"Bucai" is commonly known as "Kancai". I used to be married, but on the orders of my parents, plus the words of burning coal, the man posted the girl's age through the media (the red post of the sun and the moon when sketching) and put it in the hall to predict the "top pick". For three or five days, there was not an accident of dropping a plate or pasting paper. Even if life goes well, you can find a matchmaker to propose to the woman's family. (At that time, the woman's family was definitely "carefully selected").

Some young men and women in Xiping and Lutian traditionally sing in tea gardens, such as:

(Male) Xiantao was born less than a month ago, and the fairy was born on the rooftop. There is a mother across the street, just roll your eyes.

Myrica rubra blooms. I don't know. Winter bamboo shoots will come out in August. The opposite husband Ruan has no love, and his eyes are free, not looking at this place.

Rejected "courtship" and:

(Male) Myrica rubra blooms unknown, and "chicken bun" (cockscomb flower) blooms in rows. A lady is born lovely and needs good flowers.

Female (virtuous) arrangement.

(Female) The sun is red. Where is Lang Jun from? Ruan, whose real name is * * *, said that she has the same love.

In the old society, singing and getting married was one of the special customs in this county.

The custom of engagement is "fixed", that is, engagement. Young men and women were matched by the media. The two sides agreed on a bride price, which is to send it to the woman's house another day.

Engaged.

The bride price was originally a formal entertainment. Before and after 1930s, employment was generally discussed in 300 yuan and 200 yuan. In the 1940 s, the currency depreciated and suddenly rose to five or six hundred yuan. After 1949, marriage was advocated, and marriage was sold and disappeared. After the 1960s, the trend of hiring money became more and more prosperous. Different regions have different discussions and agreements. Xiaopingpo Village 1000 to 2,000 yuan; Six to eight thousand yuan in mountainous areas, and more than ten thousand yuan in some remote mountainous areas. Before the 1970s, I realized that in addition to my spare time, I also talked about clothes, plate food and "meeting gifts".

Inviting guests is called "sending people's heads" The man informed the historian of the wedding date chosen by the media. If there is any objection, it must be raised within ten days or half a month, and it shall be agreed otherwise. Otherwise, it will be ready on time and the wedding will be held as scheduled.

The custom of cooking a dish is called "picking dishes". The wedding date has been fixed. Three or five days before the wedding, the man's family prepares engagement money and presents the woman's family with wedding documents, gifts and plates. After the Republic of China, the Marriage Certificate was simply used. Gifts are generally chicken wine, pork legs, noodles, Polygonum hydropiper, candy; Some add red eggs, rice paste or bread. Wealthier families often add delicacies and four-color dishes; Some have added local specialty teas. When a woman put a tray on display in the hall, she lit a red candle, told her ancestors, entertained her neighbors and distributed Polygonum flowers and candy, that is, her daughter was going to get married. Female gift: pig legs should have hooves and items should be left in pairs. In addition, Qian Yuan (lead money), brown sugar, ginger, taro seeds, sesame oil, rapeseed, barley and charcoal are prepared separately. They are wrapped or bound in red paper and put on a plate for use, which means "people arrive first, fate has not arrived" and "hot flame" is flourishing.

The wind of food and food, these two small burdens, four small burdens, have become four big burdens. After the 1980s, there were 100 kg of pork, 100 kg of winter rice paste, 100 kg of Polygonum multiflorum Thunb and 100 kg of red eggs in Changkeng and Gande. The Dragon Circle area needs hundreds of meat pies. According to local customs, trays should be paired, and sometimes dozens should be selected. The woman will give a red envelope when picking vegetables, and the man will double the gift of the "guest boy" who will accompany the bride tomorrow.

Second, marry relatives.

There are six and seven things to prepare for marrying a woman. These six major projects are:

People are destined to be money, brown sugar, oranges, and wax gourd. '

Legend has it that "Wei's" white shorts, four skirts, black towels, handkerchiefs, fans, gauze lamps, waist towels around the body (along with marriage) and navel skirts: inside.

Hide the bag and tie it around the bride's waist. Put rapeseed, taro, ginger, sesame oil, clay doll, charcoal and black, white and red lines in the bag.

Second; In the belly skirt, there are chicken wings, pig bones and pottery, a pair of chicken hearts and eggs.

