Talking about infrastructure:
1. What is the budget for the house, car and decoration? Who will buy it? If the contribution of * * * is the same, what is the proportion and how to repay it?
2. What are the local customs of bride price and dowry? What do parents think? Finally, it is a rolling fund for parents or as a small family.
3. Whether everyone is in debt before marriage. How much is left?
4. How much does the baby fund need to deposit in advance?
5. Who is in charge of this money? Who will manage the money, or each will manage his own.
6. How do two people share family expenses and what are the fixed expenses? Such as utilities, RV supplies, daily necessities.
7. What about the wedding? Where to do it, how many times to do it, and how to share the cost.
8. How much money you save every month can be used for investment.
9. How much do you spend on family entertainment every year for traveling, shopping and celebrating festivals?
10, interpersonal relationship, filial piety to parents, giving red envelopes to children in the New Year. What money to spend needs to be discussed and decided. I don't want the other side to interfere too much with the Natan people.
Talking about family relationships and interpersonal relationships;
1, parental relationship, whether to live with parents after marriage. Long stay or short stay.
2. Who will visit during the Spring Festival? Or go home.
Is there anything you absolutely don't want your parents to interfere too much? How can we listen to their opinions properly?
3. Does the other family have a burden, and do other brothers and sisters need help or support? Whether the parents are in good health and whether they have a pension. Whether it is necessary to provide financial and spiritual support for the elderly.
About the division of life and raising children;
1, who has the final say in family matters and who has the final say in small matters. Who is in charge? How to divide housework.
2, when to have children after marriage. Do you prefer boys to girls? Who will take care of the baby and whether the parents will help. Who will accompany me for every pregnancy test?
3. How to deal with unemployment or income reduction caused by childbirth? When to return to the workplace. Still be a stay-at-home mom.
4. Children's Education problem children's future education planning. The reserve of the education fund.
On pension and career planning;
1. What are the ways for parents to provide for the aged? How often do you go home to see the old man? How to arrange and deal with contradictions when the elderly want to stay in a small home for a short time?
2. What should I do if my parents are sick? Whether to take care of it by your side, or to hire a nurse or a nursing home. This will seriously affect the family's company time, income level and accounting stability. If one party is unemployed and has no income, what should be done?
What to do if one party changes jobs in the city? If one side wants to fight for the cause and eliminate disadvantages, is the other side willing to compromise and sacrifice to support the other side?
To what extent. Where to settle down in the future.
Talk about things that your partner can't accept:
1, can you check the other party's mobile phone? Can you keep a pet? Do you often socialize? What is the frequency?
2. What is the boundary of communication with friends of the opposite sex? How to spend important festivals? Such as wedding anniversary, birthday, etc.
3. What should I do when quarreling? Who has the right to listen to whom? No personal attacks and abuse on parents! What is the bottom line? What bottom line will the other party step on for divorce?