unacceptable. The difference between ideal and reality is so great that you have not considered the "weakness" of human nature! Personally, I really don't recommend ordinary people to choose to hold a group. There are indeed too many security risks, and their physical condition can't be guaranteed. Even their children can't be considerate, let alone with a group of elderly friends who can't take care of themselves.

first, what to eat is not uniform.

Some elderly people usually like to eat vegetarian food, which they think is good for their health. However, some of us feel that eating vegetarian food every day has no nutrition at all, and we should eat more foods like meat, fish and eggs to increase nutrition. Even when cooking, we sometimes have serious differences on whether to make it light or spicy.

Second, the lifestyle is different

The elderly have not experienced too little running-in between husband and wife, and each has a temper and personality developed over the years. Suddenly, they will find that their lifestyles are very different, their living habits are very different, and their living customs are different in details. All this leads to unhappiness, but it will breed a series of troubles. Especially for the elderly with strong personality, if they live together for a long time, there will only be more contradictions, not less. Moreover, there may be more lovers, and if they disagree, they will quarrel. In the end, they will either become the aggrieved party or the angry party. Therefore, it is risky for the elderly to hold a group, so they need to be cautious in heating. There is an unexpected gap between the imagined group heating and the real group heating.

Third, the mind will be unbalanced

Different elderly people have different interests. Since they are not husband and wife, they are not the same body of interests. When it comes to the economic expenses of daily life, no matter who pays more or who pays less, there will be disputes. Not to mention doing housework, some people are diligent and others are lazy. Since no one owes anyone, the inner balance of the diligent party will be out of balance sooner or later. As for the lazy party, it will change from habitual laziness to natural laziness, and will regard the diligent party as a free domestic servant, and often live a life of putting on clothes and reaching out. When they are not equal to each other, when they are unable to support the elderly, they will still become extravagant hopes if they want to get together and leave, and it is very likely that they will end up in discord. Since they are disappointed with each other, they will die of old age. It can be seen that the price of failure to support the elderly is the social circle with a decade of Skyworth coefficient.

fourth, I think for a long time, at least for now, this new way of "supporting the elderly by holding a group" is basically very difficult to really realize.

The main reason is that everyone's living habits, temperament, personality and so on are completely different. Maybe it is ok for everyone to live together in a short time, but after a long time, people are likely to have contradictions and conflicts because of these differences.

At the same time, different economic conditions and specific consumption habits will make it difficult for everyone to live and live together in the future. After all, everyone's pursuit of material life is completely different.

and the most important point is that most of the time, each of us has different views on three things, and people with different views on three things will not only be very tired, but also difficult to last long, because people with different views on three things are like parallel lines, no matter how far they go, they are not people on the same road, and there is no need for strong integration.

5. Therefore, if our old people want to realize this new way of providing for the aged, they must meet the following conditions as much as possible.

First of all, the elderly who are holding each other together to support the elderly must be open-minded, don't care too much about everything, and tolerate and understand each other more. Only in this way, the chances of conflicts and conflicts will be greatly reduced, otherwise, conflicts will often occur because of some trivial things in life.

Secondly, we can't say that the three views of the elderly people who decide to support the elderly together are exactly the same, but at least they should be basically the same. Only those who have the same three views can get along with each other for a long time. That's what the so-called "no common goal, no common goal, no common goal, no common road" actually means.

Finally, for the elderly who decide to support their old age together, it's better for them not to concentrate together in their daily life, but to do it separately. That is to say, everyone must have their own independent space and life. If they have to be together, they will be confined to chatting, entertainment and leisure. As the saying goes, "Distance makes beauty," and the same is true for the elderly.

Holding a group to support the elderly is a wonderful way to support the elderly, but it has many drawbacks. If other elderly people want to choose, they must be careful.

finally, I think: saving more money, paying attention to health, not worrying about children and not counting on them are really the best choices for providing for the elderly. Give up those unrealistic and beautiful "holding a group". Everyone underestimates the weakness of human nature!