The boudoir is equipped with a fire grill (fire cage), a pile box, a foot bucket (with marriage) and a urinal (which the bride takes into the sedan chair).

Textile families such as performance basket, shuttle, book, sacrificial tube 1 comb11are used to grind crops.

Add flower scissors to make scissors, bamboo ruler, needle, thread and cloth. .

Breeders are bred among provincial relatives, and there are public mothers. A man with 120 yuan was eaten (came back with his relatives).

Some also prepare special tea, and some broadcast special varieties of tea seedlings for marriage. For example, 9 Huang Dan in oolong tea is a special tea jointly cultivated by married women Huang Dan and Wang Dan.

In the past, in addition to clothes and jewelry, there were also deeds, bed tables and other utensils and coffins in the room, which were called "full"

Tang Hong ".

In 1950s, the new marriage law was promulgated, and marriage was very simple. Women got married without makeup. Some of them even accompanied them with hoes, brown stems and big hats.

This means industrious agriculture.

Seven things for a woman's family to marry a woman: five things before marriage and two things after marriage (within three to five days before marriage).

"Crying for life" is also called "crying for marriage". My daughter has been with her parents for a long time, and now she has to leave. It is inevitable to cry goodbye. There are also some people who, because of their younger marriage age, have to undertake heavy housework such as "chaff removal", rice husking, cooking, feeding livestock and weaving once they get married. And they are full of complaints and even cry and complain. The mother is also crying for her daughter, hoping that her daughter will marry the man (husband's family). .

Three or five days before a woman gets married, uncles and brothers will each cook a big bowl of rich snacks and ask her to get married as a farewell. This is called "going out to take care"; Married women should prepare gifts and red envelopes when they return to their relatives in the province at the beginning of their marriage. This is called "laughing at the door".

A few days before Kaimian marries a woman, she should ask a "Fushoudamu" to wring out the fine hairs on her face with gauze, which is called Kaimian or Wanmian, to make her face more delicate and delicate.

In the early morning of the "head" wedding, the bride first "heads" at her parents' house. The "longevity tree" invited by the mother and the "wedding sister-in-law" group, facing the ancestors under the lamp of God, led the "bride" to sit up and said to the wedding sister-in-law, "Sitting up is pain, and sitting in prison is a good husband." Thumb tied two locks of long hair to the girl's forehead, even three locks of hair to the back of her head, * * * five locks, tied into a bun (there is a saying called "three locks and five locks of hair", which means "knotted hair"), tied into a red bun, pinned on, and put on gold hairpin and silver inlay. Big or big, small or small, people and daughter-in-law are free from being taught, and it is the motto to serve aunt Weng with filial piety.

After the "summit" ceremony of the sedan chair, the bride was sent to get the farewell bucket (leaving her family's toilet and going into the room to urinate), then went out of the hall and asked her father to cover her with a black towel (fig leaf) before entering the sedan chair. Some fathers love money, their marriage commitment is excessive, and women are unhappy. At this time, they often seem unwilling to give up, but they also complain that they have caught their father's mind. Crying loudly, unwilling to get on the sedan chair, making parents cry, daughters cry, others feel sad, and crying all over the hall; After the aunt's persuasion, the mother covered her with a black towel, helped her daughter into the sedan chair, and the father sealed it (wrote the official title). If there is no official, write "innocent family"). This is a pair of gauze lanterns in front (following the trace of early people robbing marriage), with two dowry lifts, followed by a sedan chair, coming out of the gate. Just out of the door, my aunt, who often lives in the same room, swept in from the door behind the sedan chair with a broom and closed the door conveniently.

Before Tiger Head, the official married, some with red couplets, red umbrellas and "eight-tone blowing" in front of sedan chairs, and some with fairy maids for protection.

In front of the sedan chair, there are two uncovered sedan chairs, the bride and the nun.

The sedan chair is not far from home. Go to the ditch, call "fan", and the younger brother at home picks up the fan. Send a wedding invitation: "Good thoughts (things are homophonic with fans) come with the sedan chair, and evil thoughts' things' follow the water." This way. Then he walked away.

