Talk to your boyfriend about money before marriage.
Talk about money first, then talk about love. What is the RV/decoration budget? Who will buy it? Real estate license signature? If * * * contributes, what is the proportion and how to repay the loan?
How much is the bride's dowry given by the man? How much bride price did the woman return? Is the dowry for children or parents? When will it be given? Are there any other special local customs?
Wedding, wedding venue? How to distribute the money for the wedding? How is this money distributed? How many shows are there for men and women? What kind of wedding? How to deal with differences?
Debt problem, whether you are in debt before marriage, and how much you have not paid back.
How much does the maternity fund need to be deposited in advance?
Talking about money with your boyfriend before marriage 2
How to share family expenses between two people, and what are the fixed expenses? Such as utilities, mortgage, car loan, daily necessities.
How to save money/finance? Public account or independent account? What is the future work plan? Who is the main stock to make money? What if one party is unemployed and has no income? What if one party changes jobs in the city? If one party struggles for the cause, is the other party willing to compromise and sacrifice to support the other party? To what extent.
Interpersonal public relations, filial piety to parents, giving red envelopes to children during the New Year? What money to spend needs to be discussed and decided? I don't want the other party to interfere too much.
Talk to your boyfriend about your family before marriage.
Interpersonal relationship processing
Are parents against marriage? Still quite agree? Will your parents interfere in your later life? Is there anything you don't want your parents to interfere too much? Their opinions can be properly listened to in this matter.
Does the other family have a burden, and do you have other brothers and sisters who need help or support? Parents are in good health, do they have a pension? Do you need to provide financial and energy support for the elderly in the future?
Talking about providing for the aged and living with parents after marriage? Long stay or short stay? The old man will stay in a small house for a while. How to arrange and deal with contradictions? Where will parents support the elderly in the future? What are the ways to provide for the aged? How often do you go home to see your grandparents and parents? What should I do if my parents are sick? Did you take care of it? Hire a care worker? Or send it to a nursing home.
Talk to your boyfriend before marriage.
Talk about expectations and unacceptable places for each other.
How to get along, do you have your own independent space after marriage? Can I check the other party's mobile phone at will? The bottom line between the two sides? Can I date the opposite sex? How big is the space? Do you want the other person to integrate into my social circle? Do you need to give each other space and time to be alone regularly? How to distribute housework? How to maintain a family? Under what circumstances would you choose to divorce?
Who will visit during the Spring Festival? Or go home? How are you going to spend the important festivals? Need to make time?
How to deal with a quarrel? Who has the right to listen to whom? Or who swears first and apologizes first? After a quarrel, do you need to give each other space to calm down? No personal attacks and abuse of parents, no quarrel, no divorce, and differences can not expose each other's shortcomings.
Talk to your boyfriend about parenting before marriage.
Children may be the terminator of marriage.
When to have children after marriage, and when to have children after marriage? Do you want some? When do you want it? If you don't plan to have children in the short term, can both parties resist the pressure of their parents? Whose surname does the child take? Is there a preference for boys over girls? Who will take care of the baby? Will parents help? Or hire a nanny? Who will accompany me for every pregnancy test? Would you like to change the baby's diaper? How to confinement? Do I need to go to the Confucius Center? Do you need to ask for a new moon?
When will I return to the workplace if I have to deal with unemployment or income reduction due to childbirth? Still be a stay-at-home mom.
Children's education, children's future education planning? Who will lead the children's education? Who listens to ideological conflicts? Education fund reserve? Who sings a good COP? Who plays the bad COP?
Talk to your boyfriend about health before marriage.
Be sure to be calm and relative.
Physically and psychologically, are you willing to have a premarital examination? Is there a congenital genetic disease in the family? Have you ever had an operation? What are the medical histories of both parties? Including mentally? Pay attention to some major diseases, which are contagious and hereditary, and be sure to communicate in advance.
Are you willing to speak frankly about your sexual needs, preferences and fears? If I accidentally lose my fertility, is this still the reason to get married with me? How long do you think you can take care of one party if it is unconscious or disabled? How to arrange the family's economy and energy if the other party encounters a major illness? What's the worst case scenario? In this case, should we continue to be together?