Statistics show that 98% of fathers believe that parenting is their responsibility and right, and they must not be absent. 97% of fathers think that they get along well with their children, 98% of fathers are satisfied with their children's growth, and they are also very happy after having children. 90% of fathers think that their support and payment for child-rearing have a better relationship between husband and wife.
89% of dads think they are competent and good dads. Despite the great economic pressure, 67% of dads will not affect their investment in child-rearing. This shows that dads in Taiwan Province Province can shoulder the responsibility of child-rearing and enjoy the fruits and satisfaction of child-rearing in addition to their investment, no matter how much they spend after giving birth.
Compared with my father's optimism, my mother said that she was "not at ease". In terms of parenting concepts and role matching, 85% of fathers think that their roles are well matched with their mothers, 83% of fathers think that their parenting concepts and practices are the same as those of the other half, and 83% of fathers think that they have the ability to take care of their children alone. If you can choose to be a parent again, 7 1% of fathers firmly say "absolutely."
Compared with mom's attitude, this result has a very interesting reaction. 87% of the mothers said that they would deliberately create opportunities for their fathers to be alone with their children, but 53% of the mothers did not trust their fathers to take care of their children and would always remind their fathers of the ways to raise their children. However, only 53% people choose "absolutely" to be a mother, 14% people said that they would never or probably never choose to be a mother again because they were "too tired! At the same time, I hope I have more space and time for myself.
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Most fathers rely on their mothers to raise their children, so they should be more active if they don't be pig teammates. 45% of the children's main caregivers are taken care of by husband and wife, 40% by mother, 5% by father, 1 1% by other caregivers. From the above, although my father is satisfied with parenting, he relies heavily on his mother to learn parenting knowledge. On the contrary, mothers will actively search for parenting information through the Internet, actively join parenting-related websites, participate in parenting communities, and read books and magazines. In order to obtain more in-depth and structured parenting information, this shows that parents have great differences in the initiative of parenting information intake.
Call on fathers not to be pig teammates on the parenting road, but to learn parenting knowledge and skills more actively, participate in children's lives more actively, and become auxiliary teammates on the parenting road for mothers.
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Mom should also learn to let go and enjoy the joy of parenting with dad. In this survey, we can find that fathers in Taiwan Province Province show a high degree of willingness and attitude to participate in child-rearing. No matter how worried he was about the heavy pressure of parenting before giving birth, he affirmed himself after giving birth because he participated in parenting. The more he devotes himself to parenting, the more he can enjoy the joy and happiness of parenting, and the more sure he is a good father. Zhang Xingru, chairman of Xinyi Foundation, is very happy to see that under the change of dad's parenting concept, responsibility and investment, behind the data of dad's high self-confidence and high satisfaction, he saw more support and intention from his mother. As the dependence of father's child-rearing, mother bears too much pressure and burden.
Why is there such a big difference between "father" and "mother"? You can see the clue from the parent-child companionship. For example, dad likes to take his children to the park, the seaside or hiking, but mom wants dad to study with his children most. Dad likes to take care of the safety of children, but mom wants dad to sleep with the children or get up in the middle of the night to take care of them. Dad will correct the child's bad behavior, but mom wants dad to deal with the child's anxiety or hug.
Xinyi called on mothers to relax and enjoy the happiness and sense of accomplishment in the process of parenting under the premise that parenting is the joint responsibility of husband and wife, and not to bear the pressure and responsibility of parenting alone. I also shouted to my father to make my mother happier. Being a parent is not only a change of concept, but also a division of housework and childcare. It's not that mom helps dad spend more time with his children, but that dad moves from passive "help" and "cooperation" to initiative, actively participates in children's lives with his own advantages and characteristics, actively studies, and accompanies children's growth with his own creativity and expertise.
The definition of father in version 2.0: giving full play to advantages, actively learning and actively participating in international study. It shows that the earlier the father participates in parenting and actively interacts with the child, the better the child's learning efficiency, cognitive performance, emotional stability, language, social skills and problem-solving ability will be. Early investment and high-quality companionship have a great influence on children's growth. Chairman Zhang Xingru said that new parents always have to learn while doing, but children's growth and learning can't wait.
While exerting their own advantages and participating in children's life, fathers should expand parenting resources, actively learn and absorb parenting methods and parent-child interaction skills that conform to social evolution. In the process of children's growth, they can enrich themselves through communication and learning, and guide children to a comprehensive development and positive and optimistic life with high-quality companionship and getting along.