Two things after marriage: adding flowers. In ancient times, three days after marriage, the bride's brother was dressed up, and a "guest boy" picked a "flower bear" and put pollen, scissors, bamboo ruler, needle and thread and cloth in it. He went to the groom's house to add flowers (change flowers), and the man's house held a special banquet. When he comes back in the afternoon, the bride and groom and Weng Gu will give their new brother-in-law a "shirt gift". After the 1940s, it was gradually changed to the wedding day, and the bride spent another hour to "change flowers" after going out.

Mothering relatives, seven days after marriage (some 14 days), the bride mothering relatives, the common name is "married and returned", and a "brother-in-law" chooses a basket.

"Man Cai" accompanied the bride back to her mother's house for the first time (most of her son-in-law accompanied her), and her mother prepared a banquet for her. The bride gives candy and red envelopes to all the families who make "farewell" snacks when they get married as "opening smiles". "Gump" will only be born on dark nights.

(male).

Marry the boss: a man should go to bed at the right time first. If a boy turns over in bed, it is called "turn-over bed", which symbolizes the birth of "dry bed"

(male). There should be the best man and groom in bed at night to avoid sleeping alone.

In the early morning of the wedding, the gift of "climbing to the top" is to hang a red table skirt and light a big red candle on the Eight Immortals table under the "Tiangong Lantern" at the entrance of the main room.

Put a new bucket lamp on the table. Barrel lamp is a rice barrel wrapped in red paper, which is almost full of rice. A new wooden ruler and new scissors are inserted into the rice to fix the new mirror. In front of the mirror, the new lamp is filled with raw oil and soaked with seven grass cores, and the long "wax gourd" is used as the fire pick; On both sides of the lantern, there are a pair of glutinous rice-scented "full food" and paper "spring flowers" and "auspicious flowers". Between the mirror and the fire lamp, there is "wealth"

Treasure "(gold and silver in the town, more coins later). When "going up", light the fire lamp, and the layman helps the groom out and sits at the square table with the chair facing the ancestors in class. A long-lived elder in the clan combed the groom's head three times very carefully and said, "If you tie a bun on your head, you are all adults, big and small, and you are a gentleman, so you have a family from now on." "The groom enters the room with a bucket lamp, which is arranged on the left and right sides of the bed, opposite to the' hair cake', to avoid outsiders entering the room (especially tigers and rushes). The wick of the lantern is dry, and the groom has to fill it himself. No one else can replace it. The lights can't go out all night.

When the bride came home in a sedan chair, she stopped in front of the gate in a series of firecrackers, which means that the bride has been here since then.

As soon as people arrive at the auspicious time, the bearers enter the gate. Go downstairs from the lobby through the burning oven in the courtyard. The sedan chair went up the hall and inward.

Put it down. The groom took off the seal of the car door, kicked it with his left foot (commonly known as "kicking the car door") and opened the door curtain.

A brother-in-law (the groom's brother) ran a red light and asked the bride to get off the sedan chair. Fu Shou Damu is holding a "rice screen hat" (with the groom's trousers and a man's hat inside).

One each), cover the top of the car door, thumb and groom, send the bride off the bus, and the "rice screen hat" covers the top of the head and leads her into the new house.

As soon as people enter the room, they will step over the new tiles that have been laid on the window sill of the room, and put the rice screen cap on the bedside after entering the room.

The "Mi Xili" and tiles on the threshold imply the demise of the Ming Dynasty. Some orphans and ministers hope to "fight against the Qing Dynasty and regain their sight" and teach new couples.

The implicit meaning of "don't wear the day of the Qing Dynasty, don't set foot on the land of the Qing Dynasty" has become a popular custom.

When the couple entered the room, they closed the door and held a "wedding ceremony". The bride and groom sit opposite each other, and the wedding ceremony is called a bird towel.

The secular groom knows that he must step on the black scarf on the bride's head, so that the bride can be obedient all her life. The bride is ready.

Don't let the black towel fall to the ground, vying for "husband and wife to work together." Hearing the "bird-picking towel", I have quietly caught the corner of the black towel. So "pick Wu"

Towel ",often appear the groom pull, the bride refused to twist. In order not to lose harmony, the wedding ceremony softened their hands,

Read "Langjunhui, Madam' 1 Potential: (Xian), Wu Jin leads the way, children and grandchildren pass on their grandchildren, and everyone takes the lead". However, if you still can't bear to let go, read it again when you get married: "If you get married together, you will have a' next year' of' correction'. The bird towel is hidden in the groom's bag to guide the couple to sit back and change pills. Pick up the pills in the groom's bowl, wipe the groom's lips, then wipe the bride's lips and put the pills back in the original bowl; Pick up the pills in the bride's bowl and put them on the bride's lips, and then on the groom's lips, because everyone has eaten them. When changing pills, send a wedding to read auspicious words.

