only by understanding that the essence of marriage is to take responsibility can we have a reasonable understanding of marriage.
Second, only couples who know how to take responsibility can finally win.
The key to considering whether a marriage should start is not only love, because it is more important that the other party realizes his responsibility.
First of all, people who know how to take responsibility can easily get together with their partners.
There used to be a very popular word called "cloud husband". The word came into being because some wives complained that their husbands disappeared after marriage.
Children are their own, life is their own, housework is their own, and husbands come home from work to play games every day, which is different from others.
Except for some husbands who really have to do special jobs, other husbands are like this because they have no sense of responsibility.
Without a sense of responsibility, you won't feel that you need to undertake housework; Without a sense of responsibility, you won't feel that children need to take care of themselves; Without a sense of responsibility, you don't think you need to love your wife.
In marriage, whether you marry such a man or a woman, it is difficult to be happy, because one person's efforts can't maintain the marriage of two people after all.
Second, a responsible person's divorce can save each other.
I often hear people say, "Break up to see character".
In fact, it is not only a breakup that can reveal a person's personality, including the attitude of the other party during the divorce, which may be a better test of a person's personality than a breakup.
Just like some couples, when you are in love, you are sweet, but once there is a problem with your feelings, your personality can be exposed.
After all, two people in marriage are more closely connected than when they are in love.
Therefore, in order to protect their own interests, many people even hurt the interests of their former lovers, and even vilify each other in order to protect themselves.
If the marriage ends like this, no matter how happy a person is, he will regret it later. Therefore, finding a responsible partner in the worst case of marriage is a guarantee for himself.