Recently, Ms. Chen and her wife in Hangzhou have had differences on this issue. Ms. Chen believes that a little money reward can motivate a child to behave well, and it can also be used as a small goal for a child to behave well. Ms. Chen's husband is firmly opposed to this. He thinks it's not good to encourage children. At a young age, why use "power and money trading"?
Right and wrong, listen to your thoughts!
Money rewards children in various ways.
In fact, there are not a few families who like to reward their children with money now. Parents hope to encourage their children's good grades and behaviors in this way. Moreover, some families have refined and standardized this method and worked out various reward standards with their children:
1, cash reward system
If you get the teacher's public praise in kindergarten, children can directly exchange these achievements for certain rewards.
2, integral reward system
The integral method of not giving cash immediately has also become a means that many families are more willing to adopt. For example, children's good behaviors such as "going to bed at 9 o'clock on time" and "brushing their teeth at night" are listed in the reward standard column. Children can get small red flowers every time they complete one item, and they can get a certain cash reward if they get 30 red flowers a month.
3. Labor remuneration system
There are also some parents who adopt similar corporate management for their children's rewards and pocket money management. Usually, children are rarely given pocket money, but children can get paid through labor. For example, mopping the floor, washing dishes and watering flowers in family life have all become the contents of labor, each representing different rewards. Wages are settled monthly. If the task exceeds the high standard, they can get a certain bonus, otherwise they will be deducted.
Opinions vary: penny fans or coffers
Use money to motivate children, right? Many parents expressed their opinions:
Objection: Money reward will make children become "penny lovers"!
@ Hoh Xil: "Children do housework and do homework. I think it's all his job. If you do these things, you will get some money as a reward. Will he feel that he is helping his parents in the future? Not without money. It is not good to become a small financial fan. "
@KumYang: "I also used this method. In the past, everything of children was quantitatively assessed from morning till night, and rewards were given for good grades. At first, the effect was not bad, but after a long time, the child did not agree, so it would not work. "
@ 中中中中中中中中: "I think this kind of reward is not good, it is too naked. Will it be better to exchange money for children's favorite toys, amusement parks or travel? "
Pro: Why not give the child a "small vault"?
@ Blue Whale Lingling: "When I was a child, I wanted to buy a toy that I had long wanted, and I had to save pocket money for a long time. There is no other way but to ask parents for money. If you can get paid for doing housework or studying hard, your children will have some money to spend freely. "
@ Ivy 99: "I set up two funds for my children. The reading fund with good academic performance can be used to buy books and stationery, and the money from helping with housework can be freely controlled. Children especially cherish what they buy with the reward fund. "
@ Didi and Xiaoke: "Our family has not established a fixed monetary reward system, but there will be small surprises anytime and anywhere. For example, if a child sees something falling off the supermarket shelf and takes the initiative to help him pick it up, we will hold a' family commendation meeting' at night to reward him. She will put the money in the piggy bank until a certain amount is saved. If she wants to buy something, she can take it out with our consent. "
Money reward is not derogatory. There are more ways to motivate children.
In fact, the "money reward law" is very popular in western families, and "money" is not a derogatory term. When parents mention the word "money", they think it is too material and need not be too sensitive.
However, appropriate monetary rewards can encourage and affirm children's good performance, but if parents value money more, children will gradually learn these concepts from their parents. Therefore, parents should use the "money reward" according to their children's actual situation.
Preschool: You can "reward money"
1, for preschool children, it will be very happy to get small stickers, small red flowers, small erasers, etc. Parents can consolidate their children's good performance in this way, such as getting up on time and brushing their teeth well. But this kind of reward can be used occasionally, so don't rely too much.
School age: labor for pocket money
2. For children who have already attended primary school, the way of "money reward" can be gradually abolished and an allowance system can be established for children. Let children know that dressing, eating, brushing teeth and learning to do homework are their own business. If he wants to get pocket money, he can help his parents do some housework, such as setting the table, washing dishes, cleaning the room and wardrobe, and tidying the garden. Let the children understand that money is not easily obtained, but is obtained through their own efforts.
Try to use "virtual goods" instead of money.
3. In order to help children develop a correct concept of money and wealth, parents can usually turn the reward for their children into a compliment, a hug, an honorary title, a family outing, or even an intangible reward such as "a Zhang Cuo ticket". If you have to use materials, try to turn money into what children need, such as a good book, a badminton racket, a pair of roller skates and so on.
The best reward is acceptance, recognition and appreciation.
4. Children's world is simple and simple. The motivation they need is not their parents' money or the toys and snacks they buy, but their parents' heartfelt acceptance, recognition and appreciation.