After changing pills, the bride and groom will touch their shoulders and kiss their mouths. In the past, the age of marriage was generally low, and the newlyweds were young and naive, so they were sent to get married.

The mother is responsible for hinting and inducing the life of the newlyweds. '

When the procedure of indoor worship of heaven and earth came to an end, they opened the door and led the bride and groom to the hall, where they worshipped heaven and earth first and then the landlord.

Worship your ancestors again, and worship face to face. In every process, I read Kyrgyz, which reflects my desire to seek prosperity and wealth.

Banquet: At the wedding reception, the groom's mother-in-law is the chief in the east of the hall. After the 1940s, the ancient practice of "changing flowers" was changed to "adding flowers" after the bride entered the house that day. Therefore, the new "brother-in-law" will be the chief of the East. Custom, new wedding banquet. This dish must be a "sweet pill". As a new "brother-in-law", my sister got married today, so she won't "reunite" and won't take "pills". For example, there should be another bowl of chicken leg noodles in front of her brother-in-law.

According to the convention, the number of seats in a wedding banquet should be double, and the seats should not be arranged in the open air.

When the banquet started, people were very excited. After a few dishes, the wedding sister-in-law took the opportunity to read a good tea on the table and "press the cup" for the guests after tea.

Money. At weddings, guests sometimes read "four sentences" for fun. In the past, blind people's wedding banquets were often accompanied by people who appreciated them.

After the 1940s, marriage gradually did not need to be given to the wife. During the dinner, the bride and groom offered tea according to their seats, but according to the custom, they held a small cup, so they didn't see it again. The next day (in some cases, it was the third day, in many cases), I sent my married sister-in-law to take the bride to see Weng Gu for tea. The groom called her one by one, and then the bride called her "dad" and "aunt". Aunt Weng received tea and everyone gave a cup of decorations. The rest of the family and relatives. "Please have a cup of tea.

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There are few new houses in the county. After the 1940 s, people began to make trouble with new houses. After 80' s, it was upgraded with various patterns: "Shuanglong grabs the ball", "Guanyin dripping dew", "the husband sings with the woman", "negative mother transition" and so on. Sometimes there are pranks and jokes. Make it inseparable. On the third day after marriage, I sent my wife to take the bride to the kitchen, commonly known as "worship the stove." Read the bride's every move.

Good sentence. Daughter-in-law was sent to teach the bride to call a pig, and then the bride called "Camp … Camp ……", and then she spread the food for the chickens and taught them to call a chicken: "I don't know,

Ignorance, ignorance, "the bride did, one by one. Then go out of the kitchen, look at the "earthen pot" at the gate, look at the loom in the hall, draw well water at the gate, look at the foot pot at the door of the house, and be familiar with the toilet in the corner. Every process has a good sentence. After the internship, I sent my married sister-in-law to her room to rest.

In the second year after the wedding, on the bride's "birthday", the father's family should prepare clothes, eggs and noodles to the woman's house to give birth to her children.

God, the government is willing to entertain.

Third, other marriage customs.

If both men and women are widowed or divorced, male remarriage is called "remarriage" and "second marriage". "All customs and habits are very simple. A woman who loses her husband or remarries after divorce is called "remarriage". In feudal society, widowed women should be widowed. However, if a widow has no children or daughters to rely on, she must get the consent of her husband's aunt and relatives, negotiate the price with the media, and pay the deceased husband's family before remarriage. But you can't go out from the front door, you can only go out from the back door or the side door, walk for a while, prepare a car full of "wine and food" rice in advance, arrange it on the roadside to burn paper, say "mourning" in the direction of burying your dead husband (commonly known as burning paper), and get stuck on the road with a comb (the equipment on the loom) (meaning that you have done your duty of weaving).

Dare not look back, turn a corner, continue to walk a short distance, and then continue to get married by sedan chair or bus. This family used to have children.

