In fact, in my province, I found a strange phenomenon, that is, in economically developed areas, such as provincial capital cities and second-and third-tier cities in the province, the bride price is really not much, usually 30,000-60,000, or less than1000,000, which means going through the motions. Generally, when getting married, the woman will take the money back to her husband's house intact as a reserve fund for a small family.
In rural areas or remote towns and villages, the amount of bride price remains high, often 200,000 to 300,000 yuan. You need a well-built building at home, or you can buy a new car only if you have a house in the county. Generally speaking, 7788, a young man needs at least 780 thousand yuan to get married. This money is also a big burden for ordinary families.
From this perspective, the bride price in big cities is very low, not too much, compared with remote towns or rural areas. However, you should not ignore another practical problem, that is, the housing prices in remote towns and villages are not comparable to those in first-and second-tier cities. The down payment for a house in a big city is enough to buy a house of 100 square meter in a small town, or to build a three-story building in the countryside.
This is a reality and a social conflict. A young man in Hangzhou encountered such a difficult thing. His girlfriend of eight years insisted on a bride price of 88,000 yuan even though she bought a house and paid a down payment. The two men froze, and he began to question his girlfriend's feelings for himself. Is an eight-year relationship worth the price?
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On February 20th, in a residential area in Hangzhou, Zhejiang, a young takeaway brother in blue overalls, holding a small red corner in one hand and a mobile phone in the other, was looking at the mobile phone and began to shout at a building in front of him seriously.
The content is as follows: XXX of 502, your boyfriend asked me to take a message for you. He said it's been eight years from college to work to love. My mother paid a down payment on the house, and your parents also paid a bride price, 88,800 points. Is that what our relationship is worth? I agree with my mother this time. If you really love me, you won't care about this little bride price!
Say that finish, little brother wants to turn around and leave, and finally don't forget to look back, looking for your boyfriend, not me!
That is to say, I am only entrusted to do things with money. If you have something to say to your boyfriend, leave me alone!
When the little brother shouted, an aunt pushed her baby girl past him. She said to herself happily, do young people know how to play now?
Netizens who love melons are afraid to miss the opportunity to speak when they see such a lively event. They leave messages in the comment area and hold their own opinions. Some emotional netizens even quarrel with other netizens with different views.
Netizen reborn bluntly: I am a man, this time I am on the side of the woman!
Come on, netizens: Is this the legendary sky-high bride price? Young man, go with your dear mother!
A female netizen said that the bride price was 88 thousand, and to be honest, it was really not much. Another netizen also said that 88 thousand bride price is too much, so 200 thousand or 300 thousand bride price may not be too much.
Another boy said that in the future, my girlfriend will ask for a bride price of 88 thousand, and I will wake up laughing in my dreams.
However, some netizens later retorted that you only saw the bride price of 88 thousand, didn't you see the house down payment that the boy said? In a new first-tier city like Hangzhou, the down payment for buying a house is several million yuan, and 200,000 to 300,000 yuan is used to buy a toilet.
To tell the truth, it is true that the down payment for housing prices in first-tier cities is one or two million, and it takes three generations for ordinary working families to buy a suite.
However, even so, some netizens retorted that the house was only a down payment, which I thought was the full payment. If there is no bride price, once divorced, the woman will leave home clean and have nothing. To put it bluntly, isn't a man just a white wolf with empty gloves?
I am also deeply touched by the enthusiastic comments of netizens. I want to express my personal views on this. If there is anything wrong, don't spray it. This is purely my humble opinion.
First of all, this man's behavior is not quite right, he is too impulsive. As the saying goes, wash your dirty linen in public. Such a thing made the takeaway brother help to announce it in public, and also named the surname. Doing so is obviously shameful, irrational and suspected of infringing on the woman's privacy. How will the woman behave in the future?
They are all literate people. Even if you break up, you have to be decent. Why do you want to discredit each other? By doing this, the man is really signing.
Second, the bride price of 88,000 is really not much. In my hometown, two married women get married, and the bride price is 1.8 million, while the latter is 1.8 million, plus two wheels. Therefore, the bride price below100000 is acceptable.
However, the premise is that the man has bought a house in a first-tier city, and the specific down payment of the house is not clear, but it is also an expensive expenditure. Ordinary working families can afford the down payment in first-tier cities and have spent almost all their money. Of course, the property is tens of millions, except for billionaire families.
Therefore, it may be that after the man pays the down payment on the house, the family really has no money or is in debt. If the woman considers this and is not easy to understand the man's family, she can skip the bride price or just go through the motions (one in a million).
Third: some people say that after eight years of talking, is the woman's feelings worth 80 thousand? These eight years of youth have been fed to dogs?
This is not true. Women's youth is valuable, but men's youth is not? Really love each other for 8 years, and they are all paying. Once we break up, no one's youth has been disappointed, each other. Finally, I have to say that feelings are really fragile in the face of cruel social reality. Eight years of love and eight years of anti-Japanese war, it is considered that feelings are stronger than gold. However, when faced with the 88,000 bride price, it will still be shattered and defeated by reality. What a sigh.
Maybe the woman's family just wants to win a sigh of relief. What matters is not the bride price, but the attitude of the man's family and whether he values his daughter. Love is a matter for two people, and marriage involves two families. I have to say that the intervention of parents is the catalyst for the end of this relationship.
Finally, I want to sincerely advise this man that if you really love your girlfriend, then you can give her 88,000 yuan as a bride price. In fact, she is caught between her parents and you, and she is also in a dilemma. As the saying goes, burning incense and worshipping Buddha, all 36 worshippers were knocked down. Is it the last trembling?
If you really love someone, you will feel distressed and unwilling to embarrass him (her) or get hurt. In this world, material things are important, but true feelings are the most rare. Don't let many external factors confuse your eyes and ignore the essence of love and marriage.