Marriage is the most important thing in everyone's life and the only way in everyone's life. If marriage is happy, then life will be happy. The relationship between the two is so inseparable, but many people still ignore the importance of marriage to life.
In fact, there are too many factors that can affect marriage. Many small problems are ignored by ordinary couples, but because they can't be solved in time, small problems accumulate into big contradictions. The outbreak of conflict shows that there is really a big problem with marriage.
Therefore, I have always suggested that problems found between husband and wife must be solved in time. Don't wait until contradictions break out, and then it will be too late to solve them.
In marriage, if both husband and wife can bear corresponding responsibilities, understand each other, understand each other and communicate in time. I don't think there is any problem that can't be solved.
In marriage, a man's responsibility is actually great, and many times it is his behavior that determines the success or failure of marriage. In my opinion, the most basic thing for a man in marriage is to ensure unity with his wife. Only when husband and wife are United can they face all the hardships in life. If we can't guarantee this, no matter how hard we try, it will be in vain.
Xiao Lu once had a feeling that if you met a man different from you in marriage, the marriage was doomed to failure. Because no matter how much you pay, he turns a blind eye. When you need him, you find that he is no longer with you. Finally, divorce became the only choice.
Lu Xiao's last marriage was like this. Her husband Liu Bin's behavior made her very sad. In the unbearable situation, Lu Xiao chose to divorce.
Lv Xiao and Liu Bin have been married for five years, and their married life has never been peaceful. The root cause lies in Liu Bin. As a husband, he is completely irresponsible, blindly subsidizing his family and neglecting his own family. Many times, even if you dig out your own small home, you have to subsidize your parents.
Liu Bin is such a filial person. In his mind, parents are the most important, and his wife and children are not important.
When Lu Xiao and Liu Bin just got married, people around Lu Xiao were not optimistic about this marriage. Because two people are not at home at all, Lu Xiao's family is OK, both parents are employees of state-owned enterprises, and Lu Xiao is an only child, so she has always been loved by her parents.
Liu Bin's family is very poor. His hometown is in the countryside, his parents are farmers, he is the eldest son, and he has two sisters and a younger brother. At first, his parents sent him to college. Liu Bin has been "feeding back" his parents since graduation. After working for so many years, I have no savings, and most of the money is paid to my parents.
Lu Xiao thought that Liu Bin would change after she got married, but after she got married, she found that Liu Bin had become worse. Not only does her salary remain the same, but she doesn't care about the expenses at home. She is all responsible for it.
Xiao Lu's salary is hard to support his family. Every time Liu Bin asks for money, he will lose his temper and say that Xiao Lu spends money indiscriminately and doesn't know how to save. Because of money, the couple always quarrel, and their feelings are getting weaker every day.
Xiao Lu never thought that she would worry about money when she got married. Before she got married, she had no concept of money. Her parents pampered her and never let her feel the taste of having no money since she was a child. However, in order to support the family after marriage, Lu Xiao can be said to have no money.
As the saying goes: but not as people who have been poor together know. Because of the money problem, there is a constant contradiction between Lv Xiao and Liu Bin. That doesn't count. After a year of marriage, Liu Bin took her mother over and said that she was helping to take care of Lu Xiao and the children.
The arrival of her mother-in-law made Lu Xiao miserable. Because of their different living habits and consumption concepts, Lu Xiao and her mother-in-law often have frictions. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting worse and worse. But Liu Bin scolded Lu Xiao blindly, because he was filial, so he didn't talk to his mother like this.
My mother-in-law has lived at home for nearly a year, and her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been in the same boat. Lu Xiao quarrels with her mother-in-law and Liu Bin every day, and she is exhausted.
Lu Xiao finally breathed a sigh of relief because her mother-in-law had something to do at home.
But not long ago, Liu Bin's parents had to turn over their house, so they asked Liu Bin for it because they didn't have enough money. Liu Bin didn't have enough money in his hand, so he went to Lu Xiao and said in a commanding tone, "My family is going to build a house, so you can help me save money together.".
Hearing this, Lu Xiao was very angry. Her small family is so poor, and you still want me to pay? I don't want to do this kind of "poverty alleviation" anymore!
So Xiao Lu refused directly, but I didn't expect Liu Bin to accuse her of being unfilial and selfish. Xiao Lu suddenly got angry, told all the grievances over the years, and reprimanded Liu Bin for all his actions.
Liu Bin didn't even know what was wrong, saying it was natural for him to do so, and there was nothing wrong with his son being filial to his parents. It was Xiao Lu who was wrong.
Xiao Lu's heart suddenly cooled down. She has nothing to say to this stupid and filial Phoenix man. She quietly packed her bags, took the children back to her parents' home, and told Liu Bin that she would get a divorce tomorrow!
In this way, Lu Xiao and Liu Bin resolutely divorced. No matter how he apologized afterwards, Lu Xiao was indifferent. She figured it out that being with such a man would only make her an dissatisfied wife. It is better to stop loss in time and start over.
Why does the Internet say that Phoenix Man can't marry? In fact, there are many reasons, but the most important point is that his family background is very harmful to marriage.
When a woman marries a Phoenix man, most of them will fall into the abyss of poverty alleviation marriage. Moreover, Phoenix Man has been reluctant to give up family of origin, resulting in a single heart only for family of origin, not for his wife.
In this way, marriage is prone to problems.
Therefore, it is suggested that female friends must not marry Phoenix Man, for their own sake and for their own life.