The person who marries his mother is called "stepmother". If a remarried woman takes her ex-husband's children, she is called "stepson".

In the feudal concubinage era, men often had more concubines. In the early years of the Republic of China, the powerful men in the county often occupied women with power and money and forced them to be women.

Concubine (commonly known as menstruation). Concubines have low social status. Guna's concubine is called "Nashu", which can't be equated with the right match. After liberation, monogamy was practiced.

Wife system, no one concubines. When a man enters his wife's house to take over his ancestral home, it is called "entering his wife". When you enter the adoptive parents' house, it is called "Zhao Fu". Others marry the daughter-in-law of their dead son, which is called "succession". If the child is born after the wife's adoption, if it is agreed to inherit two families, it is called "two-headed care for the second child". After liberation, it has become a new social trend to change old ideas and advocate men to settle in women's homes.

Child bride is also called "Miao daughter-in-law". Treat your daughter as a "Miao daughter-in-law" and marry her son when she grows up. Go back to your mother's house first,

Marry to the man's house according to the wedding ceremony; Some don't go back to their parents. Yu married his son upstairs early in the morning, but there are also sons and child brides who don't love each other at ordinary times and marry others.

Xianmaidservant In the past, rich people bought poor people's daughters as Xianmaidservants, some married rich people's daughters, called Xianmaidservants, and some married again.

Select a match. But the social status is low. There has been no such custom since 1950.

Sister-in-law's uncle is the death of eldest brother. Sister-in-law is still young and married to "brother-in-law". Traditionally, an uncle can't die without his wife.

Married my brother's aunt. '

Fourth, getting married.

Civilized Wedding In 1930s, there were a few scholars in Penglai, Hutou, Guanqiao and other counties, who borrowed schools or decorated halls themselves and held "civilized wedding" ceremonies. The bride and groom are all dressed up, and the master of ceremonies sings: (1) The wedding begins, (2) Joy begins, (3) The witness is seated, (4) The introducer is seated, (5) The guests are seated, (6) The officiant and relatives are seated, and (7) The bridesmaid introduces the new couple.

When the bride and groom are seated, (8) everyone stands still, (9) the witness reads the marriage certificate, (10) the bride and groom use their seals, and (1 1) they receive the certificate.

Wedding Party Seal, (12) Introducer Seal, (13) Wedding Party Seal, (14) Bride and groom exchange ornaments, (15) Bride and groom exchange ornaments.

Mothers bow to each other, (16) witnesses deliver speeches, (17) introducers and officiating guests deliver speeches, (18) the bride and groom thank each other (to.

Witnesses, introducers and presenters bow, (19) have fun, and (20) perform ceremonies.

After the wedding, there will be a banquet with the bride and groom as the guests of honor. I request a toast to all the guests. Some people get married for honeymoon trips and visits to places of interest. After the 1940s, several newlyweds also held a civilized wedding together. Weddings are more grand. Each wedding has its own host and best man, and local celebrities are invited to witness the wedding. But there are not many such group weddings.

After the age of 40, some weddings are no longer needed, while "going to the class and going online", "worshipping the public", "seeing the in-laws" and entertaining guests are still very common, but the style of "eating plates" is very simple. In some mountainous areas, people from poor families will hold a simple wedding ceremony on Lunar New Year's Eve, commonly known as "giving someone away as a stake", regardless of any ceremony.

After liberation, marriage between men and women can be registered as long as it conforms to the provisions of the new marriage law. From 1950 to 1957, regardless of the bride price, the wedding was simple and the social fashion was completely new. After the 1960s, the "engagement money" discussed relatives, so it relapsed.

After the 1950s, some brides stopped riding in sedan chairs and only carried an umbrella (to avoid the open air) and clothes.

Walk to the man's house. Later, I used a bike instead of walking. After the 1960s, sedan chairs were gradually replaced by three-wheeled and four-wheeled motorcycles. After the 1970s, cars were used to get married. Bicycles are still used in villages without car connections (the number of people on the wedding line should be avoided).

After the 1960s, more young men and women began to fall in love and get married informally, and some only took the bride and groom to the man's house. The bride and groom go to the man's house with the best man and the companion. It is becoming a new trend that men go to the woman's house to settle down and get married, and men accompany them to the woman's house. After 80s, the bride and groom adopted the trend of "traveling and getting married" in different places.